Why is it some EX's still act very close to you like nothing happened, like he/she didn't hurt you, like it's still ok to be just friends!? Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!

Because its allowed. ex's are ex's for a reason.

sometimes hurt is a two way street

there could be an assumption of forgiveness if they didnt know their partner very well

my ex hurt me by being unfaithful but I forgave it long ago and EXCEPT for that shortcoming, he was actually a pretty great friend and I chose not to just drop him ,, we remain close emotionally and I think thats healthy

if two people can manage to do it,,,

But I can't move on if he's still showin around..How can I accept the truth we're not in relationship anymore and he wanna just become a friend. He lost his love but not me. Isn't unfair?

there has to be clear boundaries,,,friends from a distance

its not fair if it interrupts your ability to move on,,,

No disrespect,

but,

The original post does not sound like she wants to remain close emotionally or think it is healthy.

She is not handling it.

Sounds like she pissed that he still wants to be her friend.

Maybe I'm reading this wrong.


Hey anit0128,

How are YOU feeling?

Ok, this was late.



If you feel like that, don't allow him to be your friend,


You end it.

Hmmmm I just happen to see this as im sitting here having coffee and looking over at my ex husband sleeping on my couch.

He must have done something to be a EX.

We women go through many changes before we get to this EX point.

Once you are there, stay there.

If he is not trying to be un-EX.

He is just taking up your new man space.

Oh my.

How YOU feeling?

relationships and feelings are touchy

seems like communication is in order, let him know if you cant handle the situation, if he cares he will give you space

if he doesn't, maybe it will be easier to dissolve some of the emotional devotion and connection you are feeling

sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder, space may be just the answer you both need to understand what is real and what isn't,, and act accordingly

been there, done that, my feelings go out to you

good luck

anit0128 started this topic, ending with a plead to "Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!"

How about us thinking about our feelings.

Tell him you don't want to be friends, not everyone can handle being "just friends" with an ex, I know I couldn't do it.

I tried one time, it worked for him, but not for me.

TRUE THAT. Im fine ,forgiving, trying to help him we have kids togather I will always be a friend ,though it is hard at times,I wish him happiness,although hes been heart broken dumped by another its hard to emotionally nurse someone that did the same to me,but I cant help but feel bad for him wish i didn't.

Yeah, I'm not good at shutting off my emotions either, I respect those who can, but it's impossible for me to do that.

LowRange,

I feel bad for you.

You are being drained by someone who didn't want your heart when he had it, but after his heart was hurt he camed to you for a bandaid.

impossible for me too.

Now, I value my heart!

Sometimes it's brutal to be a woman.