Well liv_k, I can play "devils advocate" as well. First post and all that so why not?

Referring back to your original post and bearing in mind your last one. It seems you are linking self assurance and intelligence. I would suggest that one is not a prerequisite of the other? They may perhaps frequently walk hand in hand, possibly because an intelligent person is likely to have a good understanding and mastery of their environment but certainly not dependent on each other.

Personally I find intelligent people much more interesting and if that is linked to kindness and compassion I'm likely to like them. If they can hold a good polite, respectful conversation, then I'm likely to spend quite sometime passing the time of day with them.
If we have similar interests then phone numbers and emails could well be exchanged.
If that person happens to be a woman and we find each other attractive, then I find it a real "turn on". Personally I prefer to be in the presence of a self assured person who is free of dependence.

As for all the "head games" - just not interested in such "needy" people. It's easy to cut through all the crap, just by remaining self assured and centred within.