Is it wrong for a gentleman to look to fill an emotional void he may have by looking for a woman in a similar situation? Life is way to short to be unhappy...married or otherwise. What's wrong with bringing the passion back into our lives after having made so many compromises in our lives to make other people happy. What happens when we turn around and realize that those compromises came at the expense of our own happiness?

Maybe, but we're only human

I appreciate you not making a judgment call here. If there is one thing I never do is judge others. We all have different motivations for the things we do.

I can't believe noone has an opinion on this issue....either good or bad.

if you are unhappy then why not get divorced and be done so that you and your wife can each move on?

It's wrong to look for an affair ANYWHERE! Grow up and talk to your wife. Don't do something you can never undo. As someone who has been cheated on, I'm telling u it hurts really bad. And I have learned that the truth ALWAYS comes out, no matter how slick u think u are. You are completely selfish if u do that to anyone.

It is most certainly wrong , I had a wife I was married to for 19 years who cheated on me and left me for him. It was the worst heartache of my life. It totally destroyed me for a very long time.

I agree.

No

Honey, I'm older and southern and more experience. So I say look for what ever you want , when you want . Cause honey I have learned over the course of wonderful years That I am the only one that can make me happy . Go for for it today, there may not be a tomorrow. Cease the moment.

Yes...yes it is wrong. If you need to look for something else you should get divorce. An affair can emotionally destroy someone so it is wrong to look

I completely relate to your comment! I feel I’m in the same boat as you! It’s been a long road here and it seems that you and I are heading down the same road without any “scenery” along the way.

If you are looking for an affair then there is something missing in your marriage. It can be a way to find what you are missing but it is a dangerous way to go. We are all looking for the 100% satisfaction we never get in any relationship. We might get 70% or 80%, then down the road we wondering and thing we missing the 20% to 30% and going to look for it not realizing we may loose the "%" we already have and for sure you will loose it some day. So, make sure you give this a long thought before going this road.

Speaking only for myself in response to your question. Infidelity is wrong and brings with it much pain. Will it really fix anything or create a bigger problem ? I would address the initial problems that are creating the distance and work from there. God bless.

not at all, but it's most definitely troubled waters. remember to take time for yourself to heal and not to use a situation to heal

It is absolutely wrong. I was with a man who I absolutely loved with all of my heart for 5 years, and engaged within those last 2. I found out about a month before our original wedding date that he didn't physically, but emotionally cheated on me with another woman online. I found out after seeing a strange message on his phone when handing it to him. My gut feeling was right, and even messaged the number where I found out more extensive information of conversations they've had. He didn't deny it when I confronted him. If I never have found out we could have started off a marriage wrong, especially on his part. He is addicted to video games (every free time he had), and it was starting to feel like he was treating me more like his maid/mother instead of his partner.
Some things I'd recommend:
Talk to her and let her know how your feeling and why. Communication is something a lot of people are gradually starting to forget about with all this technology in our faces, and it's huge in any relationship.
If it's some excitement your looking for why not make an effort and spice things up a bit. Do some fun weekend getaways. Both of you can try something new together. And lastly, see if you think maybe try couples counseling if communication is lacking on both ends. A friend of mine said that it was very helpful in trying their tips and tricks that many don't ever think about. Talk to family as well if they are a huge part of your life, so they know how your feeling.

But please, don't look for an affair. After at least trying all or any of those than you'll know whether separating/divorce (in a calm civil manner) as the last resort.

I am with you Susan I've never understood why women traded a position of superiority for one of equality I'm in Simpsonville just outside Greenville and I am available

if it's sex try swinging spice it up being confident in a relationship is very important(it's only skin)if the flame has burned out,call it wash move on ,going through divorce sucks it gets better.