Anyone else here ever been in an on again/off again relationship, I had been in one for about 3 years with a woman from my former work place, she has recently messaged me on Facebook, not sure what to do as I had very intense feelings for this woman, don't want to get back on the merry-go-around we were in before, but maybe things have changed, I still think about this woman a lot, but I was really hurt last time we broke up, what should I do.

hope can be a wonderful thing but it can also be a cruel joke.

personally I'd ignore her - why open old wounds and drama?

but what you do is up to you...she will not be a different person. depends I guess on how OK u are with getting hurt again. she'd be high risk in that dept

I can't stand dating guys who go back to exes....drives me nuts. and usually they are miserable again inside of 6 mos

but I won;t take the guy back who leaves me to go back to an ex...it's a silly cycle.


I sayonara and I told u so....what u do is up to u

but this is why I don't date rebounders

Sounds way too exhausting to me man.

im an optimist,, you have to go with a balance of your heart AND your brain,,,

If I were you,,I would,,

talk about it with her, tell her how you feel and that you don't want a merry go round romance

well put

(what Goofman? tired of being up all night already...lol)?

Five nights in a row is my limit. A sixth would require energy drinks and skittles. Haha!

Her issues were with a teenage son, there was no other person involved

well good luck to you whatever you decide

I wouldn't go back. Once maybe, not twice.

Don't think i will respond, her son has been in and out of trouble with the law, just way to much drama for me

Sometimes I really hate facebook

You are probably saving yourself a lot of grief by not responding.

You know miko, maybe you should go with the flow and not make it a do or die but more of a casual cool thing cause you guys want to spend time together. I have girlfriends flow in and out of my life and it usually goes really well cause I don't get uptight about it, and they know they can relax around me as well. If she can hang with you without bringing the drama into the picture it could be a good thing.

People sometimes bring way too much drama in to the picture and they forget that the friend part is what is so great about being together. You have to weigh the history for yourself and see if it lands on good, but if you do care for her maybe a talk would be a good thing, so she knows where your coming from.

were you always hurt and dissatisfied throught out the relationship,?

because if you were only hurt when you broke up, then thats normal

what's changed to make you or her think it can work?

did she just seen impossible to you? and you now only thinking

about the good times?

is she emotionally available, like she can discuss the past problems

like on adult or she's a basket case?

the questions are there, if she falls on the positive side to these questions

when it falls under: if you love someone let then got, if they come back
they're yours, if they don't, they never were!

(((( hi MG ))))

I was writing when MG posted, but the message is the same here,

as MG is saying, "does the history fall on the positive side" for the most part

I'm with (((sweetestgirl))) aswell,in regards to people running back to the

past, when one knows it will be the same.

Howdy pony.

klc, pickin on a man's drapes :-)

I don't do drapes btw. Blinds all the way or nothing at all.

I think I agree with pony. But you may want a good friend to help you weigh the odds in person. Sometimes an outsider will see thing clearer than you will because of the emotion involved.

I agree. The drama is exhausting.
Been there, done that. Never again.

Sure sounds like she likes to play ball. What I would as an ultimatum, to show her, is I'd write a letter stating how I've moved on. To get closure. Don't use any bitter words in it. Just keep it very friendly. Ask her what she wants from you, because you're done with this back and forth trip. Also if you choose to send her a letter, keep it very brief. That's why I ain't on any social networks, because ex's can easily find you.

whose for setting the odds that he didn't pick out the drapes himslef?

who wants to be the treasurer?