So just curious on what others think about age gaps in relationships/ encounters. For example I believe the age of the two people becomes irrelevant if both are over the age of 18

Well, if that is what you believe than to hell with everyone else.

It isn't that I don't think the same thing or anything, I'm just tired of these trivial discussions.

I have to agree.

y should it matter

The only opinions that should matter are yours and the one you are with.

I will say, however, that I couldn't wrap my head around dating anyone younger until the past 7 months. The guy I am currently seeing is 7 years younger.

It really shouldn't have mattered but it did ... and I turned down really great guys in the past because of my own hangups.

And here's to you, Mrs. Robinson...

i realize that this type of conversation is not for everyone and yes I agree it may be trivial but it was a major concern of mine as I was attracted to a woman a few years older than myself but didn't pursue it because I was worried what others may think.

My thoughts about it are that I've had it with so-called "mature women", with all of their baggage and pickiness. You try to be a nice guy but all you get is negativity because of stuff that happened long before you even met them.

Age isn't as important as motivation.

Is a young person looking for someone much older because the young person is a gold-digger? (A gold-digger can be of either gender, by the way.)

He's almost 40 ... would I need a 20 year old to be a Mrs. Robinson?

Well, I haven't got any gold but I've had younger women telling me that boys their age only think about their own needs and that they want a gentleman that's going to treat them right.

Why do you always assume that women only care about how much money a guy has? Haven't you ever met someone that just loved you for yourself, or are you a millionaire or something and always just take it for granted that women are after your money?

I gave the "gold-digger" example just as an example of one kind of motivation.

Well it does help if you have some money for dating.

Age is totally relevant when you consider what comes with it. Life experience is what makes us who we are. No offence but I'm about 99.675% sure I have nothing to talk about or in common with an 18 yr old guy.

Tawt, I am really sorry that that kind of relationship and abuse happened to you. I really am, and there is no "but" coming here!
Simply put, to paint us all with the same brush is unfair. I have never been "that type" of person with the excess baggage, negativity and pickiness as you say! And I think there are many women like me!

If you are worried about what others think, then an age difference is NOT for you! Also any type of difference that could potentially draw attention is NOT for you.
If you ever get to the stage of your life when you realize that what others think is so much less important than what you think, then perhaps at that time, a difference will not matter to you at all!
Just my opinion.

I think age gaps with a younger female and an older male are hot. But the gold digger stigma has ruined it. :(

my consistent belief

AGE correlates largely with MATURITY,, not absolutely, but generally

so,, a compatible person at a copatible level of maturity should not be an issue


for example

when I see old men with young women,, I either figure they are mature for their age(the woman) or he is immature for his (the man)...


compatibility lines up more with maturity than with actual age,,,

and age is no absolute guarantee of how mature or immature a person is,,,


I think if there are children involved,, it is the MATURE thing though, to consider them and what their relationship will be with this partner,,,and why I would never consider involvement with anyone not AT LEAST 15 years older than my oldest(who is 20)

It does seem to be a bit of a hobby horse for you though. Here's one of mine: There's no substitute for experience and you can quite easily motivate a younger woman by acting like a confident mature guy that knows what he's doing with a woman.

I prefer an Older man my age maybe 5 years younger.