Topic: Retiring
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Sat 10/26/13 12:05 AM

Bars are a crappy place to meet people, if nothing else, you're too drunk to make a wise decision (my experience.) I'm not sure where people should go to meet people, the old places used to be school, work or church, but if you aren't involved in any of those places, you're at a loss.


bigtime, that's why we mingle

I think a lot are asking the same question. Where and how?

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Sat 10/26/13 12:07 AM
Supermarkets maybe....eyes meeting over bags of potatoes might be semi-romantic.

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Sat 10/26/13 04:09 AM


What's up with this site? I am a real person and no scammer! Seems to me its going to be another History lesson for me on here as all the other sites i've tried?


Graywolf, I've been following this post and have a question for you.

I'm sure you must come in contact with several women on the road, the same question could be asked. What's up, why no takers?

If a nice looking women about your age was to sit down next to you in a restaurant would you start a conversations with her?

For whatever reason, there seems to be a different set of rules for meeting online and meeting offline and what people discuss. Do you have any thoughts on this?
If i'm out anywhere yes i have the courtesy to speak to anyone and most of the time speak first. I'm not stuckup or think i'm better than anyone, nomatter of race,gender,nationality,religion! I'm happier being in mistiuf,aggravation or anything to put a smile on peoples faces just to make their day better!! Even with my Work i'm requested by customers for their deliveries!When i work by best solunion for tension is having fun! Same as any relationship!! If you can't enjoy it"don't do it"! I enjoy the "meeting" part and come with an open mind on dates! No judgmental thoughts, Then if it is not a workable experience i may have a new friend!! "LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE AN *******" Never done it in the past !

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Sat 10/26/13 04:42 AM
And as for meeting women when i was over-the-road, Yes and most were waitresses when i was eating! And at the time I was Married and knew how to keep "my pickle in my pants" ! These days with the types of diseases going around i just won't risk a Thrill and then watch a woman that i Loved Die slowly!!Not Me! never has,never will!! Besides rubbers bust when i use them,and if the weather is that bad outside---- Military 4 years "sorry Charlie stay Home"!happy LMAO

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Sat 10/26/13 05:21 AM

I'm pretty happy I have the internet, and am looking forward to the day when it advances a little bit more so we can be in more personal contact with others. In the meantime I feel for those who are stuck in places that don't have a good social scene and or are stuck going to places that aren't them just to meet others.

When I read on here it about breaks my heart cause I can picture how many very nice people are not finding what they are hunting for. But I also understand that happy hour at the local bar these days may be be less than a good spot.

Socially we seem to be stuck in one of those inbetweens where only a few find their way upstream.


When I read the above I thought, "how true" the world is changing and people are using the internet whether to look for romance or stay in contact with friends and family these days.

But people are who they are no matter how we meet them, we can have a large following of friends and acquaintances but finding that special person for our soul mate is another story whether me meet people online or offline. Look at the divorce and separation figures/numbers, people don't stay in relationships that are unhappy like past generations did. I don't think relationships have changed, it's our value system, and how we deal with issues.

I've found meeting someone online is a whole different experiences then meeting them offline. Conversations start off different, people don't seem to have the same respect that is there when we meet in a public environment. I believe we have to hold people accountable for their rudeness just as we would if we met offline.


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Sat 10/26/13 05:28 AM

And as for meeting women when i was over-the-road, Yes and most were waitresses when i was eating! And at the time I was Married and knew how to keep "my pickle in my pants" ! These days with the types of diseases going around i just won't risk a Thrill and then watch a woman that i Loved Die slowly!!Not Me! never has,never will!! Besides rubbers bust when i use them,and if the weather is that bad outside---- Military 4 years "sorry Charlie stay Home"!happy LMAO


Graywolf, you are funny, nice to see a guy with a sense of humor. You can add a lot to these forums. You should start another topic I'm sure you must have some pet peeves that would be of interest to discuss.

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Sat 10/26/13 02:18 PM


And as for meeting women when i was over-the-road, Yes and most were waitresses when i was eating! And at the time I was Married and knew how to keep "my pickle in my pants" ! These days with the types of diseases going around i just won't risk a Thrill and then watch a woman that i Loved Die slowly!!Not Me! never has,never will!! Besides rubbers bust when i use them,and if the weather is that bad outside---- Military 4 years "sorry Charlie stay Home"!happy LMAO


Graywolf, you are funny, nice to see a guy with a sense of humor. You can add a lot to these forums. You should start another topic I'm sure you must have some pet peeves that would be of interest to discuss.
laugh laugh At 58 with the profession i'm in it is hard to have a good since of humor"its a wonder i didn't turn out one of those"GRUMPY OLD MEN"! But keeping a light attitude towards Life has probably got this far in my life with what i've gone through!!! And i do have another Topic to discuss that will tell you more about my accomplishment getting this far ahead- Hopeing to hear more about everyone else's on here? I would love that very much as most of my posts are ignored in the past!! explode

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Sun 10/27/13 06:37 AM
Edited by mowildflower on Sun 10/27/13 06:39 AM


You said, And i do have another Topic to discuss that will tell you more about my accomplishment getting this far ahead- Hopeing to hear more about everyone else's on here? I would love that very much as most of my posts are ignored in the past!! explode


I will be watching for another topic started by you about your accomplishments. Colder weather will drive me inside and I will be spending more time on the computer.

When I joined this site in July 2010 I had lots of time to read profiles and the forums, I was recovering from a back injury. Needless to tell you I found the dating sites and people interesting, it has been an education. I don't read all the topics but since I'm retired your topic on "retiring" caught my eye.

Now the site and some of the people on here have become almost like extended family. I'm interested in what is happening in their lives.

As far as dating a guy, I've found that the guys I find interesting and I feel I have something in common with live too far away. Most guys are NOT interested in a long distance relationship. I feel like dating is about getting to know someone and that takes time.

You discussed a lady you went out with for three months and after awhile you broke it off. I believe that is part of the dating game taking the time to get to know someone and knowing when to walk away.

This is way off subject since the topic is "retiring" so it is time for you to start another one.

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Sun 10/27/13 09:33 AM
Edited by navygirl on Sun 10/27/13 09:33 AM
Graywolf; congrats on your retirement. As for meeting someone, I don't know what to tell you. You seem like a real decent guy by what you write on your posts here. If I had a magic wand; I would wave it and you have the perfect woman in your arms but it's not within my power. I don't know about where you live but here, we have lots of group meet ups for people of all ages. I think it's a great way to meet new people and share some of the same interests. Just a thought. My best wishes for you.

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Sun 10/27/13 12:37 PM

Graywolf; congrats on your retirement. As for meeting someone, I don't know what to tell you. You seem like a real decent guy by what you write on your posts here. If I had a magic wand; I would wave it and you have the perfect woman in your arms but it's not within my power. I don't know about where you live but here, we have lots of group meet ups for people of all ages. I think it's a great way to meet new people and share some of the same interests. Just a thought. My best wishes for you.
I've found out in life nothing is perfect until its dead, After Death there is NO room for improvement!! There is always some way in improving something "Even Yourself" all you need to do is to stop looking in Mirrows and start searching your HEART!!So if you have nothing to give back don't expect anymore than You are willing to give or at least put your best effort at it!! Me- i never expect anything so i'm never disappointed!!

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Sun 10/27/13 12:54 PM


Graywolf; congrats on your retirement. As for meeting someone, I don't know what to tell you. You seem like a real decent guy by what you write on your posts here. If I had a magic wand; I would wave it and you have the perfect woman in your arms but it's not within my power. I don't know about where you live but here, we have lots of group meet ups for people of all ages. I think it's a great way to meet new people and share some of the same interests. Just a thought. My best wishes for you.
I've found out in life nothing is perfect until its dead, After Death there is NO room for improvement!! There is always some way in improving something "Even Yourself" all you need to do is to stop looking in Mirrows and start searching your HEART!!So if you have nothing to give back don't expect anymore than You are willing to give or at least put your best effort at it!! Me- i never expect anything so i'm never disappointed!!


I am like that too that I never expect anything so I am never disappointed. I am always trying to improve myself as a person but I do it strictly for me and not for others.

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Mon 10/28/13 02:50 AM
Will, I'm trying to figure out if you plan to retire when you are 62 or wait until you are 67. You have mentioned both ages in various post.

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Mon 10/28/13 03:18 AM


I'm pretty happy I have the internet, and am looking forward to the day when it advances a little bit more so we can be in more personal contact with others. In the meantime I feel for those who are stuck in places that don't have a good social scene and or are stuck going to places that aren't them just to meet others.

When I read on here it about breaks my heart cause I can picture how many very nice people are not finding what they are hunting for. But I also understand that happy hour at the local bar these days may be be less than a good spot.

Socially we seem to be stuck in one of those inbetweens where only a few find their way upstream.


When I read the above I thought, "how true" the world is changing and people are using the internet whether to look for romance or stay in contact with friends and family these days.

But people are who they are no matter how we meet them, we can have a large following of friends and acquaintances but finding that special person for our soul mate is another story whether me meet people online or offline. Look at the divorce and separation figures/numbers, people don't stay in relationships that are unhappy like past generations did. I don't think relationships have changed, it's our value system, and how we deal with issues.

I've found meeting someone online is a whole different experiences then meeting them offline. Conversations start off different, people don't seem to have the same respect that is there when we meet in a public environment. I believe we have to hold people accountable for their rudeness just as we would if we met offline.




The world has become different that's for sure. I read so many nice people up here and wonder if they'll ever find that person they are hunting for. It would be so great if they were all in the same place I think. Rudeness though, I don't know. Maybe it's me but I find that the rudeness level is going up period and it's getting to me. It's probably my sensitivity to it, but I see people walking on others and not looking back. It's been really bugging me lately and I'm noticing it so much.

Is it just a lack of respect anymore?

Last night I was at a diner party and noticed how self centered the people were and how they were fighting each other for the floor. It looked like a bunch of people talking with no one listening. I watched it for a couple of hours then had to leave and go back to my world. I thought who would want to be around that but there they were acting like it was ok to be so rude.

I think that's why I like to stay in my little world. If I had to choose lonely or rude, lonely wins big.

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Mon 10/28/13 03:25 AM
I've been trying to think of a woman friend I know between the ages of 50/60 who I could introduce you to. Someone who didn't have lots of baggage and children living at home, who wasn't involved in their adult children's lives, someone who would like to live in a purple school bus with a loving, honest, caring guy who lives in Virginia and was only around on weekends. Right off the top of my hat I couldn't think of anyone but I'll keep thinking, it takes a special woman to fill those requirements. I was married to a long-haul driver/trucker until he died of lung cancer in 2003 so I am well aware of the life style.

I loved going with him in the truck but I hated the truck stops, I hated sitting in the restaurants waiting for the dispatcher to call with a load, I don't know how he did it. It was the only thing he knew, he started driving over the road right off the farm as a young boy. He was still driving long haul when he was diagnosed with cancer right up until a year of him dying. Trucking was all he knew and loved even though he complained about what he saw going on out there.

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Mon 10/28/13 12:42 PM

I've been trying to think of a woman friend I know between the ages of 50/60 who I could introduce you to. Someone who didn't have lots of baggage and children living at home, who wasn't involved in their adult children's lives, someone who would like to live in a purple school bus with a loving, honest, caring guy who lives in Virginia and was only around on weekends. Right off the top of my hat I couldn't think of anyone but I'll keep thinking, it takes a special woman to fill those requirements. I was married to a long-haul driver/trucker until he died of lung cancer in 2003 so I am well aware of the life style.

I loved going with him in the truck but I hated the truck stops, I hated sitting in the restaurants waiting for the dispatcher to call with a load, I don't know how he did it. It was the only thing he knew, he started driving over the road right off the farm as a young boy. He was still driving long haul when he was diagnosed with cancer right up until a year of him dying. Trucking was all he knew and loved even though he complained about what he saw going on out there.
The school bus has been my project now for 2+ years, I would say more but at least Barney has discouraged lots of Women even on here to contact me or go any further in knowing anything more about me!! It will be the 1st home of mine anyone views! It does have discouraging methods. If all think that's it"they are wrong" Everyone can think what they want"" As for your husband "i'm very sorry to hear about his deal with cancer"from the heart"And i wish you the best through Life! There are Very Few "Good Men or Women" left on this Earth and i do think they are afraid to even try anymore because of some piece of S*it that done them wrong by using, abusing,or not even trying!! This has been one of my best posts in my opinion because each and everyone of you participated"! "You are some of the BEST!!!!flowerforyou

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Mon 10/28/13 12:45 PM



I'm pretty happy I have the internet, and am looking forward to the day when it advances a little bit more so we can be in more personal contact with others. In the meantime I feel for those who are stuck in places that don't have a good social scene and or are stuck going to places that aren't them just to meet others.

When I read on here it about breaks my heart cause I can picture how many very nice people are not finding what they are hunting for. But I also understand that happy hour at the local bar these days may be be less than a good spot.

Socially we seem to be stuck in one of those inbetweens where only a few find their way upstream.


When I read the above I thought, "how true" the world is changing and people are using the internet whether to look for romance or stay in contact with friends and family these days.

But people are who they are no matter how we meet them, we can have a large following of friends and acquaintances but finding that special person for our soul mate is another story whether me meet people online or offline. Look at the divorce and separation figures/numbers, people don't stay in relationships that are unhappy like past generations did. I don't think relationships have changed, it's our value system, and how we deal with issues.

I've found meeting someone online is a whole different experiences then meeting them offline. Conversations start off different, people don't seem to have the same respect that is there when we meet in a public environment. I believe we have to hold people accountable for their rudeness just as we would if we met offline.




The world has become different that's for sure. I read so many nice people up here and wonder if they'll ever find that person they are hunting for. It would be so great if they were all in the same place I think. Rudeness though, I don't know. Maybe it's me but I find that the rudeness level is going up period and it's getting to me. It's probably my sensitivity to it, but I see people walking on others and not looking back. It's been really bugging me lately and I'm noticing it so much.

Is it just a lack of respect anymore?

Last night I was at a diner party and noticed how self centered the people were and how they were fighting each other for the floor. It looked like a bunch of people talking with no one listening. I watched it for a couple of hours then had to leave and go back to my world. I thought who would want to be around that but there they were acting like it was ok to be so rude.

I think that's why I like to stay in my little world. If I had to choose lonely or rude, lonely wins big.


Agreed that its better to be alone than rude. I have found there are a few rude people here as well though.

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Mon 10/28/13 12:59 PM



I'm pretty happy I have the internet, and am looking forward to the day when it advances a little bit more so we can be in more personal contact with others. In the meantime I feel for those who are stuck in places that don't have a good social scene and or are stuck going to places that aren't them just to meet others.

When I read on here it about breaks my heart cause I can picture how many very nice people are not finding what they are hunting for. But I also understand that happy hour at the local bar these days may be be less than a good spot.

Socially we seem to be stuck in one of those inbetweens where only a few find their way upstream.


When I read the above I thought, "how true" the world is changing and people are using the internet whether to look for romance or stay in contact with friends and family these days.

But people are who they are no matter how we meet them, we can have a large following of friends and acquaintances but finding that special person for our soul mate is another story whether me meet people online or offline. Look at the divorce and separation figures/numbers, people don't stay in relationships that are unhappy like past generations did. I don't think relationships have changed, it's our value system, and how we deal with issues.

I've found meeting someone online is a whole different experiences then meeting them offline. Conversations start off different, people don't seem to have the same respect that is there when we meet in a public environment. I believe we have to hold people accountable for their rudeness just as we would if we met offline.




The world has become different that's for sure. I read so many nice people up here and wonder if they'll ever find that person they are hunting for. It would be so great if they were all in the same place I think. Rudeness though, I don't know. Maybe it's me but I find that the rudeness level is going up period and it's getting to me. It's probably my sensitivity to it, but I see people walking on others and not looking back. It's been really bugging me lately and I'm noticing it so much.

Is it just a lack of respect anymore?

Last night I was at a diner party and noticed how self centered the people were and how they were fighting each other for the floor. It looked like a bunch of people talking with no one listening. I watched it for a couple of hours then had to leave and go back to my world. I thought who would want to be around that but there they were acting like it was ok to be so rude.

I think that's why I like to stay in my little world. If I had to choose lonely or rude, lonely wins big.
noway I've noticed that a lot also,That's why i put Barney on my profile pictures!! I've been through those "Users" in the past! And as for the question omg my retiring?It will be when i'm 62 not 67. Yes i did post 67 but that was before i did some research with a friend of mine!! My baggage has been gone for Years and i intend to have a hell of a good time very soon. With or without anyone to share it with!!Good Luck and Love to All!!

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Mon 10/28/13 01:09 PM
Will, I have a neighbor, she is a really sweet gal, I could see the two of you together BUT she is 44 and works full time to support herself so she wouldn't be able to retire when you do. She does not hang out in bars/saloons, she works and takes care of her home and one child who I believe graduates in another year. Did I mention she owns her own home free and clear.

She has great work ethics and when her two oldest children graduated from high school she helped them out the front door to find employment and support themselves since they had no plans to further their education.

Now I know a lot of other gals who are like the gals you just spent the summer with, real loser/dead beats, wouldn't introduce even my worse enemy to them. (Might need to give that some further thought) chuckle!!!

Your purple bus in perfect for you, that is what my husband and I probably would have done if he was still living.

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Tue 10/29/13 01:15 AM

Will, I have a neighbor, she is a really sweet gal, I could see the two of you together BUT she is 44 and works full time to support herself so she wouldn't be able to retire when you do. She does not hang out in bars/saloons, she works and takes care of her home and one child who I believe graduates in another year. Did I mention she owns her own home free and clear.

She has great work ethics and when her two oldest children graduated from high school she helped them out the front door to find employment and support themselves since they had no plans to further their education.

Now I know a lot of other gals who are like the gals you just spent the summer with, real loser/dead beats, wouldn't introduce even my worse enemy to them. (Might need to give that some further thought) chuckle!!!

Your purple bus in perfect for you, that is what my husband and I probably would have done if he was still living.
I have my own share of losers and users"remember i am living in the DC area" for now! Seems to me most people here act like those idiots in Washington!! and as for hanging out in bars,When i do drink its at home"These licences don't come easy and are harder kept without being stupid.
Oh, Navygirl- we both know what Military Disciple is some on here needs a taste of that!! I for one would probably be dead or in jail if the Army hadn't cooled my jets off during my enlistment, i was a hellraiser before then!

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Tue 10/29/13 01:17 AM

Will, I have a neighbor, she is a really sweet gal, I could see the two of you together BUT she is 44 and works full time to support herself so she wouldn't be able to retire when you do. She does not hang out in bars/saloons, she works and takes care of her home and one child who I believe graduates in another year. Did I mention she owns her own home free and clear.

She has great work ethics and when her two oldest children graduated from high school she helped them out the front door to find employment and support themselves since they had no plans to further their education.

Now I know a lot of other gals who are like the gals you just spent the summer with, real loser/dead beats, wouldn't introduce even my worse enemy to them. (Might need to give that some further thought) chuckle!!!

Your purple bus in perfect for you, that is what my husband and I probably would have done if he was still living.
I have my own share of losers and users"remember i am living in the DC area" for now! Seems to me most people here act like those idiots in Washington!! and as for hanging out in bars,When i do drink its at home"These licences don't come easy and are harder kept without being stupid.
Oh, Navygirl- we both know what Military Disciple is some on here needs a taste of that!! I for one would probably be dead or in jail if the Army hadn't cooled my jets off during my enlistment, i was a hellraiser before then!