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anit0128 started this topic, ending with a plead to "Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!" How about us thinking about our feelings. |
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anit0128 started this topic, ending with a plead to "Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!" How about us thinking about our feelings. Right. How about my feelings? |
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Thanks everyone for your comments! People might not have the same suggestion but you all are helping me.
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anit0128 started this topic, ending with a plead to "Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!" How about us thinking about our feelings. Right. How about my feelings? You don't have to be friends with him if you don't want to. No one can force you into anything. If you don't want to be his friend, just tell him that, and make him stay away from you. What you allow is what will continue. |
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TRUE THAT. Im fine ,forgiving, trying to help him we have kids togather I will always be a friend ,though it is hard at times,I wish him happiness,although hes been heart broken dumped by another its hard to emotionally nurse someone that did the same to me,but I cant help but feel bad for him wish i didn't. LowRange, I feel bad for you. You are being drained by someone who didn't want your heart when he had it, but after his heart was hurt he camed to you for a bandaid. |
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But I can't move on if he's still showin around..How can I accept the truth we're not in relationship anymore and he wanna just become a friend. He lost his love but not me. Isn't unfair? there has to be clear boundaries,,,friends from a distance its not fair if it interrupts your ability to move on,,, Thanks! :) |
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Sometimes it's brutal to be a woman. 
Agree 
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TRUE THAT. Im fine ,forgiving, trying to help him we have kids togather I will always be a friend ,though it is hard at times,I wish him happiness,although hes been heart broken dumped by another its hard to emotionally nurse someone that did the same to me,but I cant help but feel bad for him wish i didn't. LowRange, I feel bad for you. You are being drained by someone who didn't want your heart when he had it, but after his heart was hurt he camed to you for a bandaid.
Sorry to be so that way, but someone put it to me that way. Changed my life! |
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anit0128 started this topic, ending with a plead to "Guys,, sometimes think about your EX's feelings please!!" How about us thinking about our feelings. Right. How about my feelings? You don't have to be friends with him if you don't want to. No one can force you into anything. If you don't want to be his friend, just tell him that, and make him stay away from you. What you allow is what will continue. True. Put your feelings 1st! You tried, it didn't work. Don't be stuck on stupid (insert his name here) lol. |
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 cheers to all you beautiful strong woman good luck in life.
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But I can't move on if he's still showin around..How can I accept the truth we're not in relationship anymore and he wanna just become a friend. He lost his love but not me. Isn't unfair? there has to be clear boundaries,,,friends from a distance its not fair if it interrupts your ability to move on,,, Thanks! :) "there has to be clear boundaries,,,friends from a distance" That's what he thinks he is doing now. |
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(((LowRange)))
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Edited by
GLG2009
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Thu 01/23/14 11:31 PM
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cheers to all you beautiful strong woman good luck in life.
Good Luck to you LowRange, I truly wish you the best. Make changes, and don't be afraid.
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Been there. When I told my ex that I didn't think that we should keep seeing each other she still showed up at my door again as if nothing had changed. After I snubbed her a few times she left me alone. Five years later I did make friends with her again and we talked about it. I guess that she didn't realise how much she had hurt me and how upsetting that it was to be around her after what had happened between us. She didn't believe that I did love her apparently. She told me that she was hurt that I didn't want to be friends anymore but I wanted more than that. Now we are friends again and we are both happy with it being that way. It was good to talk about the relationship but I just felt that I couldn't do that for all that time because it had always been on and off and talking about it just kept rekindling it and we kept going round and round in circles.
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Been there. When I told my ex that I didn't think that we should keep seeing each other she still showed up at my door again as if nothing had changed. After I snubbed her a few times she left me alone. Five years later I did make friends with her again and we talked about it. I guess that she didn't realise how much she had hurt me and how upsetting that it was to be around her after what had happened between us. She didn't believe that I did love her apparently. She told me that she was hurt that I didn't want to be friends anymore but I wanted more than that. Now we are friends again and we are both happy with it being that way. It was good to talk about the relationship but I just felt that I couldn't do that for all that time because it had always been on and off and talking about it just kept rekindling it and we kept going round and round in circles. Glad you guys reached a comfortable place then.
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I went thru this just a little while back, I done the final divorce in 99 and left and moved out here where i am now...and just about three months ago she shows up on my facebook page.... Now I loved this woman more then life its self and she kept playing her game till I almost pulled the trigger on my life...... i had to get her out of my life all over again............
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I went thru this just a little while back, I done the final divorce in 99 and left and moved out here where i am now...and just about three months ago she shows up on my facebook page.... Now I loved this woman more then life its self and she kept playing her game till I almost pulled the trigger on my life...... i had to get her out of my life all over again............ Some people are so cruel.
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i was with my ex on and off for 7 years i finished it last june as i wasnt happy and wanted my own space We stayed friends but i believe that this cant work as he wanted bk with me and i told him it over.
I am seeing a guy that i dated in the past and like him alot but feel bit bad . |
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i was with my ex on and off for 7 years i finished it last june as i wasnt happy and wanted my own space We stayed friends but i believe that this cant work as he wanted bk with me and i told him it over. I am seeing a guy that i dated in the past and like him alot but feel bit bad . Why do you feel bad? |
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I don't speak to most of my ex's anymore. Only a certain one. But I think that's because he's the only one who ever listened to me properly. The rest I don't really give a hoot about, because they seemed less caring. We are like a double act, when we are in each others company. The more you can forgive and forget, the better, but still I know it's not that easy.
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