Rest and a chance to breathe is SO important.

"Healthy" challenging of ideas is a good thing! If one can argue "well" without intentionally hurting OR taking constructive criticism too personally, they are living much better! That was so easy to SAY!

Many times "my mistake" has been that of "NO!!!!, We need to talk this out!!!"

How well do you do about letting things go until a better moment? (and I mean WITHOUT dwelling on "comebacks" or "winning")?

are you kidding dude!! I'm still pissed :loff my mom threw out my "blankie" ..

. I WANT MY BLANKIE BACK NOW.. ...lol..

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Im sorry, Im kind of distracted by the shirtless man in the pic,,lol


umm

yeah

I have work to do in walking away, I have a very strong sense of not starting stuff with people, but an even stronger sense of finishing when someone starts with me


I am most likely to get bored with arguing that seems to be just for the sake of argument,, and move on,,,

... and she threw it out just yesterday.

..lol... I knew that evil woman was lying to me.. she told me she threw my blankie out.... years ago..
.. I hope you took pictures (she is so busted..)..lmao..

Hmmm,...If you are talking about forums (and I don't think you are), I have learned to suck it up and move on...As much as I hate being "baited", I hate playing into someone's hand even more...BUT...If you are talking about real time, face to face action, if I believe I'm right, I'm standing my ground until proven wrong...If that happens, I have no problem owning up and apologizing...Time out is fine with me as long as it is understood we WILL address the issue in a timely manner....

Side note: Healthy challenges are tricky when both parties are emotionally invested and constructive criticism is ONLY as good as its delivery....

Waiting for a better moment is easy when you take the focus off of winning and place it on preserving the things that make the relationship work...

I like to agree to disagree...then go do something fun...

Winner!

Yay! I haven't won anything in a while...lol

Nice to see you, Leigh...beautiful as always....

Hehe...funny evolution.....was thinking all realms ...from world peace, romantic, platonic, ......whatever, just glad I got my nap!

^ Darn it... the world was at peace until you woke up.

Heck...I'll agree to anything, if I get to do something fun.

I like to walk away if its going to be a nasty argument until cooler heads prevail.

OMG,I think I totally agree with everything you said,no seriously,EVERYTHING,I feel the same way!!!

Assuming this question is about RL...

I don't sweat the small stuff and won't argue about things that are of small importance to me, even if I think I'm right. If it's about something of vital importance to me, I'll stand my ground firmly.

It probably wouldn't happen often, but she'd know something was up when it did, because I wouldn't normally be that argumentative...

Agree with this ..

I do think most people don't learn this until they hit 40 something ...
I've learnt a lot when I was with my narcissistic ex .. communication with him was like walking a minefield. Ironically enough it helped me communicate in better, healthier way..

The younger generation often is far more in touch with feelings and communicate differently than most of us did at that age. If I only look at my kids... They talk about their real feelings with more ease, less (false) shame and embarrasment. Maybe they don't have this need to compete & win as much anymore either?

A lot of arguments in relationships wouldn't even start if the man & woman were honest & open w/each other in the very beginning about their likes/dislikes (about everything from sex to finances & all the way to how long dishes & garbage may remain in stasis before needing to be taken care of), political views (someone may become nauseated & vomit while the other is watching Fox News), and most importantly where they see their lives going in the future (nothing's like the conversation that begins with either partner saying "so when DO you think you will want to start a family)LOL!

It's these fundamental divisions in thoughts, habits, etc. that make it impossible to "shelve" an argument to start with. Of course if there was complete honesty then the relationship might never have developed since one or the other would decide that this person was not for them. So...can't shelve an argument that should never have started between a couple not compatible from the start.

I agree op ...thats what all the professionals say ... talk when both calmer ... now do not follow someone... get in their face as you keep yelling at them or them you ... take your self away from that... take a drive or walk ..if u live together ... then come back when your calm ... then see what happens ...

I treat a date exactly what it is without commitments! In a relationship its different! There is a talking of expectations on both parts before Sex is approached!! Therefore nothing is hidden before the commitment! If this is not upheld in the relationship its time to part company (hopefully as friends) believe me not Friends with Benefits, That's gone Also!! SORRY!!

When times get heated it all depends on what and whom it is with.... I don't like arguing... I will state my thoughts and if we still disagree then it is time to step back and look at the situation again... At times if I find I jumped the gun I have no problem admitting it.....

But then if I feel I'm right I will take the time to prove my point.... if that does not work ....then I will agree to disagree... and walk away....