Topic: i think my bf is gay
jerrypat's photo
Tue 09/10/13 06:23 PM
I believe he should seek the face of God and he wil be delievered,bcushe is not normal,25C09B7F,always watch and pray,the lord is our Godlove

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Tue 09/10/13 06:37 PM
First off, if you do stick something in his butt, like previously suggested, that is in no way an indicator of homosexuality.

Well it would be for me when i went berserk on someones azz !
lol
rofl
being a guy and wanting things """" is sure as hell not NORMAL!
JMHO
drinker

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Tue 09/10/13 06:49 PM
A stiff penis has a mind of its own.

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Tue 09/10/13 07:08 PM
Come on man, never had a girl lick your *******?
(Is this too explicit for the message board?)

krupa's photo
Tue 09/10/13 08:03 PM

Come on man, never had a girl lick your *******?
(Is this too explicit for the message board?)


Yes...and its great.

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Tue 09/10/13 08:24 PM


He has been showing signs of it lately. He wants to have a threesome with other males a lot and when we do he gets off faster when he has contact with them. He doesn't have sex with them,only me. But for a straight male lime he says he is I'm seeing too many signs. Can someone please help me figure out if he might be. I can tell about more things that he does when someone replies.HELP PLEASE!!

Jennifer - since you are having a sexual relationship with this man, why is it that you cannot have a heart to heart with him. Talk to him! Ask him why he wishes to have an extra person in bed with you. If you are seeing lots of signs, you should be honest and give him the chance to say what's on his mind.

In the meantime, you have agreed to have threesomes. So what are you actually feeling? You said your relationship is hanging by a thread and all the info seems to be based on sex. Not that we want or even need more info!

Don't get me wrong, but isn't the most important part of a relationship the Communication part! This is where you need to step up as long as you're prepared for any answer! Don't ask if you don't want to know!

Sometimes the truth does hurt! I wish you well! flowerforyou


I agree with Ouizee. The only way to find out what another person is thinking is to ask that person. You may be fearful of the answer; being vulnerable can be scary and risky, but it really is the only way to navigate the situation in a respectful way. flowerforyou Take care of you.

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Tue 09/10/13 08:42 PM
Edited by kc0003 on Tue 09/10/13 08:47 PM
this is not that difficult to figure out.

next time you are being dp'd politely excuse yourself. grab 4 shot glasses, some tequila and pack of smokes. fill each glass and light up.

now, take a shot and wait 10 minutes, then take another shot. wait 10 more minutes and light another smoke, then take the third shot. after (you guessed it) 10 minutes pass, throw back the last shot.

if by this time you are still sitting alone, go ahead and have a few more shots, because you have just found out that your bf is indeed gay.

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Tue 09/10/13 08:44 PM

Come on man, never had a girl lick your *******?
(Is this too explicit for the message board?)



Bahahaha..so this.drinker :banana:

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Wed 09/11/13 03:35 AM

I agree with Ouizee. The only way to find out what another person is thinking is to ask that person. You may be fearful of the answer; being vulnerable can be scary and risky, but it really is the only way to navigate the situation in a respectful way. flowerforyou Take care of you.

Might still not get her the answer if he ain't ready to admit he's indeed gay or bi. She said he's adamant about being hetero, so I take it, that if he's indeed gay, he ain't ready to come out of the closet.
What also isn't clear to me, he doesn't do anything with those guys? So you are the one who has to sexercise them? That doesn't mean he's gay or bi, some men like to see their woman sexercise other men and get off on that.
So I guess it depends on what the 'other signs' are.

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Wed 09/11/13 04:01 AM
If he is allowing other men to have sex with you that should be a sign that he is not a person that is going to love you and only you. You are getting set up for the "i did it because you let other guys screw you" speech. Its coming so be prepared to find him with someone else. He may not be gay but he is a man and whether bi or not you are engaging in and condoning whatever he is up.to.

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Wed 09/11/13 06:49 PM
Sounds like he just likes to watch you with other men. If you're okay with that, more power to you. I agree with the others, why not just ask him if he's gay? Better than guessing; none of us knows him so we can't say for sure....

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Wed 09/11/13 06:51 PM


I agree with Ouizee. The only way to find out what another person is thinking is to ask that person. You may be fearful of the answer; being vulnerable can be scary and risky, but it really is the only way to navigate the situation in a respectful way. flowerforyou Take care of you.

Might still not get her the answer if he ain't ready to admit he's indeed gay or bi. She said he's adamant about being hetero, so I take it, that if he's indeed gay, he ain't ready to come out of the closet.
What also isn't clear to me, he doesn't do anything with those guys? So you are the one who has to sexercise them? That doesn't mean he's gay or bi, some men like to see their woman sexercise other men and get off on that.
So I guess it depends on what the 'other signs' are.


Yes, to all of this.

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Wed 09/11/13 09:52 PM

First off, if you do stick something in his butt, like previously suggested, that is in no way an indicator of homosexuality.

Second, I read "my bf" and "threesome" in the same sentence. I ****ing lol'ed. You guys... Crack me up.

A serious answer to you though may be that he's not a homo, but just gets off on seeing you be a dirty slut.

I'm sorry, that's straight up my opinion. Had many threesomes, NONE of them with someone I was in a committed relationship with, or respected.

TL;DR: He's not gay, he's into humiliation.



I kinda agree with this. Only cuz I think ur dude may have some sick fantasy - of seeing u with other men..while still being a part of the action. Hence, the 3some. I say if y'all agree with the 3some thing, go for it. It may enhance ur relationship (make it more fun). If not, then tell him straight-up that is not what u want.

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Thu 09/12/13 01:12 AM
Edited by Rawrr_Girl on Thu 09/12/13 01:18 AM

Sounds like he just likes to watch you with other men.


This is called 'Voyeurism'. It can develop in someone since childhood, As much as I say this while wincing uncomfortably at this fact, a child sometimes accidentally witnesses one or both of their parents having sex, or seeing/hearing something similar. The child then feels a fascination for it. And that's where it begins and carries through to adulthood. One of my ex's loved me to watch him making out with others, but for me it crossed the line. I wanted him for myself only. He only ever did this while drunk, hence it seeming like I had no control of the situation. I did when he was sober, but as soon as he had about five Vodka's down him, it was a very different story. And if I tried to remind him that I was his girlfriend, he told me to f*** off. I really started to feel uncared for. He was like a spoilt brat. I still wonder if he's like that even now. I just couldn't bare watching him. He was meant to be with ME, not them aswell. ohwell

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Thu 09/12/13 02:02 PM


Sounds like he just likes to watch you with other men.


This is called 'Voyeurism'. It can develop in someone since childhood, As much as I say this while wincing uncomfortably at this fact, a child sometimes accidentally witnesses one or both of their parents having sex, or seeing/hearing something similar. The child then feels a fascination for it. And that's where it begins and carries through to adulthood. One of my ex's loved me to watch him making out with others, but for me it crossed the line. I wanted him for myself only. He only ever did this while drunk, hence it seeming like I had no control of the situation. I did when he was sober, but as soon as he had about five Vodka's down him, it was a very different story. And if I tried to remind him that I was his girlfriend, he told me to f*** off. I really started to feel uncared for. He was like a spoilt brat. I still wonder if he's like that even now. I just couldn't bare watching him. He was meant to be with ME, not them aswell. ohwell


That was not a real boyfriend Rawrr...just a very bad imposter. flowerforyou

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Thu 09/12/13 08:50 PM
Look... I'm bi and I love my girl like crazy. Maybe he's curious. So what. I am masculine and still like sex with men. But only sex. No love. He probably gets off on being dirty. Btw what's his number?

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Thu 09/12/13 08:50 PM
Look... I'm bi and I love my girl like crazy. Maybe he's curious. So what. I am masculine and still like sex with men. But only sex. No love. He probably gets off on being dirty. Btw what's his number?

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Thu 09/12/13 10:49 PM
My question to you is..do you really want to do this? OR are you doing this for your boyfriend? IF your boyfriend was gay, he would be making moves towards the other guy by now, he wouldn't be able to hold back from at least touching him.
I think this could back fire on you. What is going to happen when you get into a big fight and he throws this up to you? Even if it was his idea to do it, he will use it against you.
I know I could never do it nor would I do it just to please my boyfriend. I think you need to sit down with him and have a long talk. Ask him if he is a bi, I don't think he is gay because he is with you. But then again, I have known gay men that have been married just to hide the fact that they are gay.
I am sorry but to me he is disrespecting you by having you sleep with other men with him. UNLESS you like it and don't feel guilty about it?? IF you are not happy doing it, DON'T do it. I just don't see how anyone could do that then have respect for themselves in the morning...but that is just me!!!

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Thu 09/12/13 11:12 PM
Edited by Simonedemidova on Thu 09/12/13 11:18 PM

Its not a laughing matter,its very serious and my relationship I have with this man is hanging by a thread. Serious replies only please. I need help with this.


If he gets off quicker when males are around he's gay, most straight men, ALL straight men, who are not Bi-sexual would completely gross out if there was another exposed Male genital within their view let alone reach. No offense to you, but he could be using your relationship as a cover for his friends and family. Some guys who are prideful or still in the closet use women just for that reason. It's not you honey it's him. I would dump him. Don't become more emotionally attached unless you love him enough to support him and be his best friend forever. He obviously feels comfortable and can trust you. But be sure he isn't using you. I have a feeling he is. Most men want two women not more men in the room. Bi-sexual.....maybe, but if men turn him on more quickly I'm guessing straight gay in the closet using you as a pride buffer. ohwell good luck.

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Thu 09/12/13 11:19 PM

Just freaking Y U CCC K
noway
I don't share my lady EVER !
How nastyyyyy !
spock
plus side is YOU must be getting well satisfied i imagine...
:laughing:


My bf would die!