Really like my job, but sometimes want to quit. The very minute. Because of my boss. One of two things I would change immidiatelly in my job.
He doesn�t really knows what�s all that about. But he behaves as a little Napoleon. And I get a "slap" if I�m too iniciative and save things - just because he didn�t know every my move.

How do you handle with such a boss?

I had a boss like that years ago. Some short men have that insecurity and try to compensate by acting "large". I learned that the best way to handle him was to always be prepared in your work and to "kill him with kindness and professionalism".

It would actually frustrate him. Haha

The best was he had a huge car...which only made him look smaller..it was comical..

I don't know what you mean by "slap".. if it was a verbal slap then that's one thing.. thick skin is all you need for that. A physical slap would have been met with him getting slapped all over the office... professionalism goes right out the window at that point

He sounds like a "Micro Manager", also known as a "Control Freak". Their egocentric ideologies cause them to not trust your work or your decisions in the work place, so they second-guess everything you do. I have had bosses in the past like yours, but I also have a habit of standing up for myself. I approached them in a civil and professional manor and discussed their distrust in my decisions and/or work. If you are a valued employee I think you will find your boss willing to discuss this issue. Do this when you are not mad otherwise "being civil and professional" goes right the window. Good luck with your decision on how to approach this problem.

Give him plenty of pats on the head.
Reassure him that he is "a good boy".

... and feed him a treat.

Hi Seacoast.

Your boss is being childish. How do you handle a childish boss when they are in charge of you?

They aren't in charge of you. Nobody is. Power is an illusion.

Employment is a contract in any democracy. Laws protect you from slavery. Employment is not indentured service (slavery).

Some employers don't know that, but the law is on your side. This they know.

You must learn to act like you are in a contract. You have equal power to any employer. If an employer tells you to do something you don't want to do, you can say, "No." And the most he can do is tell someone else to do it. He can get someone else if you don't want to do it. He can't yell at you, threaten you, intimidate you, or do anything except ask someone else to do it, and dismiss you but then he needs to explain why you were dismissed. If it is because you didn't bow low enough, or act weak enough, or be scared enough, then you can sue.

Employment is not slavery. You are always the boss. What you do is agree to perform employment related instructions and undertake agreed duties. If you don't like them, he cannot point a gun at you and make you do them. You can laugh, and say, "get someone else to do that". And there is nothing he can do about it. Except dismiss you (sack you). But that's irrelevent if you don't want to do something, you don't do it.

You have all the power.

Now as to the question of being invaluable, so that an employer would rather negotiate with you than dismiss you for someone else, that comes down to how good you are at your job. Always be excellent at everything you do, and you'll be better than 90% of workers by default, because honestly, 90% of all workers can't wait until they get home from the moment they get to work. They don't apply themselves, they don't strive to excel in everything they do, they just want to watch tv and get paid. So it's a pretty low bar to be invaluable to any employer in any industry.

Again, you have all the power. That's the law.

I don't have that problem. All of my bosses are female nurses. It is just one honey do list after another.

I've worked under female nurses. At one hospital ER the charge nurse was nicknamed "the Bull" which gives you an idea of her personality. She would instruct us to restrain a patient for psyche review because they called her names and sounded aggressive. Then an actual doctor would come along and tell us it is illegal to restrain any patient unless explicitly ordered by a qualified doctor, and we could be charged with a crime for following those instructions.

That's where you learn the real boss in any job is you, because when things go south, you're the only one who has to pay the consequences. And "my boss told me" is often no excuse in a court. You must know the law even if you don't know the law.

So the law treats you as if you're always the boss of you. So everywhere, all the time, in any job, and at home, you must be your own boss. Because you are. The law says you are. The law will lock you in a prison because you are. So you are.

If he's physically or verbally abusing you, start keeping a private log of all the actions he's taken. Record EVERYTHING that transpires, including dialogue! Much like military commanders keep a journal of their actions, so that if questioned about their actions later, they can produce their side of what happened and how it was perceived.

I am not familiar with the laws on your part of the rock, but there are probably protections written to prevent abuse of employees. Start researching.

IF you need to go legal, your journal (with dates and times) will help you. Even if only to approach HIS boss to address HIS antics. Always follow the money trail. If your boss is the owner of the company, then as a backup plan, start preparing your resume to approach his competitors. You may need to change to a new environment.

If you can't keep a written journal nearby, set up an alternate email account and email yourself the detailed notes. Use a web based mail client so that nothing is left on your terminal. Clear your browser cache nightly before you leave.

I am the boss.. NOW GET BACK TO WORK BEFORE I FIRE YOU....lol..

... And pick that piece of paper off the floor.... I would do it myself but afraid if I bent over.. somebody would screw me...lmao

When I had bosses like that, I ignored them and just did my job. They would get pissed but couldn't do anything about it because I was doing my job, eventually they would back off.

Just kick him in the bells.

It'll bring his over inflated ego down to his knees quick.

May cost you your job, but what the ell, you don't like working for the guy anyway right?

Try this, usually does the trick

Do you make his coffee ???

Funny

extreme validation of the napoleon back the napoleon into the tiny corner that all that exists is what it self created, without one self ever needing to say it.

if you need money, you are pretty much slave to the conditions the employers dictate,,,however hey dictate them

at least , that's been my experience

just focus on the upcoming paycheck , and if its bad enough, work on getting your own promotion to get from underneath that individual

If the boss is that short, then perhaps he is underneath her.

short boss in a huge car with big ego - you really made me laugh. well, mine isn�t short but has such an ego - one wouldn�t belive. but it�s probably because he was a secretary of the main director and he made him to be director of our part of the organisation - we�re nonprofit organisation and there are several departments oriented on different projects. Each of them has its own director and above them is the biggest boss. and he�s so, but so afraid of him that we must laugh, but on the other hand he�s sometimes so disrespectful toward us, yells, sometimes even behaves as a normal human being, but if there is any problem, he�s totally stressed and everything�s wrong and everybody is to blame. this week the main thing is that he doesn�t understand what we all do. well after a year and a half maybe a little . so in past two days I got several verbal slaps because there was a real problem. And finally he wanted me to solve it - it�s about databases, I�m not our IT, not even our two ITs knew what was the problem. So I expect a wonderful end of the week tomorrow