I am 60 y.o. April of 2013 my boyfriend, same age, moved in with me.
It was hard on me, I live with my daughter since 2005, then she moved out. He moved in shortly after. He took over, changing alot, I know I was not a good decorator and he is. I balked, we fought a litle, and I basically was a *****. Infact I was not even sure how much I loved him, He packed up all his stuff and it's basically in boxes in the bedroom just waiting to move. I have since realized how much I love this man, and told him so many times, but he refuses to let me know whether he is moving come this April or not, He says his mind is not made up yet, The only things not packed are the bed and table and chairs, he still acts nice to me, we kiss, have sex, but I can not tell if he is making it hard on me the way I did to him in the beginning, or is really moving, Guys what do you think? I say he is moving, and does not want to tell me yet. Should I prepare my heart?

Mmmm it seems he has his own agenda.
Keeping you in suspense.

I would not like that at all.

You got that right, it's slowly driving me nutso.

And the problem is I have truly fallen in love, I admit I was a little wishy washy at first, it's hard falling in love, at least for me. It really took some time. Two full years, I know, I'm slow. But couples fall in and out of love but stick together.

Not sure, as it's like the abridged version of a long long story, but it sounds to me like you're latching on to him, lowering yourself.
Why still sleep with a man who can't even tell you he wants to be with you or not?
Seems you let him take over way too much and you're making up excuses why this was/is okay? Were you really an ***** or just resisting to being walked all over, a natural reflex.
Can't tell if he will leave or not, I get the feeling he can and will do whatever suits him, as you will simply put up with it ...

Well I guess I can't stop him if he wants to go, and I love him, we don't have sex that much. But if I'm going to have sex, it's going to be with h im, we;ve been together too long and actually he's a great lover. I love him, and no I guess it was a shock to me to have some man decorate. and he is a little bit of a pack rat, that bothers me. But all in all he's great, it was def me who was out of line. I never felt walked upon, he held me up, he supported me in every way.

I don't know, maybe it was a natural reflex and I didn't see it.

It almost sounds like he is..paying you back.
Very immature.

You now, however, are aware.
You are arguing for one side:-)

What do you mean, arguing for one side? Don't understand.

give him 2 weeks notice. His things will be in the yard at that time. If he is going to move, he need do that. he's a manipulator. don;t let him toy w/ you. it is your house, remember that. he has no right to move in and start redecorating

He is on the lease, till April, can't do that, besides the help with money is great.

I rent this place, he signed the lease with me last year, for one year, cant just kick him out, besides he has some teeth surgery coming up and it's quite extensive, I would not be so mean. I love this person. Why would I kick him out, I'm trying to salvage this relationship, not destroy it.

I welcome any and all opinions, I want to know what others think, then maybe I can make a more rational decision on how I should act. Because right now I am losing the best guy I ever had and I am sick.

You appear to want good reasons for keeping him :-)

Oh I have good reasons that I would want to keep him, I can't figure out why he is being so stubborn. Can't give me an answer on what he plans to do in April, move or stay, he says lets wait and see, I guess if I become a ***** again, i guess.

Really? A manipulator? for a fact? Why do you say that? Maybe you are right?

well if you welcoome "all" opinions then are you really willing to consider all opinions or is your mind made up? I would not put up with it, but it's your life

he sounds like he is manipulative because he is toying with your emotions and using the possibility of moving out to control you

I'm confused. You say that this guy moved in with you and he's a good decorator. Then you say that he packed up everything apart from the bed, table and chairs and put it all in a room. What happened to the rest of your stuff, or are you saying that he brought the bed, table and chairs with him?

Has it occured to you that he might just be planning to decorate the place and that's why he moved everything into that room. I'm planning to decorate my own flat actually and that's why I thought that this could be the reason for his behaviour. I'm going to have to move a lot of stuff if I want to paint these walls and if I don't put it in another room I could get paint dripping onto it when I'm doing it.

Sounds like you have some serious emotional problems and he has packed his stuff up hopefully to keep you away from it and ruining what he has until he can get his dental stuff done and run out the lease and get away from you. Which may be in your best interest. I would hope you would seek professional help and make a life plan before you end up homeless and maybe hospitalized. I doubt you love him, or him you, and if there is any sex it is dysfunctional pascification. You sound seriously depressed and confused and I feel sympathy for you but you need way more help than you can get here.