I would have assumed people in stealth mode would not report as being online either, but maybe I am under a misapprehension there.

As for your suggestions ThatGuinator, I am aware of the need for better pictures as these were just the ones I had handy. That being said, I will not lose the hat, as I have actually gotten several compliments for it in real life, and I think I am little young to worry about people thinking me bald.

I will also pass on your suggestion to revise my opening statement, as I feel it sums up my situation to well, and for anything to work with me that part does need to be understood.

As I said, I am perfectly content with the idea of the majority of people looking over my profile and not being interested in what they see, it was just the curious phenomenon that seemed to be happening of people not even looking that was bothering me.

First off, apologies if this is the wrong place to post this.

I would like your comments on something which is has been happening to both me and my brother on this website, something which I find to be strange quite frankly.

I have now politely messaged quite a few people over the past two weeks but have not had a single response. That I can accept on the face of it. What I do find strange is that none of these people have even gone to the trouble of viewing my profile.

I can perfectly accept the idea of someone reading my message, taking a look at my profile, and then deciding that for whatever reason they are not interested in me. That is absolutely fine. But to be dismissed without even a glance seems strange to me.

I do know some of these people are online, sometimes repeatedly, so I really can't understand it.

They very well could be checking out your profile,
but are in 'Stealth' mode which means you cannot
tell when they visit your profile, it simply does
not show.

Can't say I looked at your profile, but alot of users on here use stealth mode. Which would allow them to look at your profile, without notifying you that someone viewed your profile.

This website is unique in that people are able to make a decision based on a picture; think 'instant gratification'. Don't be discouraged, as we all know the dating game is one of numbers. For some there is a 1:1 response ratio while others have significantly less success. In infinity you will meet someone, somewhere. Maybe it will be here.

Some tips from a fellow unsuccessful site user, with perhaps some comedy mixed in but no intention to insult:

1) You look like Columbo in all your pictures, consider a brighter theme or variation in settings. In one of your pictures you appear to be wielding a massive weapon which could give someone the wrong impression.

2) Smile and lose the hat. On a first-glance website like this people may get the impression that you are bald and toothless.

3) Revise the opening statement in 'blurb about yourself' so it doesn't give a first impression of struggle and problems.

with the hat, the darkness of the picture, and the background .. seeing it on my phone, I would have pegged you for being in your 40s. I only know different because I went to you profile specifically to look at your age.
Some women, like myself, determine whether or not they will talk to a man based on not just what you wrote but what your 'first impression' (usually you main photo) is. I won't look at a profile if the main photo does not grab my attention.
As for the messages you send .. are they too long too short? Do they leave something to respond to aside from the typical "how are you" or what do you like to do"?

That is correct, they will not show as 'Who's Online'
if they are in Stealth.

Nor do they show on 'Recent Activity' views of your profile :-)

Thank you

I'm going to repeat what was said and add to it. I would not have looked at your profile either as your pic makes you look like my grandfather's best friend. The hat may look good in person but in photos it looks down right dreadfull. Most would not bother looking at your age or location when they see that pic. Well women in their 60-80's might. It is understandable that you don't want skeletons in your closet but it would be wise to save it for later after a couple conversations.

welcome.. and just remember it is a numbers game.. and the only number that counts is..No1..lol..jk
you just have to wait long enough.
change things up always add new pics.. make yourself as interesting as possible.. but not more interesting than me though..ok..lol

Well, I have some new pictures up, for what it is worth. As I said, the last batch were simply what I had around at the time.

I checked out your profile just so I could give an opinion seeing if I could help.... and came away feeling depressed after reading it.

I understand that not everyone has an easy-going life but your profile is a downer and honestly, wouldn't encourage me to answer an email other than to say 'thanks, but no thanks.' You put a lot of emphasis on what you do for work, but not one mention of what you do for fun. Being a farmer is a lot of hard work that takes many hours, of course, but if there is no time for fun, most women will think there is no real time for them. Check out the profiles of the gentlemen here on this thread to get an idea of what to write about concerning hobbies and likes....

Yes, I do agree with the others about the hat... It may look really good in person, but then again, people might be saying that to be nice (sorry for being harsh, if it is taken that way) because in your photos, it ages you. I thought you were in your later 40's or 50's in your main picture. The picture of you waving and your entire face in shadow is not flattering at all.

There comes a point where tailoring a profile would become dishonest to who I really am, and that is not a bridge I am willing to cross.

The pictures show me as I am, and the description reads as I am. For me that is enough - if most people would not be interested, that is fine as I would not have good time with them anyway. I am aware that most of what I wear ages me, but that is part of the reason why I like it. What I do for fun is not far off what is in the profile in some form or anther, depressing or not.

I appreciate that you all are trying to help, but I would rather strike out and be acknowledged for what I am than be placed in a position where I have to be someone I am not. It is a matter of honesty.

I hope I can find someone who can appreciate that as well as me, but if I do not, that would not really bother me too much as at least it means I would not need to operate under false pretenses with someone I could come to care about.

'HALT, who goes there?' or is that 'I pledge allegiance to the flag?' or 'I promise to tell the truth, the whole truth...'

(See, I read your profile)

I read your profile..ohhh.. wait a minute... nope that was your brothers sorry...lol..jk

No one said for you to become dishonest to who you are, just elaborate on things you enjoy doing in your down time... You claim you are a gamer---what games do you play?



It may be enough for you, but it may NOT be enough to gain a woman's interest in you....if that is really what you are looking for. You enjoy wearing clothes that ages three times your age???? I don't know very many women who are into that kind of kink...



Again.... no one told you to be dishonest, just gave pointers on how to get the attention you say you want....



If it didn't bother you that you aren't getting responses, why did you write the original post, wondering why none of the women you write are writing you back???