when you meet someone and they start communicating to you and you feel safe about talking to you and they ask to exchange emails with you and when you ask for them to give you there email first and they refuse and they try to convince you that they are real and you try to believe you that and after a few days when you don't hear from them and you go to there page and it was deactivated would you think that they were we not real and only here for games? I know for me I don't have time for that. What would you think? would you even give that information out?

only after I had known them for some time with fairly regular communication. And, no, not if they refused to provide me with the same information that they were requesting of me. That seems a little peculiar. Although, a lot of women will take a man's phone # but not give their's out till they know him better for security reasons.

If you agree to offer a phone number and not get one in return you are giving the other person too much control over the communication. It is suggested to not offer till the other person is willing to provide the same as it is otherwise suspect. Besides if you offer and decide to meet you have no way to communicate and could be stood up... As for deactivating folks leave for a myriad or reasons they want to take a break, met someone new, returned to a previous person, changed their mind about you or the whold internet game, and a host of others that have no bearing on their removal... try to remember this is just an introduction site not a meaningful loss of a genuine relationship as these are people who may not even be real, genuine, of this city,state,country or world!!!The only genuine loss is of a potential relationship and that cant happen unless you actually meet and get to know one another...

Just give him/her a gmail or hotmail that you use for this purpose and is not connected to any of your other online things like FB.

Thanks! that's a good Idea I never thought of that those are like throw aways that way they can not gain access to anything I like that

Sadly there are a lot of selfish people. Often times they are married and their partners have gotten tired of their "ways" so they get whatever attention they can until they think they are going to get caught, or they actually do get caught, then they disappear.
More spouses are getting tired of being cheated on and putting spyware in their own homes so cheaters are getting caught. Accounts are deactivated, sometimes domestic violence occurs.

Occasionally the online "friend" gets put on one of the scammer lists so repeatedly every time some one checks them out they are reported as "bad news". It pays to check what kind of info is out there on you.

If you have made someone mad in a chat room chances are there is something negative about you somewhere. Don't kid yourself there are some really disfunctional people who still have some pretty good skills on computers and know how to "get even" for being snubbed. Or even the perception they have been snubbed.

Sometimes it is maybe the grass is greener somewhere else syndrome and when they find out it really isn't they just stick with whatever they have.

Some are just phishing for whatever they can get you to tell them about yourself to see if you are an easy mark for a sympathy story or when you are not going to be home to rob you. Or piggy back your computer.

If you are foolish enough to leave your computer where it can be cut on by remote "they" maybe even watching you or worse, your kids. Don't kid yourself their are phones, computers, and I-pads in jails and mental hospitals.

You would be surprised how much money people have slipping out of their accounts and don't even know it. What is sad is the number of people who will give small amounts of money or gifts and justify it as no big deal because they don't want to admit they are that desperate for attention. There are people who supplement their "public" moneys this way as a way of living for years. They may sell off what you give them for pennies on the dollar but if they have hundreds of people sending a little it adds up to a lot.

Something that terrorists have learn. You have a sweatshop full of recycled lap tops it is faster money than robbing a bank.

What people forget is for only a few bucks you can go online with very little info and get basically anyone's whole life history. Some scammers research others just to build fake personas. They will collect pictures and a plausable story and turn around and use it on someone else.

Also if you have lied about anything, or the wrong information is credited to you, good people who have been stung by scammers before and have learned to check, will drop you like a hot rock.

Something that seems to be growing is employers, even co-workers, trying to get negative information to get ahead of you will chat you up. With down-sizing people are going to hang onto their job any way they can. Employers that can't afford to have workers dilly dallying around on line find out who to keep and who to get rid of. While it might seem like no big deal to log on and off the great computer set up at work it gets viruses and leaves cookies that lead right back to you. Since it is too expensive to fire you they just get rid of you other ways.

First thing I did. No way I'm giving strangers my regular email.
Make sure you put your gmail/hotmail on a FAKE name. Some ppl think they're smart by getting a gmail, but register it to their real name. Then ppl can use it to find you elsewhere on the net, for instance on FB.
Also smart to not use the same nickname here that you may use on FB.

Or the same photos.

You're right,

I think you did the right thing in not giving out your email address if they were not prepared to give you theirs.

What is not known when a member's account is shown as deactivated is if they left of their own accord, so you can only guess at how genuine they were.

In my experience scammers are usually quick to give you their email address, so they could have been real, difficult to be know for sure in my opinion.