I can comfortably retire at 62 which is 3 years and 7 months from now. I've worked all my life hard for this day! I've been on here for over a year with NO results and thinking "it's a waste of time and effort"on my part being here!! If this site works its a miracle as far as i can see over this timespan i've been here and the posts,winks, messages i've been active with? What are your thoughts about this?

What's up with this site? Is there a ignore button or somethin that just litterly makes my posts or responses to other posts not seen? I am a real person and no scammer!
Seems to me its going to be another History lesson for me on here as all the other sites i've tried?

So you're annoyed because no one has any thoughts on your retirement? Alrighty...

Congrats on your pending retirement...

As for the rest, no one is guaranteed to get a date on a dating site; so far, I haven't read anything that says you WILL find dates, there's just a possibility, like with everything else in life. You go apply for a job, you might get it you might not. Do you throw a hissy fit when they pass you over? I hope not....I have a friend who actually paid money to join a site and she eventually left, empty handed. It's a crap shoot. Just because you email random women doesn't mean they're going to be interested in you.

Try looking in your community as well as online, and you might have better luck.

I hope things get better for you, life is too short to get upset over a dating site.

Hey graywolf, I read your profile and several of your post on the forums.

My thoughts, "enjoy the forums and continue posting" your thoughts and opinions add a lot to the forums. You never know when Miss Right will come along. There are several on here that enjoy the forums and mingling with people.

Your profile noted that you were NOT looking for sex, maybe that is the problem, sad to mention but I have found talking to men and women sex seems to be the main object of dating.

I apology you and wish you the best.

The topic is "retiring" so now I would like to know what you plan to do after you retire.

You're a truck driver so you have probably traveled and seen most of the USA.

Retirement is what most people have planned for most of their lives, we all have our dreams. What are yours?

Well as for the retirement, I plan on probably moving near my Daughter and Grandchildren, i hold endorsement of passenger and School Bus on my CDL license. And am allowed to earn 12,thousand a year without being penalized on income after retiring. Then i can become more of a part in their lives as well as an asset to the community! After liquidateing all assets,buying a permanent Home and Gardening! As for your comment on sex you're right, but i never looked for just that in any relationship in the first place!! Still ready,willing and extremely able in that department without any help from a PILL,none in my age thinks its an important part in any relationship anymore. No dating site will ever help that out unless both are willing to give and receive in a healthy relationship.

Not upset just a little disappointed,and i never do get out in the community and mingle! Just seems most are interested in the money and not the relationship part of dating? I have been through a very wide range in dating from Bars to Church and its all the same!! The only difference is the women in bars just want to get drunk then they could care less who they wake up with? A walking case of VD!!!

My thought that if your attitude towards life is that you need to be rewarded for your efforts, you're bound to get disappointed.
Life doesn't work that way.
Enjoy what you have and get out of being here. And if that's nothing, then maybe you should simply move on.
Don't mean to be rude, just down to earth.

This is my 1074th posting. Some would say I'm wasting my time. As soon as I start feeling that way myself, I'm gone. Simple as that.

Correction (apology) rather I applaud you and wish you the best.

Yes,I feel the same as you do!! And that seemed like extremely good advice!!!

No apology necessary, And being a truckdriver that's you say has seen most of the USA i have except most of it was through the windshield of a Truck. You can't make any money at fuelstops or take layovers like most drivers do, you have to keep rolling!! I've been by Niagara Falls dozens of times, The Grand Canons,lots of places. But i did take my Daughter one week with me to see Seaworld in Florida! That was an experience, Try getting an 18 wheeler in there! You just can't drop your trailer anywhere Too many Thieves will hook to it and its gone. And Thank You!!!

Mingle is kinda more about mingling than being a site that has a high hookup rate. It happens but the site even early on became more of a get to know you site that gave off a more becoming friends vibe than lets get this relationship going vibe. Kinda weird really cause it seams this would be the perfect results type of site.

From what I'm told and I seeing, it's getting tougher for folks to hook up these days. The world has changed and finding some of the treasured values we looked for in partners has changed a lot too. There's an awful lot of baggage out there and focus on economy that has somehow made it's way into our thinking and, I think really messed things up.

Lives are different today. For example, how many of us have cool living rooms to hang out in? All of us right. But how many of us have empty living rooms? Use to be people got together in those rooms and we spent a lot of time socializing. There was a time when almost everyone had regular get togethers. Now our focus (sadly) is on other things and we have taken our eyes off of, in home mingling. An entire way of life and how we got to know each other has been removed and new values have replaced our thinking.

We are the ones who have made these new rules but it's very hard to turn back to many of the things that matter and truly build strong relationships. TV, stereo, sports, cooking, hobbies are a few things that use to bring us together, and there are those who still do them, but the majority of singles by far have not found the circles of friends that do these things with each other anymore. There are still groups and clubs but the same "want-to-ness" is not there like it was before.

Years ago, neighborhoods were vast playgrounds of activities between the kids and the parants of the kids. The streets were full of something going on in all age groups, but something happened. The streets in comparison are quiet today or full of crime, and the homes are empty and lifeless. I can remember when no one really talked about money, but today it's about couple partnerships that to me look more like business arrangements. Another thing that has changed greatly is small family businesses. They are all but gone and the guy with a skill is all but out on the street. The boom is bust and there are more talking about bad than good.

There's also change in the way we talk as opposed to before. In todays world we are stuck in grid lock about so many things whereas in days a while back we use to be able to accept our differences and meld. Back not too long ago we looked at things more from the positive and humorous side, now we are surrounded by downers.

Remember when there use to be Mr. Grumps around that we use to make fun of? Now we make fun of Mr Positive.

I do believe the tide will turn but I also believe it's going to skip a particular generation who forgot certain values.

We are in that generation. It's sad but we built it, we own it.

Tomorrow were going to wake up in a world a lot different from this one. It will be some what the same as the old but different in the way we are intouch with each other. For onr it won't be keypads but sight and sound, like skype. A phone will not be a phone but visual/audio. You room won't have people in it but you will be seen and they will see you, just like we are doing now but with visual. Think I'm kidding, go to the CES next year.

I wouldn't give up on mingle or even other sites. What I would do is look for the change in the ways we get together. We are going to continue to be more and more technology based and along with this as we start dealing with each other face to face (so to speak) our lives will begin to take on a "real" sense again. I believe (as dumb as you might think) this is going to begin a new chapter of an old tradition.

Let me ask you a question in this long winded post. If you were all of a sudden moved from behind your screen to all of us talking live with visual how would it change this site? How would it change our perspective of each other? This site would change overnight. Not only this site but the way we interact with people in general will change. One thing, people will start being held accountable again. It's a lot harder to buffalo you if your looking right at me.

This is just one area in change that's going to sweep. There are other ways our world is changing that will make todays world a ton different from tomorrows. We are hitting some low points but people have a way of letting the old die and bringing in the new, and it is usually done while we are not even aware. Since we have moved from sitting in our living rooms talking, to hiding behind a screen we have in some ways gone back in time and cut a part of our normal communication out. I believe in some ways it has made us non-transparent even non-personal. You put positive and personal back on the map and look how fast things will turn around.

This is just my take on this short period of time we call the computer age. An age that we went from the living room to a scene with nothing but words. Want to make a bet (I'm from vegas). Ten years from now almost all sites including dating sites will be keyboardless.

That's if you get the chance to retire my friend? The USA and my country the UK are virtually bankrupt. The writing has been on the wall for a long time now. It doesn't matter if you have $500 or $500,000 in the bank, you will lose it all. Not believe me? Do your homework on it and why this was the REAL reason why your government shutdown! I know it's off topic, but my mums in the same boat, as you? Due to retire shortly as well.

That's the exact reason i don't keep all my Money in a Bank, Just enough to pay the Bill's!!! But i do have a foolproof safe!! But you know I don't put value in how much you have-"Its who and what you are"that really makes you a Man or Woman!!And to go along with that is What you Know,!! You can be extremely BOOK SMART with what is happening today in the US but can you really survive if everything in the Government shuts down tomorrow? I know i won't starve and neither would my kin or friends!! And, NO i don't believe in an ipopuliquips and zombies neither!! What i really do not like is a user and people who think they can just ignore others because after their GREATNESS!! "Ignore is the first 6 letters in ignorance" and this i see happening more and more everyday!! Not the most on here "Just A Lot " on here!!

Awaiting that day, Because everything will be as it is supposed to be!!!

Graywolf, I've been following this post and have a question for you.

I'm sure you must come in contact with several women on the road, the same question could be asked. What's up, why no takers?

If a nice looking women about your age was to sit down next to you in a restaurant would you start a conversations with her?

For whatever reason, there seems to be a different set of rules for meeting online and meeting offline and what people discuss. Do you have any thoughts on this?

I really think so too, have a good weekend!

True. That's why it's best to look for relationships in the real world, you have a better chance.

I'm pretty happy I have the internet, and am looking forward to the day when it advances a little bit more so we can be in more personal contact with others. In the meantime I feel for those who are stuck in places that don't have a good social scene and or are stuck going to places that aren't them just to meet others.

When I read on here it about breaks my heart cause I can picture how many very nice people are not finding what they are hunting for. But I also understand that happy hour at the local bar these days may be be less than a good spot.

Socially we seem to be stuck in one of those inbetweens where only a few find their way upstream.

Bars are a crappy place to meet people, if nothing else, you're too drunk to make a wise decision (my experience.) I'm not sure where people should go to meet people, the old places used to be school, work or church, but if you aren't involved in any of those places, you're at a loss.