Ok so a woman is fabulous, but she's got 30lbs to lose. How off putting is that to you guys? Will you give her a chance?

The total package is what is important for me.

A person can be thick or thin, as long as they are happy in their own skin.

Absolutely. I've got about 15 lbs to lose, so I'm not one to start being snobbish about weight.

A woman I was completely in love with when I was in my 20s had about 30 lbs to lose by her estimation. She was fun, a calming presence in my life, and an exciting, giving lover. She was also 20 years older than me, and a mentor of sorts as well as a partner. I gave no thought as to her weight whatsoever.

I can't answer that question, but I'll know when I see her.

30 pounds to lose to get where? To get rail thin? I like a woman with curves. I think it's subjective. Some guys like curves, some like skinny, etc. I don't want flabby or lumpy, though there are guys for that too. Tone a bit, realizing our age though, and that you've probably had kids.

I have dated men that are very over weight as I like them for who they are; unfortunately very few men like an over weight woman. Most want the model figure so us normal gals don't have a chance. Oh well; such is life.

Oh there are alot of men who love curves..the media has brainwashed us all into thinking most men prefer thin
just like in the 60s they told us most men prefer blondes grrr!

I just go by what I see here and guys want thin girls; not curvy girls.

Well then they can have them..

Yep; and the curvy girls remain dateless.

The question was asked, how important is the height/weight proportionate when it comes to men asking a women out. It depends on what you are looking for. Often the beautiful men/women are shallow and not worth your time and effort.


I'm a full figured women and have no problems. I stay involved in life and have a positive attitude. I know many men/women who have no problems dating because they are overweight.

The important thing is to stay involved in life, involved in things that are important to you. The rest will fall into place.

Hmm, do you really think I am no involved in life? I am so involved in life that I hardly have time for myself.

Flower replied telling us what she does..I didnt see any finger pointing

I am more interested in the stuff between her ears (brains) then how much she weighs. Now if she is in terrible condition health wise, thats another thing altogether.

Thats true..healthy is so important..the only time I was hospitalized was for the delivery of my children. Been to a doc a few times in my life and heklped carry and move furniture this weekend..guess Im doing alright

Navygirl, it'd be a heck of a drive, but I'd take you out. If you didn't mind a former enlisted. I might be worried about you kicking my butt though, judging by the weights you're lifting

Its a matter of the heart not a matter of the size.If you down for someone, you going to do your best to help that person in any way you see fit.If she or he is on the skinney size. Bring them lotsa sweets.If he or she is a little too thick.Do not bring them sweets and tell them we will walk or you going to walk away and not look back.FACT Soulmate helpmate loving mate.Just be a good mate.

I think most people here and on sites like this one is looking for a friend a hook up or such.Not really looking for a lasting relationship.
Oh well it is called mingle.smiling

I'm only interested in what's between there ears.

I can't do it!!! I'm lying!!!

Well, half lying. It is between but, got nothin ta do with her ears.