Excuse me if this has been posted before or it's in the wrong part of the forum feel free to move it.

I am sure i am not the only one that hates the dreaded words "So tell me a little about yourself" i would love to hear from you lot what are your views on it, is it a negative thing, does it make it look like people put little or not effort in writing to a potential match you get the idea.

VIEWS!!! on the subject :)

Its hard to tell someone alittle about yourself, usually I just give them my first name and where I live and maybe what I do for work, there is a lot to tell but that should come after you decide its worth the effort to get to know somene. And it should take some time not all at once

My views on the matter

I am 50/50 when it comes to this and have used this a few times but i will elaberate on the subject.

If i come across a potential match but her profile is empty then generally i will ask her for a chat and compliment her and if the first message works then generally i will pop in the line. So tell me a little about yourself such as your interests, likes & dislikes. I only use this if the profile is empty it's only natural to ask if they couldn't of been bothered to fill out their profile. Sometimes some potential matches reply with the words "if their is anything you want to know about me ask me" that irks me greatly when they say this as i already asked them to tell me about their interests why would i repeat the question again lol.

I always keep my profile with at least some information about me so a potential match can see if i am the type for them and if they send me the so tell me line i always get the feeling they didn't bother reading my profile at all.

Yes this does work both ways and can be infuriating when people ask me the question and can be the same when you have to resort to this or a similar question to get to know a person. Of course you shouldn't tell someone everything about yourself on the first message as their would be nothing left to talk about on the date if one happened so i do understand from that point of view. I have come across this discussion on many dating sites it seems and it sounds like a taboo line to use or mention in the dating world. :P

I have used it several times...Sometimes I use it when I suspect a scammer, sometimes I use it because I really want to know more about the person...Welcome wildflower!

Well if anybody wants to know about me, read my profile, and my posts in the forums.

my reply is what would you like to know.
if they ask obvious questions, I refer them to my profile.
if they start a good conversation, there's a chance we'll have something to say to each other .
welcome and good luck

You're such a hard azz Green!

(((((Ana)))))

I generally just give some minor details, not in my profile.
-How long I've been out of prison.
-How many illegitimate children I have.
-What incurable std's I have.

Just the little things.

What!!...You don't give your cup size?

Yes, reading the profile and their responses in the forum is one way to read the mind of a potential partner.

A fella has to keep a few surprises.

Quote from Audlove515:


This.

Sometimes (read that as often) you can tell more about someone by what they write on forums and to others than what they say about themselves.

You would hear me laughing.
All the way to Wales.

Thank you Leigh, I've got to keep up the tough guy routine.

Does Fleta know this??