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Topic: Sex without attraction.
dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Mon 05/26/14 03:59 PM
I know women do it all the time but what about men. It's harder for men because they have to get it up. We women do this all the time?? Must have missed that memo. Man, I better get off this site and make up for lost time!! Not.

CowboyGH Joined Mon 10/05/09 Posts: 13651	Mon 05/26/14 04:00 PM
I know women do it all the time but what about men. It's harder for men because they have to get it up. Why would anyone have sex without an attraction physical or emotional? because it is a basic need and not everyone shares the same morals or views about sex But it's not a "need" in this context. The only "need" for sex is reproduction. so says god aye ??? may I ask why you feel you "need" sex? this isn't about me .. But I certainly don't view sex as solely for reproduction .. It is a pleasure .. Something I am passionate about ??? But my comment was about you in response to your following comment. Blondey111 said because it is a basic need and not everyone shares the same morals or views about sex So I will inqire on this again, it strikes me extremely strange "basic NEED". What basic needs are there? Outside of desires of course, because a desire in itself is not a need no matter how strong the desire is, it's never a "need". So again, I ask what is this "need" you mentioned? needs are not just about desire .. I am sure David will explain the hierachy of needs to you .. After all he brought Maslow to the forum. Go back and read my earlier posts I have already explained my thoughts on basic needs :-) But I asked you. No needs aren't about desires, never said they were. Sex is purely a desire, it is not a personal "need". Yes it's a need on a large context, it is needed for man's reproduction of the world, but please stay on subject and keep things in context. The need in reference here was a personal need. You stated in the original statement the "basic need" and I was only inquiring about this "need" you speak of. Because there is no "basic need" with sex, nobody personally needs sex. It is all entirely a desire/want in that context.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Mon 05/26/14 04:01 PM
.. I need a drink.. . just saying. . A nice cold glass of water.hmm. would anybody else want a nice cold glass of water. .hmm.. anybody anybody at all..

CowboyGH Joined Mon 10/05/09 Posts: 13651	Mon 05/26/14 04:02 PM
I know women do it all the time but what about men. It's harder for men because they have to get it up. We women do this all the time?? Must have missed that memo. Man, I better get off this site and make up for lost time!! Not. rofl

CowboyGH Joined Mon 10/05/09 Posts: 13651	Mon 05/26/14 04:10 PM
Why would anyone have sex without an attraction physical or emotional? because it is a basic need and not everyone shares the same morals or views about sex Nope, no "sex" in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. belonging, love , self esteem are all reasons people may choose to have sex .. Intimacy in whatever form they crave. Where does it say only those married or in a relationship recognised by the church or society can reproduce . ... Oh that's right .. How silly of me .. The bible .. The biggest social control yet Nobody else here mentioned either church or the Bible. Just you. so the church or religion doesn't view sex as reproduction Nobody else mentioned the subject. So, why did you bring it up? I was merely responding to cowboys questions And exactly why do you bring me into this specific discussion? I had absolutely no question in any of the quotes you quoted, nor in this thread did I ever bring up God, religion, or church in any way shape or form. Please leave me out of it unless it concerns me. you stated the only need for sex is reproduction .. What shaped your view about this ?? My own personal wishes and desires. That's why there isn't or doesn't seem to be much "passion" in the bed for most people, outside of rawr animal instinct passion. I mean actual sentimental passion. How can it feel special if you know you could be the 20th in line to have slept with such and such. It then becomes competition and possibly feeling less then another. And that's the way it's turning these days, sex is treated as just some casual action people do. It's not viewed as "sentimental" or beautiful time shared. The passion of sex these days last about as long as the night does. I'd rather be someone's first and last. and that is a beautiful sentiment cowboy .. But you cannot expect everyone to share your view or your morals. Each person is an individual shaped by their own cultures, beliefs, upbringing, environment, morals and values ... As such their view of sex will not be the same as yours and nor should it be .. That is what makes us unique. Absolutely, never said different nor did I degrade another for their different belief. Peace be with you <3

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48963	Mon 05/26/14 04:46 PM


markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Mon 05/26/14 09:39 PM
Hey if you don't like her don't date her. Easy as that.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Tue 05/27/14 05:42 AM
When a hot little broad says she wants to sex me, I am instantly attracted.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 05/27/14 06:11 AM
women speaking for men..men speaking for women..and yet generalized and not individualized makes me wonder where do people get the their information from..While it is true no two people are alike should say a lot for some generalizations.. I would not care for sex without attraction, no thank you. I do not know why people do that. The reasons could be different for everyone, and similar for some....I do know that attraction can fade over time but whether that affects sexual interactions would be up to the couple.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 05/27/14 06:17 AM
Why would anyone have sex without an attraction physical or emotional? because it is a basic need and not everyone shares the same morals or views about sex Nope, no "sex" in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. belonging, love , self esteem are all reasons people may choose to have sex .. Intimacy in whatever form they crave. Where does it say only those married or in a relationship recognised by the church or society can reproduce . ... Oh that's right .. How silly of me .. The bible .. The biggest social control yet Nobody else here mentioned either church or the Bible. Just you. so the church or religion doesn't view sex as reproduction Nobody else mentioned the subject. So, why did you bring it up? I was merely responding to cowboys questions And exactly why do you bring me into this specific discussion? I had absolutely no question in any of the quotes you quoted, nor in this thread did I ever bring up God, religion, or church in any way shape or form. Please leave me out of it unless it concerns me. you stated the only need for sex is reproduction .. What shaped your view about this ?? My own personal wishes and desires. That's why there isn't or doesn't seem to be much "passion" in the bed for most people, outside of rawr animal instinct passion. I mean actual sentimental passion. How can it feel special if you know you could be the 20th in line to have slept with such and such. It then becomes competition and possibly feeling less then another. And that's the way it's turning these days, sex is treated as just some casual action people do. It's not viewed as "sentimental" or beautiful time shared. The passion of sex these days last about as long as the night does. I'd rather be someone's first and last. and that is a beautiful sentiment cowboy .. But you cannot expect everyone to share your view or your morals. Each person is an individual shaped by their own cultures, beliefs, upbringing, environment, morals and values ... As such their view of sex will not be the same as yours and nor should it be .. That is what makes us unique. Absolutely, never said different nor did I degrade another for their different belief. Peace be with you <3 you were not degraded, not successfully anyway. another cannot degrade you if you have done nothing wrong...it may have seemed that way to you but I think you simply appeared strong. I actually love this conversation that the two of you had. I think there are very valid points in this discussion if one is able to look past a few of the personalized comments...hey....we're all just human here

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Tue 05/27/14 06:21 AM
Why would you have sex with someone you were not attracted to? And, where did you get the idea that women do it all the time? And, what are the chances that if you answer these questions I will just become more confused?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 05/27/14 06:26 AM
the part about women (having sex without attraction) bothered me too. Perhaps that has been his experience with women, or maybe he was raised to believe that about women? but it is certainly not true for me...or others just based on the posts in here.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Tue 05/27/14 06:34 AM
Hmm. has anyone ever heard of.. ... LAST CALL.. .. how about pity sex.. .. ..hmm.. otherwise known as throwing a dog a bone.... .. taking one for the team.. .. great body shame about the face.. ..hmm.. Flip them on their stomachs and turn the lights down low.. . for the ladies. what do you think pillows are for.. ... okay I'm just joking.. I did not invent these little slogans. .. anybody else have any interesting .. little sayings..hmm.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 05/27/14 06:40 AM
Hmm. has anyone ever heard of.. ... LAST CALL.. .. how about pity sex.. .. ..hmm.. otherwise known as throwing a dog a bone.... .. taking one for the team.. .. great body shame about the face.. ..hmm.. Flip them on their stomachs and turn the lights down low.. . for the ladies. what do you think pillows are for.. ... okay I'm just joking.. I did not invent these little slogans. .. anybody else have any interesting .. little sayings..hmm. those things sound more like men's reasons to have sex w/out attraction (mainly because they are notching the bedpost or whatever)and they are pretty contemptible..not to mention immature. I heard those types of saying coming from guys in HIGHSCHOOL, phd..lol

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Tue 05/27/14 06:41 AM
Wine me, dine me, sixty-nine me. Oh, I guess that doesn't apply here.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Tue 05/27/14 06:50 AM
I know women do it all the time but what about men. It's harder for men because they have to get it up. .. well the OP is asking from a mans point of view.. but you are right.. those are very childish... one liners.. but I am pretty sure. . a majority of us here.. have slept with someone. . at some point in our lives.. that may not have been.. the most attractive person in the world. . or more to the point.. someone that did not turn us on.. but we did it.. well there could be lots of reasons... but when your body screams I need an orgasm... and I need it tonight.. . .. well you know the saying ...beggars can't be choosers... .. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang..

4evababy Joined Tue 02/26/13 Posts: 9258	Tue 05/27/14 06:57 AM
There's a name for the type of woman that would have sex without attraction, but you have to pay her

4evababy Joined Tue 02/26/13 Posts: 9258	Tue 05/27/14 07:03 AM
I know women do it all the time but what about men. It's harder for men because they have to get it up. If you can't get it up for a woman maybe try a man lol your most likely gay, just a thought

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Tue 05/27/14 07:04 AM
There's a name for the type of woman that would have sex without attraction, but you have to pay her Ex-wife? Hey Eva.

Lickme58 Joined Tue 05/27/14 Posts: 1	Tue 05/27/14 07:24 AM
Can anyone add me in facebook?