Ok, so i have been dating this guy for 5 months now and everything has been going good. Til on our 5 months he brings up how he has been testing me by asking me questions to see how i would repsond. the reason for it is to see if we'll bump heads or anything, because his ex wasnt who he thought she was...which i can undertstand completely. after that he goes on telling me that there is temptation all around (which then maked me wonder if he is doing anything) and how ive changed his life, since we've been together he now avoids girls and whatnot. after that convo with him i said something which he said reassured him of our relationship that it will work out, that sometimes he needs to be reasured.

i know that his past relationships havent been good, all the girls treated him badly. they usually lasted a week and now iam his longest relationship since then. which i suprise him in the fact that im not like his ex's, he said with them he could tell when something was up but with me he doesnt.

what i think is that maybe he is expecting me to do something like cheat on him because that is what he ex's did, but im not like that. and maybe the fact that im not scares him a lil...idk.

what do you all think?

Usually the accuser is the guilty one. But not always. Good luck and pay close close attention.

That is a strange way for him to communicate with you...

Talking things out is alot better- than putting you to the test.

He has trust issues or he is doing those things himself???

Deffinately watch the situation...

Being tested?? This isn't eighth grade, is it? Because REAL adults don't "test", they communicate.

Sorry if this is harsh, but it sounds like he's been hurt a time or five too many. I agree, it bears watching.

He's just insecure and immature, which shouldn't come as a big surpirse if he's near your age, but it signals a red flag if he's much older.

Temptation all around him. Hmmm, To me that means that he definately aware of others than just you. All the girls treated him badly. Hmmm, maybe he needs to date women. Testing you to see how you would respond. Hmmm, wonder many others he is testing? Sorry, girlfriend but I think you done got hold of you a player. I would do some further investigating especially with those girls he has been with before to do some cross referencing of notes. Just drawing conclusions from what you have said.

Yep........., sounds like he has "Trust" issues.........., but than again.........., maybe he should........., "YOU" do have a profile on this site, that states "Looking For Men For Dating" !!!


Benz.........

Geeeez ...you lot..

What a great guy, to be able to be so honest with you....completely honest..vulnerable..

And testing? COME ON!!! Who doesn't test their partner? Their truths...their actions and behaviours...

Stop looking for the catch, and enjoy the ride, this guy was honest with you, and showed his trust issues, and was honest enough to acknowledge there IS temptation all around... FOR BOTH OF YOU.

AT least he isn't living a pretend Mills and Boon scenario...

To me it sounds like a man that learns from his mistakes! Testing you may be a harsh way to put it but I think we all evaluate based on our past.

hmm dump the guy. if all those months have been a test, wtf this topic makes me sick if the guy not attracted to you because of who you are and because you nothing like his exs and he cant get over that cheatin fact DUMP HIM!. if he learned from his mistakes he should know how a woman cheats...but i wont go there

Hes ether guilty or lacks self confidence!!
One or the other hes the one who has to deal with it.
Your just along for the ride!!!

He's a guy. Really tho ask him what's up with that?

What ever happened to just having a relationship with someone? Why does everyone have to make it into a freakin GAME now? Analyze this, guess that.... Maybe one-nighters ARE the way to go...

Agreed gg2!!!

Good big poppa I'll see you Friday night.

wow. lots of advise. somethings to think about for sure

With you he can't tell something is up BECAUSE nothing is up. You are not cheating!
I believe he is testing you for a reason. That reason is; He wants to see how well you will agree living together forever. He does not have you down as a hit and go candidate.

He considers you WIFE MATERIAL.
However you are now, PLEASE DO NOT CHANGE ON HIM AFTER YOU SHACK UP??????? Let him know EXACTLY how you are going to be by being that way now. No one is perfect but TRY TO BE AS GOOD AS YOU CAN AND CONTINUE.