Single moms have total control of the baby making oven. By law once a baby is conceived a man has no say so.

Maury Povich to the rescue otherwise child support for 18 years.

Spoken like someone who has paid a lot of child support!

Coming to terms with dating a person whos kids arent your own is a challenging thing
For me, if the single mother didnt feel the need to put her children first in most circumstances, I would not date her anyway.
If u like the mother and want to be a part of her life then u try to get to know the kids and they will usually accept the fact that u date their mum
YES it is more difficult but thats to b expected and dealt with over time

I find it a bit pointless to even talk about it here.
it seems like people have their mind all set and no one is gonna convince anyone so only reality may change ones mind

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mothers don't have total control of babymaking,,,it takes sex between a MAN and a WOMAN,,,

unfortunately, it has to take the first nine months in the shelter of the females body

true, its like discussing whether one should bother dating a man who looks after their parents,,,

in the end, the issue is whether we want someone to be all about us all the time or whether we are able to respect them having responsibilities to others which may keep that from being possible,,,

that was probably the smartest quote I've read in this thread as of yet!!!

Only a selfish person would care if another has kids.

Love is unconstitutional, problems can be solved.

it's not exactly precise
a selfish person would have a problem with his girl just a well not just with the kids.
but it's more like being able to share more of himself or bare the responsibilities that comes with it
there are pluses and minuses in everything, to some the minuses are just bigger in a situation like this than the pluses
and to some it's just the opposite
it really depends how you look at it
personally I think one could gain a lot for such a relationship if both partners are giving each other their %100, but that's just in any kind of relationship really.

6 Reasons to NEVER date a Single Mother

Post by Older Bachelor on Dec 13, 2004, 7:40pm


Single mothers. Well, here are MY issues with them (This pertains to a woman who had a kid and never married, or divorced her husband because “She wasn’t happy”. If she had a good marriage and he died, there might be wiggle room, but I still wouldn’t date her).


1: She decided to have a kid without a husband. This demonstrates terrible, selfish values. It also shows that she thinks of men as sperm donors and child support payers, NOT husbands & fathers. What will happen if you knock her up? Get ready to pay up for a kid that you won’t get to be a real dad to.

2: In some states, you can be responsible for child support by just living with her. I don’t want to pay for kids that aren’t mine. Do you? Law of estopel - check your state

If you spend enough time with the kid and form a bond with him/her, the law may consider you a 'father figure', and therefore responsible for helping (i.e. pay de facto alimony) to 'raise' the kid.

3: False allegations of child abuse. It isn’t likely, but I don’t want to take that chance. Getting branded with a big “M” on your forehead (For Molester) will WRECK YOUR LIFE. It will never go away. Too big a risk.

4: Relationship aren’t easy as it is. Add a minor child and it really complicates the issue. Do you want to deal with her kid(s) too? You won’t be their dad and they will know it. Their mom already messed
up their life by not having a dad for them, and is ****ing it up more by bringing in “Revolving door boyfriends” into their life.

5: Lots of single moms have financial problems. You will be obligated to help pay for sitters, food, braces, on and on. For children that aren’t yours. Get the credit card out!

6: There is NO reason to date one. Millions of women in this country are single with no kids, and in every age range. Go younger if you have to. Don’t waste your time with a woman that has PROVEN that she doesn’t want a husband for her and dad for her kids. Do you think she will change her mind for you? That she will forget her utter contempt for husbands and fathers just for you? Sure she will.

more hogwash,, sorry

for some reason it keeps being ignored that MEN have a part in these choices too

my advice for women is not to date men who have such an obvious contempt for women and children that everything becomes the womans fault and men are just victims of women who might actually have standards they wont settle beneath,,,

let it go already, to be honost if there was missing single mothers in yur area , you would be the first person of interest on my list JMO

this is crazzzzy...

This thread is offensive to most women on this site. Most are single moms. Please let it go!

smh
my advice is to not make so many ASSumptions about how or why a woman had children

relationships FAIL, period, some people SEEM like one thing in the beginning and end up being something different after children

some MEN don't turn out to be the fit fathers LOVE caused someone to believe they would be

if HE didn't want children ,did HE use a condom? Does the pill always work? would abortion be the better and more respectable action to make someone dateable? Do guys never LIE And MISLEAD About their intentions and feelings? Are women 'whores' for not being fortunetellers who can know the future of their relationship?


sounds like there are a lot of personal issues at the root?,,, if one has convinced themselves that being pregnant or parent is the same as being untrustworthy and slutty, one should probably stick to the childless virgins,,,,or maybe those who are comfortable with abortions

instead of those who may have the standards to know that they are worthy of the same respect and satisfaction that MEN seem to feel entitled to and who may feel the freedom to be the kind of 'whore' who doesn't have a problem walking away when something becomes abusive and/or unhealthy for them (and as a result) and the children,,,

Some single moms are offensive with their irresponsibility and are trying to trap men. Are we as men supposed to ignore this because it is against a single moms game plan.

This being a dating site should not censor a mans point of view.

well at least this one didn't lump ALL single moms together,,,,

Id�e fixe?

Some women took this topic very personal to the point of sending me hate mail. Hey look its just a guys perspective on life from his own experiences.