We all have been in and out of love, We all have been hurt and stand up strong and we all have experience different problems in a relationship.

What is your thought on what affects a relationship so bad that you have to part from the one you claimed to love most?

Most of the time it has been knowing that the other has no clue on how to understand reality. Its lime talking to a brick wall

People change [simple]

For me it's disloyalty. She either wants to be with me or she wants to be with somebody else and if she can't make up her mind I'll make it up for her. Apart from that I can put up with quite a lot from women if they can put up with me.

I think people don't really know what they want these days and jump into relationships too fast and bypass the whole dating step

i new a person that would go from relationship to relationship, lots of surface noise.then the person in middle age took a look at themselves one layer at a time. looking at your part.it takes courage work and time. anyway that person found that they felt in there heart of hearts that they did not feel they deserved to be happy.they realized that they did deserve to be happy.then the world changed for then and they found happiness in there life. met another person who went from relationship to relationship unhappy most of the time. that person believed that people who they loved would leave them,so out of there awareness they made it happen. we need to to look inward first thats where the answers are. now a days people for most part believe that if they just get rid that bad egg and get another one and never seeing there part. we where all born with a beautiful child in us ,for most that child is wounded. once you heal the child joy rushes in. look real close and i think you will see the issues people are having with each other is just surface noise.

finding out that one of you is no longer in love, or both of you. When you sit back and think "how did I ever end up with this person?" "We have so little in common and totally incompatible personalities." One of the partners was not being themselves because they were so busy trying to be what the other partner wants them to be

and then, one day wakes up and says, "screw this I am gonna be me." Scary dat...the other partner might not like the "real you"

sometimes they don;t and then it's pretty much over at that point

In my opinion, if you are just dating it can be as simple as the other person not being in love with you, however much you are in love with them.

In marriage, I don,t think there is an easy answer to your question, relationships fail for many different reasons, and usually for more than the one reason that brings an end to it. What I mean is, "Cause and effect", for example, a spouse cheating could be the result of a loveless partner, so what is the real reason the marriage failed, there are complicated situations in my opinion.

I heard recently on TV that here in the UK, there are now more divorces in the group of couples married for more than 20 years than any other group. which is strange in my opinion. Why does it take such a long time to discover you made a mistake? Do we really change that much, or become less tolerant as we grow older? I do know of one couple that divorced after nearly 40 years of marriage because he became a wife beater, why that happens raises even more questions.

An untrustworthy spouse that lies continually and makes excuses for everything comes to mind.

I have always said that there would be only one reason why I would ever divorce the man I loved, cheating. I can deal with anything and sit down and talk a lot of things out BUT I will not put up with someone who strays in our marriage.
As you know I am now divorced so now you know why. We actually went to counseling through our pastor but my pastor told me to run because he would do it again. It seemed like everyone knew he was cheating but me, they didn't come to me until I filed for divorce then I had all kinds of people coming to me and telling me things. Why do your so called friends NOT tell you and save you from looking like an idiot?
I really thought we had a good marriage. The way he got away with it is I worked days and he worked nights. We never really ever spent any time together, when he came home I was already asleep. I got up at 3:30 am and got ready for work and didn't get home until around 3 pm. He went to work at 2:30 pm and got home around 11.
SO I AM HAPPILY DIVORCED AND OUR MARRIAGE COULD NOT BE WORKED OUT EVER!

I suppose that relationships of mine have broken down because they felt that they couldn't give me what I'm looking for, or that I wasn't able to give them what they really wanted. It doesn't have to be about people changing. It takes a long time to get to know someone properly and they may not really be who you think that they are.

I tried for a long time to keep a woman happy when she wasn't really happy in the first place. She wanted to "do something" for me but she didn't want to be with me and couldn't see a future in it. She didn't seem to know what she wanted, although she was always telling me how I was failing to listen to her. I wasn't giving her what she wanted and she thought that I didn't apreciate what she was trying to do for me. She didn't have enough patience with me and there was a personality clash. Now she's with some other guy and she says that he's a pushover and that he will do anything for her. She was a big believer in astrology and she was excited about being with a scorpio man at a time when she didn't want anything serious. Sometimes all that they want is a bit of passion and they will keep coming back for more but they won't stick around and make a proper commitment. A lot of women are like that these days and they aren't prepared to change or give up their independence for a man.

what we project we attract.its like ying and yang. the last person we look to for the answers is ourselves..... its like its all out there..we all have favorite feelings and beliefs we formed when we were children, thats our awareness where our mind lives.we give up the those feelings and beliefs theres a big hole, Fritz Pearls called it a fertile void. as you peel the negative one layer at a tine it must be replaced with positive feeling and beliefs. i hear over and over how someone tired to make someone happy you can not. its there head they own it and run it. you can invite someone to be in a good place..... its the path they chose. i believe for us to form healthy relationships and real love , we must care about the other person as much as we care about ourselves in a healthy way... their is surface noise, then their is whats really going on.we have turn down the noise in our own heads.its the hardest thing a person can do and its the most rewarding thing we can do for ourselves. go ahead prove me wrong, i dare you!