A woman I know got married about 6 months ago.
The guy has a sucessful business and she has stopped working.
last week she said he told her that he does not want her reading anymore of those trashy womens magazines like cosmo because all they do is bash men and destoy relationships.

Also she has a friend thats a single woman who always call whenever early morning late at night etc. she also calls and invites her out to bars and parties on the weekend without including her husband and this he feels is disrespectful.

Finally because he is out working hard so she can stay home he
asked her to have something cooked and waiting everyday between 5 and 6.

They are both 35 yrs and this is their 1st marriage is he too
Traditional and set in his ways or has she not came to realize that she,s marriaged and the rules have changed.

Marriage is a 2 way thing, you take a little and you give a little, but it has to be agreed upon. I don't think he is asking too much, but my question would be: Did he ask it of her before they got married or did he ask it because her friend asked her out without him?

I think the friend just called and said hey you wanna do something tonight or something like that as if she is still a single woman.

I think he is a little tyranical the meal thing i can understand if your ass is gonna be home all day (male or female) you can have a meal ready when the other party gets home and i do mean a real meal not a pizaa delivery boy. as for him telling her what to read yeah not gonna happen she doesn't dictate his reading habits he certainly shouldn't dictate hers. as for the friend thing as long as its not a steady thing no problem if she goes with out him he should go out with out her no need to be shoved up each otherss ass all the time. abscence everyonce in a while does make the heart grow fonder. they both need to sit down and set some ground rules if not she'll get *****y he'll get ****y and all hell will blow up.

For a relationship to blossom and continue blooming, you need to share trust, respect, and communication. It is important to grow together yet at the same time realize that you each need time alone with friends. Her friend does need to respect his feelings in her calling late at night or early in the am. I do not agree about the magazine though, only the two of them can allow their relationship to be destroyed.

Your friends need to sit down, and communicate their feelings, and thoughts. Personally I feel that if she is not working there is no reason for supper not to be ready, for when he gets home from work....but you also have to realize that Im old fashion in many ways, and that is my own personal viewpoint.

She said that he,s an old fashion kind of guy which is what she loved about him.

then she needs to think about what she is doing....if she truly loves him, then they both need to sit and communicate with each other......

I wouldn't tell her what to and not to read, even though I do think magazines like Cosmo give women unrealistic expectations concerning men. At least we guys know that what they say in Maxim is pure crap.

As far as going to single's bars with her single friend:

I know I'm gonna get a ton of flak over this one, but here goes. I'd put my foot down and say, "Hell no" to that one. Come on, folks, everyone knows nothing good happens in a situation like that. How would this woman feel if her husband's single buddy wanted him to go to those same bars with him? She'd scream bloody murder. And I don't want any JSH females to write, "But that's two different things". No it isn't.

Anxoiusly awaiting any and all hate mail. Be warned, I am ready to defend myself.

what about the cooking?

nothing wrong with going out with your friends to a bar or a restaurant etc but not every day....and I would expect the man to have same options as well.

No reason why she doesn't have a meal cooked and ready for when he gets home from work.......and no reason why once a week they can't go out together and enjoy a meal.......and no reason why when he isnt working that he cant cook a meal............the main point is doing for each other.

Some women have all the luck and don't even realize it.

truthfully, I wish I had someone I could cook dinner for, regardless of whether they worked or not .

traditional men work come home eat and do it again the next day.
on weekends they rest fix what needs fixin and take their wife out on saturday night. this is how they live.

ahhhhhhh traditional men also do the bbqing outside on the grill

I've gotta agree with Knoxman.Women read magazines to get advise about men,us guys don't because we already know everything (sorry i couldn't resist).If she knew he was old fashioned before she married him than she should have known what she was getting into!.

marriage or any relationship for that matter is a 2 way streak i am in a serious relationship and still talk to friends and go out with friends mostly his sisters but i still have fun

as fo as cooking goes why not make it something they go together and her reading i love to read all kinds of stuff and if hes got a problem with her reading maybe he should re-think what they did when they took vows

when in a marriage you should give a little and maybe you'll get something in return

I kinda agree with him on the friend that calls anytime of the day and inviting his wife to hangout in bars with her.
But the magazines is mostly just entertainment like soaps.
The cooking thing she is a housewife and thats what housewifes do.
This guy owns a garage and has been pretty sucessful he works hard and should expect to have food there waiting for him not the other way around.

I understand the dinner thing but I know cosmo is full of crap.He shouldn't dictate what she reads.As for the friend,is she supposed to give them up just because she is married?No way.As long as it isn't a nightly occurrence, I don't see why they can't go out for a few beers or dinner.I know I never minded my exes nights out.
It seems once the ring goes on then all these rules start popping up and it's usually the man making them in my experience.
People have lives before relationships ,they should be able to have lives within the relationship.Old fashioned=controlling in my book.

the dinner thing yeah maybe she should have something cooked
but what she reads thats CRAP(not what she reads that he tells her what to read)