I have a question for everyone how long do you search for love, companionship or anything that goes with it before you honestly just give up if someone could please answer this question I would be great full thanks

I'm ready to give up to.

''attraction is not a choice'' its not a conscious one anyway---its hit and miss at best---you can watch guys who are successful with women--there are tons of self help books, videos, and audio tapes on subject out there--there are people that teach this stuff with seminar's and one on one--there are limitless amount of help and info out there--on the plus side you will get to know yourself more---try some of the stuff its fun you will enjoy it--- best of luck----

Never give up, it could be right around the corner!!

Why place a time limit on something?

thank you for your comments
as time goes single for about 10yrs is along time

Well, I go through phases where I try really hard and then when it doesn't work out I kind of give up. I didn't date anyone for five years after I finished with my ex and it wasn't so much that I didn't want to but I just felt stuck and didn't really move on until last year. At the moment I'm trying to get over the last woman that I got involved with but my main problem is just not getting out and meeting enough new people. I have resorted to internet dating and it hasn't been a complete waste of time and it has helped me to move on but I'm getting to the point with it where I do feel like giving up on meeting someone that way and finding something more productive to do with my time, like I did after I finished with my ex.

I know women in the real world that I'm interested in and it's just that they are women that I know through other people like my sister and I only see them at parties and I don't get invited to a lot of those. I flirted outrageously with one of them in particular at the last party and when she gave me a hug I let my hands wander a bit and got away with it. Have I got much of a chance with her? Well, maybe not and maybe I'm not really trying and all that I'm doing is being friendly and flirting. I spent a lot of time being too shy or awkward with girls when I was younger but that was what it was and I've got the confidence with them now that I lacked then. It's not that I'm really that optomistic about finding love as such but I actually like women now and enjoy their company.

Someone said to me the other day that anyone that gives you dating advice is full of shite and if it works, you just got lucky and I don't think that he was far wrong. All of the dates that I've had recently, I got without really trying and they were making most of the moves.

my experience is

1. If you just socialize and live life love will 'find' you, if and when its time

2. 'Love' is precious whether from family , friends, or self. Learning to love and enjoy self will make 'finding' love slowly fall off of the list of priorities,,,,,it will matter less and less.

3. If (romantic) 'love' happens, great. If it doesn't, life with those who love you in all the other ways can be just as great as any romance.

Well I've always been a hopeless romantic and always tried so hard to have someone to call mine forever. But I learned my lesson. But that doesn't mean I'd give up. I know someone is for me, but if there isn't, I'm fine with it. I got my kids who I love dearly and they love me as much.

You never give up, you just keep chatting to the ladies both online and off and it will happen, you will find the one for you.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

.. oh yes the quest for love..mmm.. to obtain the unattainable.. the search. the neverending search... to listen to one's heart.. the quickening of the beat.. when you think you have found that one.. then sadly the breaking of the heart.. the disp appointment of the heart... then the long mending of the heart... but then out of the corner of your eye.... you spot them.. could it,might it be... that special one just for me... the beating of your heart.. quickens once again... do we ever stop looking for love... not to the day our heart stops beating....phD...

Thats sweet no1.
And true. We think about giving up..but we dont. We're not "quitters"..lol!

They say the longer you search for love, the more you know what you don't want. (Rolls eyes) but it is true that you have to kiss a lot of frogs first.

Complaining only brings on more negativity. As for self help books,, find the ones that are based on positivity and relationships.

And I think it is true that we never stop looking as that is our true nature....to love :-)

That is a lifelong effort my friend. Even when you've "found it" you gotta keep at it. And remember: People are like candy, just because they appeal to the eye don't necessarily mean they're good for you. Forget all that common, mutual, interest garbage too - unnecessary. I mean, who wants to date themselves ( even though sometimes you do what you gotta do).

I don't believe you find or fall into love, i believe you find someone you can love and over time you grow and shape each other into the "perfect partner". No by erosion, but by sedimentation. You add to a persons being and well being, not take away.

If you base your choices on looks and body shape and not the character, you might find yourself without love and companionship even though someone is sitting right next to you every day.

Be honest and lovable. All day. Every day. Forever. Can I get an amen or a hallelujah or two?

I respectfully disagree with attraction not having any link to consciousness. By its very definition it plays the primary role in attraction. If it were "hit and miss at best" then it could not be ;earned or gleaned from a book. And guys who are successful with women are not guys that are successful with A WOMAN. Looking for tail and looking for a relationship are two different things.


If you quit, you fail.