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I once used to purge, whenever I broke up with someone. The hurt of feeling heartbroken made me feel slightly angry, so I had this secret urge to make myself feel sick, to take my mind off the hurt. Because when you're physically unwell, you forget anything that may affect you mentally, as long as you're in enough pain, or feel quite pukey. I couldn't find a good enough reason to convince me to stop, until one morning, I got one of the harshest stomach pains I've never felt before. This pain was quite bad. I thought my binge eating was the cause. My dr warned me that if I don't stop, I coukd end up damaging my colon/bowel. He told me why there's a reason we get full, and should stop when we feel full. It was obviously pretty serious, so I knew it was bad. I had to snap out of it. I discovered comedy, and that's a much better healer, and probably a HEALTHIER one, too :) Purging will also ruin your teeth. I am happy that you found a much healthier way to snap out of a heartbreak. Trust me, you do not want to go through any colon problems..I had colon cancer and that was one of the worse surgeries I have ever had to go through!! Sorry to hear you had to go through that  . I guess I just had it in for myself, so I was punishing myself. You know, the self-destruction phase. My family knew about it, by the way I changed my eating habits, e.g, not eating anymore while sat at the dining table with them. They noticed something was up. I was stupid. I know. How long did you have cancer for?
I had colon cancer in 04 and went into remission in 08, just about when I lost my Dad to cancer. I still have to be checked for cancer all the time because my rate to re-get cancer is very high. They actually found my cancer very early, stage 2. I had to do surgery and lost 17 inches of my colon but I had to do no chemo, I was very lucky. Plus being in the nursing field, I actually would have never done the chemo...now my doctor is saying that I am not healthy enough to make it through any kind of chemo so I keep praying it never comes back any where!! |
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I have to keep the faith that I don't have. How the hell does that work?  I think it's just a matter of staying positive. We all have that habit of letting depressing thoughts ping back into our mind, but if we really want to chase the bad thoughts away, we can. It's all about ignoring them. Shooing them away. Of course, it's never easy at first. It's like brain training. |
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They say God never gives you more than you can handle. They say keep the faith, never give up. They say winners never quit, and quitters never win. They say nothing's impossible. But isn't there a fine line somewhere between faith and reality? Isn't there a point at which you have to admit that what you want is unattainable and move on? How do you know when you've reached that point, when you've crossed that line? Whether it be in pursuing your dreams, or when evaluating your relationship with someone, or in anything that you strive to accomplish, what makes you say "I can't do this anymore, enough is enough already!"? Absolutely, in every aspect of life there comes a point of surrender....It's imperative to understand that surrender does not always mean failure, sometimes it means success and winning!....Like the song says, "You've got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em....Knowing is where faith comes in...Faith in yourself, faith in god, doesn't really matter.... "Know when to walk away, know when to run..." If you're a Kenny Rogers fan, you must know the song "The Greatest"?! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-K3DI07Ibb4 Love this song, and it goes perfectly with the topic too! And with your belief that you have to keep the faith in yourself! Thanks for making me pull it out of the memory stores. I truly do believe that things happen for a reason. This confirms that for me. Much appreciated.
Just listened ...I am a fan and that song and vid, awesome, so cute!...Hugs MissWright! :) |
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Everyone who hass succeeded and had their deams come true give this advice "Don't ever give up, anything is possible'
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Woman prays to God every night "Lord, please let me hit the lottery. Amen!" She does this night after night without fail, yet she doesn't hit the lottery. Finally one night she says angrily "Lord, why do you not hear my words? You want me to have faith in you but yet you don't answer my prayers. I don't understand." Suddenly the woman hears a booming voice from above that says "Help me out woman. Buy a damn lottery ticket!". 
Indeed what I was getting at, lol |
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I envy people with faith. Its not that im not a believer in a higher purpose. Too many bad things happen too often to people who dont deserve it(me included recently). The people who dont deserve it are lavished with good fortune. The rich get rich the poor get poorer. People killing each other the world over. Chemical attacks, genocide, facisim, racisim, bigotry. People using god as an excuse to do all the afore mentioned.......im sure if god exists, this wasnt his grand plan. I have had to much happen to me, and seen to much crappy stuff (as im sure other people have) to believe it anymore. Im sure there are people who will argue that god leaves us to our own devices, to choose our own path. Why then did he speak to people at the time of Jesus, but not now, when all the worlds in such a bad place? Faiths just not a luxury my mind allows me to have, although I realy wish it was!! Just want to say at this point I respect everyones beliefs, and all the above is just me personaly. If anyone can change my mind about it all, Id be the happiest guy alive 
I'm a believer in that we create our own realities. There is no such thing as things happen to those who don't deserve it. We choose what happens to us even though we are not consious of it. But if you took the time to see, you would notice. We are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens to us..check out the "law of attraction" I see this happening everyday. "Life is what you make it" isn't just a saying.. [Ducks]  I think I may have just opened up a can of worms
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I envy people with faith. Its not that im not a believer in a higher purpose. Too many bad things happen too often to people who dont deserve it(me included recently). The people who dont deserve it are lavished with good fortune. The rich get rich the poor get poorer. People killing each other the world over. Chemical attacks, genocide, facisim, racisim, bigotry. People using god as an excuse to do all the afore mentioned.......im sure if god exists, this wasnt his grand plan. I have had to much happen to me, and seen to much crappy stuff (as im sure other people have) to believe it anymore. Im sure there are people who will argue that god leaves us to our own devices, to choose our own path. Why then did he speak to people at the time of Jesus, but not now, when all the worlds in such a bad place? Faiths just not a luxury my mind allows me to have, although I realy wish it was!! Just want to say at this point I respect everyones beliefs, and all the above is just me personaly. If anyone can change my mind about it all, Id be the happiest guy alive
I'm a believer in that we create our own realities. There is no such thing as things happen to those who don't deserve it. We choose what happens to us even though we are not consious of it. But if you took the time to see, you would notice. We are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens to us..check out the "law of attraction" I see this happening everyday. "Life is what you make it" isn't just a saying.. [Ducks] I think I may have just opened up a can of worms
Thats fate, not beliefs, and i totaly agree that we create our own fate. Let me fill you in with what i dont agree with: The things i have seen: 4 weeks ago one of my best friends was murded in an unprovoked street stabbing. Was this of his making??? No. If he hadnt chose to go to that pub that night would he still be here? Maybe. But what about the person that did this, or people? They may have the right to choose to be evil, but who allows them this choice?? The great creator??? As I say im speaking for myself, no one else. And i fully respect other peoples beliefs...and i do 'take the time to see'. My eyes are wide open |
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I'm a believer in that we create our own realities. There is no such thing as things happen to those who don't deserve it. We choose what happens to us even though we are not consious of it. But if you took the time to see, you would notice. We are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens to us..check out the "law of attraction" I see this happening everyday. "Life is what you make it" isn't just a saying.. [Ducks] I think I may have just opened up a can of worms
I can negate your logic with one example that happens far too often, once being too often. A very young child, say 2 yrs old, gets raped by her step-daddy. Tell me she deserved it! Tell me she's responsible for what he did to her...she brought it on herself by what? Being born? Looking too cute in her onesy? Get fricken real! Sometimes blame cannot be placed only on your own shoulders. This holds true with adults as well. This was just a undeniable example to refute your statement. Bad things happen to good people all the time, and they don't deserve it and didn't do anything to bring it about. I think the idea that we are 100% responsible for everything that happens to us is just asinine! 
I do believe that you are correct in your statement that we create our own realities...I am where I am now because of the decisions I've made in my life. No doubt there! And I also believe that life is what you make of it. We are in control of how to handle what life throws at us, but please don't try to convince me that I'm getting what I deserve, that I have control over my life when others have control of their lives and what they do affects mine. I handle what's thrown at me the best I can but it doesn't mean that I deserve what I get. |
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How do you know for sure what he was thinking and feeling? I forgot to mention that how you feel attracts the same. Like for example, when your day starts out great, it usually keeps going great until someone pisses in yout cornflakes, then its up to you how you handle it. Laugh it off and your day will move on smoothly, let it bother you and your day is ruined. Ever notice that?
Smile at the World, and it will smile back at you. Feelings and emotions will attract the same. I should have said earlier that we may not "WANT" what happens to us, but we create what happens to us. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, maybe he had a strong fear of something like that happening and attracted into his existence..the person who shot him. |
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I'm a believer in that we create our own realities. There is no such thing as things happen to those who don't deserve it. We choose what happens to us even though we are not consious of it. But if you took the time to see, you would notice. We are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens to us..check out the "law of attraction" I see this happening everyday. "Life is what you make it" isn't just a saying.. [Ducks] I think I may have just opened up a can of worms
I can negate your logic with one example that happens far too often, once being too often. A very young child, say 2 yrs old, gets raped by her step-daddy. Tell me she deserved it! Tell me she's responsible for what he did to her...she brought it on herself by what? Being born? Looking too cute in her onesy? Get fricken real! Sometimes blame cannot be placed only on your own shoulders. This holds true with adults as well. This was just a undeniable example to refute your statement. Bad things happen to good people all the time, and they don't deserve it and didn't do anything to bring it about. I think the idea that we are 100% responsible for everything that happens to us is just asinine!
I do believe that you are correct in your statement that we create our own realities...I am where I am now because of the decisions I've made in my life. No doubt there! And I also believe that life is what you make of it. We are in control of how to handle what life throws at us, but please don't try to convince me that I'm getting what I deserve, that I have control over my life when others have control of their lives and what they do affects mine. I handle what's thrown at me the best I can but it doesn't mean that I deserve what I get. I understand..I always asked this question myself..if we have a loving God, then why do so many unfair things happen to people? Today I believe that since we all have free will, then we all are 100 percent responsible for our lives and what happens in our realty. Theres the fairness. Explaining why things happen to certain people is hard.. |
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A month ago, my sons gf had a friend in the house and she had gone into my room and stole something of mine. I didn't trust this woman and had a fear of leaving the house with her there and going into my room, even though my sons gf was there with her. [I created this event with my fears]
I confronted this woman and she told me in anger [strong emotions] that she is a good Christian and although poor and didn't have nice things like us, would never steal..well money and other things have gone missing when shes around. Anyways, since then, her hubby lost his job, they couldn't pay their rent and welfare refused to help them. Now her hubby is leaving her and the three kids and divorcing her. [her strong emotions created this event] she put so much angry emphesis on being poor, that she created more of it..she attracted more of it with her angry emotions What you throw out [like a boomerang] is what you get back |
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Sorry I kind of went
 and started ranting
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Sorry I kind of went and started ranting
No problem. Ranting I understand! I'm good at that! 
Now if I could only figure the other crap out. 
Just gotta keep on keeping on. 
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Sorry I kind of went and started ranting
No problem. Ranting I understand! I'm good at that!
Now if I could only figure the other crap out.
Just gotta keep on keeping on.
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Keep thinking possitive an keep laughing..its soooo good for the soul
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