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Coffee and tea

I dunno about love at first site. But I'm with Crystal on the coffee love. It is my beverage of choice.

food :D

Let's get together and have an XXXXXL cappuccino, haha. I LOVE cappuccino!

Sinking that first pint when you finish work on a Friday? Class in a glass!

I still think it's lust at first

I think its lust at first sight as well. We grow in love.

Yep. It's all in the way it develops :)

I never really get this "in love", "fall in love" and "love" bit. Maybe I dozed off during English class at the time.
I always thought you fell in love, after that it becomes love, provided things go well. I thought "in love" to be the same as "fall in love".
But ppl often talk about "in love" as if that's THE thing. I Googled it, but that didn't really clear things up either.
So when you meet someone you fall in love, and when it's all hunky-dory you ARE in love?
Meaning "in love" is more intense than "to love"?
Bluddy confusing all this love stuff

I can remember the last time I fell in love? It was this morning when I was having a shave!! Well if you don't love yourself to a point, how are you going to love someone else?

As I understand it, "falling" is something that happens to you. It's not an act of volition. Being "in love" can likewise be something that you do not actively desire and it can be like an afliction or akin to a state of insanity. "To love", may perhaps be different, as it can be something that you promise to do.

Heidegger is interesting on this as he talks about "being in". He tells us that dasein is not in the world as water may be in a glass but it is a situation one finds oneself in. We are in the world as someone can be in business, or in a social circle.

"Falling" is also a Heideggerian term and has religious overtones.

I love coffee. And books. So yeah, I'm in love. But not with people.

Think it is possible but very rare; usually just lust. That said I can usually tell someone pretty much on sight weather I like them or not so I don't know if that is judgemental, experience,
or instinct but it saves people a lot of time. Just because I feel I love someone does not mean I have to jump their bones to prove it.

I've fallen in love at first sight. Then the dude opened his mouth and I was like "Well, there goes that idea!".

Attraction can happen at first sight. That's not love. Love takes time.

For kids maybe

Love does take time to grow you can be ver attracted to someone at first glance but that's it

Years ago before I had even been on the internet I decided to try to meet someone through the newspaper contact ads. The way that it basically worked was that you recorded a short message about yourself and if people liked the sound of you they left a message for you with their phone number. I chatted with quite a lot of women and one of them told me about how she had met somebody before and she said that they just knew instantly and held hands and went into the pub. She obviously believed in love at first sight and she said that when she met me she would know, although we had talked on the phone quite a lot already.

Anyway, I did meet her at the railway station and took her to the pub and we chatted for a couple of hours. She was rather quiet and I had to do most of the talking but I thought that maybe she was just a bit shy. Then after I had gone home after the date she called me at about two in the morning and the first thing that she said to me was, "Sorry that it didn't work out". I asked her what she meant and she said that she found me to be rather intense and that disturbed her. I asked her if it was that she didn't think that I was good looking and she said, "Not at all" and it was just this vibe that she got from me, even though we had talked for hours on the phone and she had seemed to like me then and had seemed to be interested in the idea of romance with me.

Still not really sure what that was all about but I've met women since then and had dates that did go well. I can remember the first meetings that I had with all of the women that I have loved and although I didn't always know where it was going and neither did they, I guess that there was what they call chemistry and we had a good time together.

I remember the last one and that moment when I met her when she got off the bus. I hadn't even been expecting anything to happen that day and she was the one that had asked me out. I think that we were both unsure about each other but I just took her for a walk around the park and we chatted away and got to know each other. I wasn't pushy and wasn't trying to make anything happen. It all seemed to happen naturally. That's the way that it always seems to happen for me if it does happen. You can't possibly know if you love someone that you only just met but you can be open to the idea of it. If you aren't, then you are just wasting your time and theirs.

Looking back at that date years ago that didn't work out, I guess that I was desperate and that I was trying to force it; expecting it to be more than it was, like she was. I met one more woman through the contact ads after that and although I was actually more attracted to her, that date was terrible and she was really negative and not ready to meet anybody new. The whole experience had done my head in and I was feeling really depressed and sorry for myself because of it.

Then by chance I happened to meet a lady that was just a neighbor. I still really wanted a girlfriend but didn't try to force it with her and wasn't even sure that she was my type. We just hit it off and were both open to the idea of something happening between us. Now when I meet somebody I don't have some idea of "the ideal woman" in my head because nobody is ever going to match up to that. I don't really have any preconceptions about how the date is going to go either because I'm just open to the idea of meeting somebody new and it's not all about me and what I want.

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You can have your cappuccino I'll take my coffee with an Irish twist of Baileys.