do you think premarital abstinence is a negative attitude?

Did Cowboy specifically say it had to be "marriage" for him to be intimate, or just that it has to be someone who shares his values about intimacy and loyalty? I suppose it's best to ask him the latter question

Speaking down to someone from a moral hilltop is no different than premarital sex...

The only person you have to answer to in this lifetime is yourself..

Not saying that I've been perfect with this, but am proud or I guess happy to say I've only been with 2 women and plan to only make a third after marriage. The moreso correct way would be just purely through marriage, but unfortunately it's something I've already done and can't take it back lol.

OMG you actually can say something smart

People should never talk down on another. People are people, we're all different, different thoughts/beliefs, different feelings, different ideas, different morals, just flat out different in every way. No one is particularly "better" then another, again just different.

didn't say his abstinence is negative, how can you read that into it? what i said is that some of his views on sex are negative.

and if you read it again, i specifically wrote that he does NOT say anything about marriage. which is what prompted me to reply to David.

Hell of a thing isn't it...

just remember most of us do not view like you and no one is in the right or wrong. you may not mean it but sometimes you sound like you look down on those of us who do take sex into account when choosing a partner.

if your not attracted to him it wont last. he could be the sweetest guy in the world but if you do not feel anything for him it will most likely end badly. As someone suggested, tell him you'll go on a date with him. That evening really talk to him about what he wants , what he expects from a relationship, then at the end of the night kiss him. if theres no spark, sit him down and explain that you adore him as a friend, but thats as far as you could ever see yourself going. you dont want to corrupt your friendship by dating and it ending badly then never speaking again. However, you could say no now and there would always be this "what might have been" thought. better to know and try than go forever never knowing.

YES! Yes it is. I almost fell of the bed when I saw that.

There is absolutely nothing negative bout sex rofl, just the way some people practice it and or partake in it. But ta'each their own, we're just in a forum sharing and expressing our different feelings towards or belief of certain different subjects.

I truly do apologize for that, don't mean my statements to come across so belittling or belittling at all. Again, I do apologize. My comments aren't specifically towards a person so to speak. Just words in response of words on a general note.

exactly what i was origginally trying to say (before getting distracted) only you worded it better.

yes I know (what you said about marriage). I can say what I said because I do not think opinions that differ from mine are negative, or because someone wants to wait for sex (says "no" for example) is negative. Sex can be very negative tho if done with the wrong person and is not a good experience (and I digress).

I don;t see his views on sex as negative so much as simply "his views"

I do think pro casual sex people are quick to condemn tho, those who do not condone...just my observation...on here mostly

personally I don;t think it's that big of a deal what one thinks about sexual morals or whatever...what's important is that there is THOUGHT lol

no need to apologize it was all just a misunderstanding. and now you know so you can be clearer next time.

Thanks, I am just scared that a good one will get away. Maybe the whole attraction thing is my self sabatoge. An excuse for it not to work.

I would have sex with him and then treat him like garbage for the sake of it

Spoken like a true women.

Yeah, I don't know what my thing is either. I have liked different things with different people.

way harsh







1 kiss does not mean commitment and what if you fear of letting the one get away causes you to let him get away and he turns out to be THE ONE?