Within the past couple of months, I have been in steady online and phone communication with two ladies, who I felt I was very compatible with. One lived close to me, the other pretty far away. I connected with each on many different levels. Then, out of the blue, each of them admitted to me that they were bisexuals. I just about hit the floor. Nothing was mentioned in either profile, and there was nothing that ever came up in conversation that would suggest that they were anything but straight. I have nothing against gays, lesbians, or bisexuals, but being straight, I have little understanding of their circumstances. Needless to say, I was shocked and disappointed. I had developed feelings for both of them, but, being that I'm looking for LTR or marriage, I don't think it would work out. I would always feel that I would be involved with only half the other person, and that there would always be an uneasy feeling that she would someday decide she would rather be with a woman. I have since remained on friendly terms with both of them.

Has anybody ever run into this kind of situation?


Please be civil in your responses, and stay serious. Thank you.

Not really but any woman that doesn't fancy me is obviously a lesbian.

No. I haven't ran into this situation.

Sounds like you found a gold mine! Sorry man couldn't resist, yea they should have been forthcoming about that but as most guys would say... "Man I would like to be the meat in the middle of that sandwich" Keep on Keeping on

hahahahaha obviously :-)

I dunno, sounds like an easy out, if they were seeking one.

I've never been in this situation, but I don't see why it would be a big deal. You seem to think there's more of a chance they'll leave you for another woman than a man. Seems to me that you're just letting insecurities shine through and are using them being bi as an excuse for those insecurities.

I don't think this is about insecurity. It is more like "a house divided will soon fall." I have always viewed a bisexual as divided or conflicted, never really knowing what she wants (a man or woman). I'd hate to be in that predicament.

There are straight people who never know what they want. I don't think that's just a bi thing. And it absolutely sounds like insecurities on your part.

Huh? You worry about THEM not knowing who they want, yet you had two women on the go at once. The only differences, they were bi, and were women.

it don't sound good 2 women at once.you don't know what you want.if u married one would u cut ties with the other or be forever thinking what if?one at a time is best.i question your motives.here we call it hedging your bets if you have one in reserve.

Thought the same thing me own self ...Also, in his profile, he describes himself as "Openminded, non-judgemental, and flexible...Maybe he's the one guilty of giving the wrong impression!

well if he got 2 women he felt things for he musta been saying the same things to both so whos the faker here lol.u cant lead 2 people on into believeing they the only one,so sorry.has one to avoid written all over him.

Good point. It was him not knowing what he wanted and he was projecting that onto them, using the excuse that they were bi.

Maybe they both made up the bi story just to back him off

That would give most men very vivid fantasies.

You should not be angry they were being honest with you up front, they could have told you after you were more vested in them. People take their time to tell others intimate things about themselves,you should take it as a compliment.

Something tells me we're not talking about most men Will...

the only one who wasn't honest was HIM so why is here crying cos they didn't tell him intimate **** til its too late.did he tell each of them they had competition?i bet NO

No, I have not had any situation like that.