Depends why you feel that way. Can be that you're not ready yet, for me it's also that I need a lot of 'me' time.

How to deal with it, I still find it tricky. I would like a partner, but am also wary about losing my freedom, all the things you've mentioned.. I'm quite sure things will feel different when I fall in love.
Probably best to take it slow when you meet someone you like?

I would like to share things, dinner together would be nice. And I'm beginning to miss good conversations a lot these days.. But even if I would be in a relationship again, I'd still need my 'me' time.
I need that time to recharge .. Doesn't mean I have to literally be on my own. As long as the other person isn't in my energetic space so to speak, but leaves me be and lets me do my thing. So no nagging or claiming, not even unspoken claiming, that would drive me nuts!

Sleeping with someone would be nice.. unless he snores. What if he does? I SO hate being woken up a gazillion times a night cos someone snores..

You know wot! Sod relationships, lol.

well...if your single thinking only about yourself isn't selfish...I would say independent...wouldn't say hard unless your avoiding others to avoid being hurt...unsociable...mmm...no...more like unattached...if your still out enjoying the company of others...the way my life is I couldn't devote the time and energy to a relationship...it would be selfish if I tried..it's difficult to find a "partner" that would want to or be willing to put up with being basically a
"side dish" on my plate of life...expecting that out of someone would be out of line...but casual dating as long as your up front with them about your choice to remain single puts the ball in their court...making you considerate...
Lol...sounds good to me anyway...

yes snoring can do that to a person..
my ex and I hate to admit this! snored..like a truck driver... often wanted to snuff.. her out with a pillow..lol....
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No1phD your depressing threads always make me remember my ex and all her memories come flooding back

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I know Romeo... but it always can't be butterflies and puppy dogs.. and rainbows...lol.... and some of these topics give people the opportunity..
to talk about, and explore their feelings and emotions.. rather than keeping them bottled up inside....
but I promise my next topic will be...
.. a little more .. on the fluffy.. side of things..ok..

You are a very strong determined Woman and Fight as i do to keep others from helping! I have been told by an Orthopedic Surgeon that its only (time) until the other 2 tendons attached to my sholdersocket (will)release leaving it immobile!! Without these tendons a replacement is useless! Lets face it,if it could be fixed i sure as hell would work my A-- off to Make it Better! Facts are Facts, i've got to Adapt to the situation as time goes by as it Releases Completely! I'm fighting to contain what's left by asking if a bolt or screw can keep my sholdersocket in place will slow down the stress on the last 2 partial tendons remaining! If this wasn't the case i Would still be Driving Trucks Professionally! Just saying!

My ex didn't snore, ever .. till he quit smoking A grizzly in distress couldn't compete with the noise he made ..

Sorry to hear this Graywolf. Unfortunately; some injuries are serious and can't be fixed or even heal properly. My brother is suffering from a rotator cuff injury and it will not heal. You are right though as I really hate asking for help. My friends get very mad at me for that but I always feel like I am burden on them. About a month ago; I was trying to move a trailer wall for my chalet trailer; lost the grip, and it came crashing down on my head which broke the window. No really damage other than a few cuts on my hands and a bit of a goose egg which gave me a headache for a couple of days. I consider myself lucky that I could recuperate from the accident although I do have chronic pain in my knees which is very minor as I constantly work out to lesson the pain.

Navygirl how did your brother get the rotator cuff injury?

He fell off a loading dock at work. Add to it that he didn't take good care of his health; he made it so bad that it can't be operated on.

Ouch that must be painful....that is such a delicate muscle and can easily be injured...
but there are excercises to strenghten it you know and make it heal through specific excercises and it can heal through that

Know the feeling navygirl. Seems like you ask some to do anything it takes forever for then to complete the task! Or you hear Complaining until you give up and do it yourself! I feel for your Brother and hope him a recovery of his Shoulder. Things either workout or you make them work by yourself!! And You Don't have a Heart of Stone as you have stated!! As far as i see you Are a Good Lady ,and Friend!! Yes a flower and a wink with a big wolfhug!!!

I know and if my brother had originally listened to my doctor; he might have had a chance to heal it. My brother is overweight, doesn't exercise, eats poorly, has diabetes, lost almost all his teeth, had three heart attacks, and one stroke. Guess what; he is still not taking care of himself.

Hummm I have been single so long I don't worry over little things.... Paying the bills, raising two kids on my own ect is all a part of life.....

Grocery shopping or going places alone does not bother me I go to the movies and go out to eat alone all the time...I found that sitting at the bar of any Restaurant is the solution when alone...There is always someone to talk to there for most are alone themselves... If not it seems everyone talks to each other...

As far as the movies...well I'm not into the chick flicks I like the action movies... I prefer alone so I can watch the movie...

I go out with friends to the clubs there is always others in the group that are alone as well...

Only time it really bothers me is like New Years Eve or where you are the only single one in the group then it would be nice to have someone else.... Other then that I'm good with the way it is...

I agree with what you said about someone taking forever to complete the task. I have had this problem with previous boyfriends and I end up doing the task myself. They get upset and scream emasculation but I found it unfair for someone to hold me hostage to their whims. I have always thought it was a horrible mind game that these men play with me and it frustrates me. You are kind to me but there are a lot of factors that contributed to me being the way I am but not going to discuss that here on this thread. Sadly; my brother will not recover from his injury but having a few days off from work; I am able to go to his place and do things for him that he can no longer do. It also is a good chance for us to have a coffee and chat.

Most trials in life are done alone. Private people don't notice it often.

....this^^.. is all I heard...lol...mmmm... love a woman that can take care of it .. herself..lol..jk

Being alone is ok until it's not. If everyone around you is coupled up & happy, naturally you do think "wtf is wrong w/me, am I undesirable (maybe more so if you're female)". However if you have a huge group of single friends & there is always something to do w/them on the weekend...you don't miss a RS so much. It's when you see the gradual "disappearance" of friends as they get into their RS's & stop hanging out w/single folk (which is normal), that you begin to get that feeling that you are definitely missing something.

I've been to the movies alone, it's cool unless you sit in the back thinking you won't be bothered but that's where the teens/20's sit in order to make out/do everything short of penetration...tip: also don't go the 1st 2 weeks the movie's out.

Dinner in a restaurant alone: tricky - w/your tablet or whatever device you can eat your meal w/o even looking up at all the other paired up diners but...what was the point in going out to dinner then - might as well have stayed in w/Mac-n-cheese? Also, here in NY waiters don't like single tables - less tips for the same work.

Never been to a bar alone...I know women do it but I'm old fashioned enough to think it does make you look like a target for all the drunken men to hit on.

Also, in the end...is alone & happy better than being out w/someone or worse in a RS w/someone & wanting to be single again? If you're w/your SO & looking at everyone else thinking they are happier...you SHOULD be single then & available for the right person.