Hey, I actually understood all of that.

Guys don't dislike a girl because she is intelligent.
Guys dislike an intelligent girl when she is arrogant about her intelligence.

This i agree with; intelligence is great as long as you don't rub it in my face! That goes along with Beauty with intelligent Women! I look, I see , i hear!! Then is when the Dummest ,most ignorant Redneck Hillbilly comes out nomatter where i am!! You think Gomer Pile was stupid? You haven't seen me in action around a (Lady???) like this!! Damn and no second date? "Goooooollllleeeeeeyyy" didn't finish the First one??? ) You give me arrogance- i give you embarrassment in public (with class)!!

Well; that being said; I don't like anyone that is arrogant. Less intelligent people can also be arrogant. Just saying.

True.
But, we stupids often don't know we're doing that.
Smarties should realize they are being arrogant..and stop.

I think as adults we are quite aware when we are being arrogant regardless of the level of intelligence that we possess. Ignorance is no excuse.

in a world where the creation of intelligence is made a competition against others, insecurities are created and fostered since childhood so run deep, and create many cutters of others all around in abundance, which damage the psyche.

toast to a new era when such childish primitive notions are done away with for all in societal tier structuring, that created the intelligence wars, which will allow the genius of all to be equally nurtured and fostered for the happiness and betterment of the entire world as co creators.

peace

Okay, just playing Devil's Advocate here: Why can guys get away with arrogance and not women? If a male demonstrates great confidence in his intelligence, he is deemed as a strong leader. How come girls who know what they want and are self-assured are labeled as "bossy" or "annoying?" Don't get me wrong, I know plenty of girls who are like that, but most often, those qualities are excused in males.

In your OP, you state the following:



You claim that guys are turned off by your intelligence.

It looks to me that you are making an unproven assumption.

How are we to know that guys aren't being turned off by something else?

You are right, but the point of this was not necessarily to solve my relationship problems, but to open up a discussion on gender and how society views people differently depending on whether one is a male or female. I don't mean to cause an arguement.

what a great topic you brought up...

truly brilliant to post such...

for the ramifications of such are massive for an entire world.

anybody can "get away with" egotism and arrogance, if they know when, where, how and who to use it with...

as what is truly "getting away with it"...

such NOT creating what ONE WISHED FOR IT SELF.

but who in the world has all they "they wish for them self" by all their own words and actions...

but to create what one wishes for it self, anything would have to stop focusing on how others make one self "feel"...

to then learn how to wield all human attributes to gain the results, or actions of others, that one self wishes to create into existence...

but who's actually trying to "create" reality, when the masses have been taught most to live life trying to get others to not hurt their "feelings"...

such becomes in due time simply "avoid people who hurt self feelings", or put down, or mock, or jeer, or insinuate, or disrespect, act superior...

it has become the "modern way"...

and creates in due time a near total lack of insight into how one self is CREATING OTHERS TO FEEL, so hence creating their actions, so hence what one self is creating into existence.

but most will deny this, as to think such ways about it, creates too many ramifications of the self accountability for others words and actions...

but at the same time, to not will steal in due time nearly every ounce of all the "self power" to actually create what one self wishes into existence.

but most do not even begin to think of them self as "creating" other peoples actions into existence...

it is a totally foreign way of thinking to them...

for they deem them self the "victim" of many others who do not treat people well...

since the notion has been perpetuated to focus on how others are NOT making one self "FEEL" as it wishes, and to eliminate those
"who" are doing this from one's own life, be "the way" to achieve happiness and good success for one self...

it only put's one self on a gerbil wheel.

if one is looking for how arrogance and ego is excused in males, which it is "for some", than one will miss how it is excused in "some females" as well...

we have an abundance of egotistical arrogant celebrities male and female that many in the world who want to "be great" are following...

who can do and say near anything, and it is retold as "good" if they are in "good standing", or have "power"...

so at the same time this creates many many many to not see that they self will not be able to act and do the same, as they do not travel in "celebrity" social status and celebrity circles of power...

but deem such methods the way to "get there"...

so the entire world is filled with those whom may use the same tactics, but will NEVER work for them, to create any lasting success...

a very disillusioned society stares at their own "feelings"...

and deems them the ONLY tell of "reality"...

but to do this we then have 7.7 billion "different" realities...

with each one demanding "their feelings" be the greatest "tell" of valid reality...

and how can that be actually valid.

smiles

Try asking dumb people.
They have a different take.

Always. How else are you going to judge someone besides their looks?

The author of the OP assumes that men are put off by her intelligence, but she doesn't prove that to be the case.

That's where your argument fails; guys do not "get away with" being
arrogant. If someone demonstrates great confidence in their "intelligence" they are usually not deemed strong leaders. They are deemed egotistical and arrogant no matter what sex they are. Strong leaders lead by getting the best out of the people around them not by claiming they are better than everybody else.

Well liv_k, I can play "devils advocate" as well. First post and all that so why not?

Referring back to your original post and bearing in mind your last one. It seems you are linking self assurance and intelligence. I would suggest that one is not a prerequisite of the other? They may perhaps frequently walk hand in hand, possibly because an intelligent person is likely to have a good understanding and mastery of their environment but certainly not dependent on each other.

Personally I find intelligent people much more interesting and if that is linked to kindness and compassion I'm likely to like them. If they can hold a good polite, respectful conversation, then I'm likely to spend quite sometime passing the time of day with them.
If we have similar interests then phone numbers and emails could well be exchanged.
If that person happens to be a woman and we find each other attractive, then I find it a real "turn on". Personally I prefer to be in the presence of a self assured person who is free of dependence.

As for all the "head games" - just not interested in such "needy" people. It's easy to cut through all the crap, just by remaining self assured and centred within.

I personally find an intelligent woman very attractive If you want chivalry show me your heart and mind.IJS

Do u have a small wood and lots of pictures translator when you talk? Jk naw it doesnt matter none what other people say tell them to bleep off. Its their problem and I like a smart girl..I need her to read menus and balance money for me lol jk I am a country bumpkin but I aint that dumb..still book learned is sexy to me :-)

Do u think girls dislike guys sounding smart on here?

I gotta go pee..