I would hardly worry about someone else defining me. Some people think a woman over 37 pounds is 'chunky'. I exaggerate but not by much. On line dating can be brutal. I once had a guy ask me for a pic wearing a bikini to" "prove I wasn't a fatty". I yawned with boredom I was so unimpressed. He was my first on -line BLOCK. Love yourself first and then find someone who can second that emotion. Just don't every give up!

Well.
You're trying:-)

One mans noise is another mans music. Accept yourself the way you are. Stop calling yourself fat.Your attractive and the bottom line is life is about being with someone nice, sweet,and who you truly love. Best wishes to you!

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Thanks... i agree with you that online dating is very brutal... ive been rejected a lot times because

I've never been very successful because I'm selective about personalities I'm comfortable with being physically open with, but that's okay it just means I really very much prefer a very compatable lady and we honestly like each other as people.

It's just a tighter screen with your best interests at heart. The trick is to find every positive way of looking at yourself and the world all the time as best you can. People really respond to that and the rest is just patience I guess.

At least that's how I look at it. It's never rejection, it's always for the best. Would you want someone who didn't really want you? Do you like making yourself sad? No. So it was always for the best, it's never rejection.

Think of date sites as networking, but you have to increase your social activity to also meet people day to day, and look for opportunities to interact with strangers in a comfortable way, humour is often the best, a humourous comment in the checkout line and you've got a friend to chat with while you're shopping. You have to do these things because what you need is someone who likes you and that's about seeing your personality in action.

People in general are contradictory. Myself included. Not anybodys fault. Just the way life is.

I will speak what I'm experiencing and see if it rings a bell.

For reason unknown to me I am attracted to brunettes. A nice carmel skin tone with that would be my ideal. Just talking looks. Cause lord knows there is so much more to u women! Now, since my eyes get directed instantly to dark, i miss many blonds. And for all i know a blond is my soul mate. And until I completely open my self to all possible women, I really can't complain.

This is not directed at anyone, just my observation and experience. Its 2014, the last year I had a girl friend that had light hair was 1990! Yup, sophomore year of high school.

Wow!!! Just writing that sounds sad. And I thought I was living and lived all kinds of experiences.

If people are looking for their perfect match, they might be waiting an entire life time. Same premise for example as: "i will move and try that job out as soon as little Johnny is old enough to make a sandwhich. Next thing you know, little Johnny just knocked up his girl friend at age 17, then, you unit doing s%&t for a long time!

Ok, rambling. I'm out

There was a thread yesterday I think, about not fitting in. Now I know I don't fit. A lot of people are looking for compatibility. Which is dynamite! I want that as well. I just don't place it high on the list.

But I always seek out my opposite. Now, I may have to rethink this because it hasn't worked in then two prior to marriage, the marriage and now one after. That's 4!!!! I can't help myself, there is just so much to learn from an opposite.

Wow, I'm very confused now.

Heeeeeelp!!!!

Oh, and victoriousone, about the top you were asked to wear....

How old was this cat? 16?

Next time, agree to do so only if he wears a thing!

Wait, that won't work on twisted man. He probably has one on already.

Awwwww,gal...you still hot the way you are :) just believe in yourself then you get what you want...

well I am not a little person either and being over 6ft doesn't really help me find a woman but just tell your self what I have repeated to myself for the last 9yrs when its time and the right one comes along it will be worth all the wait and rejection that I have gone through to find the right one for me I truly wish you the best of luck

If people don't like you exactly the way you are thennnn you shouldn't be with them anyway. My weight varies too much for me to cassified as fat or thin, I literally bounce between around 140 and 200 lbs.....Because of medical conditions. My hair colour changes just as much! XD So a guy will just have to like me for my personality and frankly I like it that way. o.o But I'm okay with my looks and never had problems getting a lover probably because I honestly am comfortable with myself and it shows (even though I don't post any full body pics of myself due to me getting creeper comments about my boobies on other sites >.> ).

Weight and even looks in general can always vary, you're stuck with personality forever and also you do not wants a shallow-minded lover! Trust me you do not. Once you truly fall in love with someone you love all of them. That's just the way it is.

Well, thanks for that comment.i should say that's one way of looking at things...

Fracus, i think you and mighty moe are really awesome guys. You're able to express your thoughts objectively and though sometimes it may not be what other people may like to hear it doesn't spund offensive...

Fracus, i think you and mighty moe are really awesome guys. You're able to express your thoughts objectively and though sometimes it may not be what other people may like to hear it doesn't spund offensive...

Thanks solace...

It's not bothering me that i don't have the perfect body that a lot of men actually fall for. What saddens me is the fact that with body i am often, too often dumped without being given the chance to show what kind of woman i really am. I know that i have unique attributes to share to someone if that person could only venture to see further than my figure...

Telling ppl lies is not really gonna help

There are men that like bigger women and men that don't mind, but go for personality. So what it comes down to is not really all that different from women that aren't big.

I'd rather spend my days with a chunky gal that helped make life a joy to live than a thin woman that made life a drag. I mean thin women no slight. I know many thin women are pleasant people and that there are plenty of big girls that have nasty attitudes. Fact of business, just be you. And i agree with the lady that advised you to tell the truth. Don't be a catfish. I wish I could lie about myself because plenty of ladies make me wish i was taller, thinner, younger, older, more handsome, more successful, you name it. But should the opportunity arise to meet a lady, I would have a hard time explaining the inconsistencies. Also, while plenty of guys do indeed find big girls attractive, be advised that some will seek you out because they see you as an easy mark to get laid.