People tend to seek what they feel lacking in sufficient quantity or quality in life.

Is "fun-seeking"�� an indication that is inadequate or unsatisfactory in one's life?

Is a need to be entertained a major driving force?

Is everyday life boring or drudgery, necessitating escape or relief?

Do you feel people should have profiles more on the serious side? Does that indicate to you that they have an adequate and satisfactory life?

It is good question and observation.

Good answer though.

If this is the basic thought, you could have a point.
Question is whether that is indeed the basic principle or not. Ppl tend to assume other ppl think and feel the way they do themselves. So actually this probably says something about you.

I am not looking for someone who can bring me qualities I am lacking. I'm looking for someone with either similar qualities or complementary qualities. And in case you want to pick up on that: complementary is NOT the same as lacking something.
Complementary is kind of like an extra, lacking is not enough / missing out.

I have no opinion regarding what people "should" do, but simply question why "FUN" is given high (or first) priority in many profiles.




As stated, I observe that people tend to seek what THEY feel is "lacking in sufficient quantity or quality" in their life. I know nothing of anyone's life beyond what they communicate. If they demonstrate a need for more donuts (for example), I accept that they desire more donuts and/or feel that they have insufficient donuts.

Perhaps they want more donuts because they simply enjoy donuts? Sounds like you're over thinking things.

Well, in many cases probably because many ppl are unhappy on their own. Many ppl rely on someone else in their life to feel happy and have fun.

Basically it's marketing and you attract what you put out there. I don't think there's a wrong or right, just what you are looking for

Good point; please include all those bizarre wishes for "someone to make me laugh"...so many are seemingly looking for clowns as they seem to have lives in which they never laugh...

I enjoy people who make me laugh and look for that in others. Do you believe that means I don't laugh?

If they want more they must not be satisfied with the donuts they have (feel a lack / insufficiency).



I prefer to risk "over thinking" rather than "under thinking."

It seems a bit incongruent, however, if one who says "I want to eat healthy"�� also says "I want more donuts."

Edited to correct quotation marks

I don't think that wanting more of something necessarily means you're unhappy with what you have. Wanting to listen to a song one more time doesn't mean I an unsatisfied with it. Wanting more beach time doesn't mean I'm unsatisfied with it. Wanting to have another beer doesn't mean I'm unsatisfied with it. Wanting to see a certain person again doesn't mean I'm unsatisfied with them. Your way of thinking doesn't work for everything.

Who said eating healthy means you want more donuts? You're the one who brought up donuts here and this thread wasn't about eating healthy. That was one of your previous threads, right?

"��Unhappy with what you have"�� is not synonymous with "not enough (insufficient)"��



How does one want more of what the already have in sufficient quality and quantity? If they have all the beach time or beer they want, how could they want more? If they see a certain person as much as they want, how can they want more?



The donut allusion was in reference to "I want a serious, committed relationship"�� but placing greatest emphasis on "fun" with only incidental mention of substantive qualities. Sorry I didn't expand on that.

Perhaps fun and entertainment ARE the most important aspects of a relationship to many people and they regard me as being out of step by placing emphasis elsewhere. So be it. I seldom go with the crowd.

If you don't want someone who is looking for fun and entertainment, look for others. It's really that simple. We all have different preferences. For example, I don't go for arrogant guys, so I look for those who aren't arrogant.

Many profiles have incorrect information about the Man. Often times when I meet they are not All they say they are. So, I would rather just get to know the man in person. Profiles are really not very informative. IMO

Many Men on date sites look for Photos of women they rarely read all the profiles.

They like to have fun, and want to find a mate who likes the same.

Pretty simple really.

Dating is supposed to be fun.

When we forget that...when everything is serious and no one bothers with fun....we may as well hook back up with our exes...remember how much fun they weren't?

There is a damned good reason we ain't with them....they were no damned fun.

I want my partner to be fun and funny, when our time is together we should always be laughing and having fun. It's not all about sex and there should be some depth too if something traumatic happens, be there for each other, but we don't go out seeking boring relationship....we seek to have fun and joy in our lives. Society lacks it with underpaid overworked employees...sometimes we just want to go out and let our hair down.