Mingle2 is a dating site. So,any girl here means, they are here for men. Be it for love, friendship, sex or whatever.Here my question comes to girls, if someone message you what is the problem to respond? Think on this. This is applicable only to those girl/ women who doesn't reply to messages, others can just follow the topic or add points even if you feel so.

Dude, no woman on this website is obligated to respond to a message from a complete stranger.

^this

Buddy, this place is for strangers to make friends and help to know each other. There is no hard and fast rule to reply, but why they are here when they don't want to connect?

what makes you think they aren't connecting just because they don't respond to you?

some girls, like myself, are specific in who they connect with. I personally wont talk to anyone 10+ years older than me

It is just not about me. Same story with many people over this place. So, for me when interaction happens from one side, It is not a communication at all. So coming to the same question what is the problem in responding?

Just because they are not responding to you does not in any way mean they are not responding to others. Your view of this site is sadly myopic and lacking in how people, greet meet and create a relationship..This site is not specifically for you and dealing with your feelings of rejection is the beginning of wisdom as it evaluating your narrative to see if you are offering a gal something she finds alluring and appealing..

There is an option to prefer your criteria and your interest level, which will indeed block or stop the users whom you Dont prefer. Not doing so keep the window open for others to assume that you are interested in any so called age bar.

Since when did Mingle2 become a strictly heterosexual dating site?



Freedom of choice is a beautiful and powerful tool.

I can't believe you are this self centered. there is no assumption of response. no response is a response. it means ...not interested, and there is no obligation to respond when not interested. this is the net. gotta get used to it

I think he needs to move to responserequired.com lol

To kick this off, here's a couple of things you have to take into account on here or any dating site...

1) Online dating is a quicker version of rejection than you'd get in person. Why? To an extent it's supposed to be somewhat anonymous to the degree of they've never actually met you. You don't have any form of "feelings" put out there and nobody has agreed to anything so it's considered fair game to do that. Think of it like this because it's literally like this.... "Nobody came up to me directly so I don't really have to answer or respond if I'm not interested in the person messaging me". The set up for all of this makes it impersonal.

2) You also don't have any clue if anyone is talking to anyone prior to your messaging, you don't exactly have any real deal of what people are looking for (You see a lot of vague terms for wants and a lot of "a couple descriptive sentences that aren't always well thought out" because many people don't want to give decent descriptions)and sometimes we ignore the "Last time online" notice in the corner of the profiles. Basically you don't always get a decent picture of what you're up against. Not like you have a super clear or great picture when you 1st meet anyone but you have even less of a window on here. (Pun optional)

3) Just because this is online doesn't mean you get out of or get away from the whole deal with avoiding your subcultural mentality levels in your surrounding areas. True, you have the potential for an out or expanding your area for searches but largely people are doing this to meet people in their area who they may not come across regularly in their local movement patterns. The mini social hangups, the mini social bs, the mini social stereotypes and the localized society you're in (and interact with)are all still there. You're just expanding your ability to be able to interact with more of them.

Now all of this shouldn't tell you to BS, lie or make things up (mostly cuz you eventually get found out and it'll damage someone and yourself from finding someone everyone should be with). It does however mean that the best thing you can do is to sort of be individually personable with other people. Aside from promoting a stand out factor for yourself (cuz you don't always know what'll stand out to people and messaging is a general direct way to get that to happen), figure out a way for the words you put together to show you out a bit. Don't go nuts with an autobiography, just think of how you'd say it in person and try to articulate things like that.

Also, one thing you may want to look at as well (And I'm sort of shooting at generalities here but this is one people fall into a lot so I'll cover it for a "just in case") is if you're intentionally trying to go for a specified type of person. Don't get me wrong here, it's cool to know what you want and I can't say it's bad but if you're noticing a pattern with no replies, look for a pattern in your deal with who you're interested in too. This could be anything from a specific appearance level to something that's appears in write ups. Question what you're revolving your "who I decide to extend messaging over" factors a bit as well. It may be playing into things a bit.

I think a big part of that is local messaging. many do not want to message outside of their own country or local area and really do not want messages from out of the US (or wahtever the country is)


since we can't filter for that we just don;t respond

Personally I'm OK with US & Canada (the splegman is a canuck) & the UK

other countries if we talk on the threads :)

but many do not want out of country at all

Well I get the same problem but when a girl/woman/lady messages me I answer every chance I get but when I do the same thing and there's no answer I send one more message explaining what I'm like and they have no worries with me but! it is very rude on there part that they do this to guys but again there are people on here that are down right nasty to these ladies and disgusting and they do far worse than anybody has a right to do to anyone but there has got to be a way to distinguish from a nice guy that wants the same thing because there was a friend of mine that met a guy and she gave him her email and he sent her pictures of dead, brutally murdered women, it was the most horrid thing I have ever seen. so I hope that helps you understand what women on these sites are dealing with... some really sick people.

I never reply to people with no pic on their profile, never reply to guys who greeting me with silly words as "hi cutie, you are most beautiful lady in this world" or "do you want to marry me?" Or "hi, I am good man and good in kissing" and all it's written as first greeting to a stranger woman, I hate to use "block" button lol but I don't have an option

Last girl I dated was only a member for a couple of weeks and she said her inbox had over 150 messages within a few days of joining, it was literally impossible to even read them all let alone respond to them all.
It was so overwhelming she deleted her account after a couple of weeks, she said.

And the truth is any halfway decent lady doesn't have to try that hard to get dates or sex, if a date site turns out to be a big hassle and for many women it really really is, why would they continue to bother with the site at all, let alone sitting down for the next year to reply to all the penis-picture and sexually entitled messages they get.

Nobody here is required or obliged to respond to a private message sent by a complete stranger.

The fact that you sent a private message to someone who doesn't know you doesn't imply that the other person owes you a reply.

I consider it rude to claim that recipients of unsolicited private messages from strangers are doing something wrong because they haven't replied to those strangers.

If a person who doesn't know you doesn't respond to your private message, then the problem is yours not the other person's.

yes they either message you back are they don't.. try not to get hung up on it.. I go to the grocery store I look at the apples.. I might even pick one up.. look at it closer.. put it back down.. doesn't mean I'm obligated to buy that Apple.... and yes it doesn't always have to be apples and oranges... sometimes bananas with bananas and oranges with oranges... well I'm here I would like to pose a question....
.. if somebody views your profile.. should you message them...???... or more to the point.. if you view me.. do you want me to message you...??. I'm a bit naive in this area.!!.... seriously not trying to go off topic...