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Topic: Do you agree or you disagree ?
kissablekiss Joined Mon 03/08/10 Posts: 8528	Fri 03/29/13 03:41 PM
Arguments do have their place in a relationship. Have a nice argument, then have hot make up sex. it's a win-win. Wondered how long it would take....

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Fri 03/29/13 08:07 PM
"A relationship with no arguments, is a relationship with a lot of secrets." Sonnie , no.

kissablekiss Joined Mon 03/08/10 Posts: 8528	Fri 03/29/13 08:13 PM
"A relationship with no arguments, is a relationship with a lot of secrets." Sonnie , no. curious as to why you said no ,KC ...

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Fri 03/29/13 08:14 PM
I think the big secret is how you can be in a relationship with no arguments..

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Fri 03/29/13 08:23 PM
"A relationship with no arguments, is a relationship with a lot of secrets." Sonnie , no. curious as to why you said no ,KC ... because I don't see how any two people can be in a relationship and not argue.

victorhzul Joined Fri 03/29/13 Posts: 4	Fri 03/29/13 08:38 PM
Hi everybody. I am new in this and my opinion maybe will dis-agree with one of two. I believe if there is love, respect and trust between a couple, arguments do not belong and don't help the relationship. Two person can never think and act the same, but with mutual agreement those person can be happy and keep personal differences out of the relationship.

victorhzul Joined Fri 03/29/13 Posts: 4	Fri 03/29/13 08:43 PM
Much better if you don't have to argue and make love instead of just sex. Arguments do have their place in a relationship. Have a nice argument, then have hot make up sex. it's a win-win. Wondered how long it would take....

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 03/29/13 08:44 PM
I can't be the only one thinking in the back of my head that it is rather terrible people want, desire even, to have disagreements. I'm talking about petty s* here, not something say; prolific, like arguing the fundamentals of an idea that is going to become bigger. No, petty s* like who left the door unlocked or didn't pick up their plates after dinner. Terrible, really...I don't care who you are, that is pretty awful. good for you brave man I don't argue, so I can;t really answer the OP I suppose but I don't argue and do not suffer it long what I do long for is peace in a relationship - so tired of one upmanship, manipulation, on so on. I see no point in remaining long with anyone who thrives on that type of negativity

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 03/29/13 08:46 PM
Hi everybody. I am new in this and my opinion maybe will dis-agree with one of two. I believe if there is love, respect and trust between a couple, arguments do not belong and don't help the relationship. Two person can never think and act the same, but with mutual agreement those person can be happy and keep personal differences out of the relationship. well personal differences can be discussed, but I agree no need for arguing. it's just too draining - on the idividuals and on the relationship - it destroys the good karma you've built tenfold

boy1122 Joined Fri 03/29/13 Posts: 1	Fri 03/29/13 08:47 PM
I agree

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 03/29/13 11:36 PM
I can't be the only one thinking in the back of my head that it is rather terrible people want, desire even, to have disagreements. I'm talking about petty s* here, not something say; prolific, like arguing the fundamentals of an idea that is going to become bigger. No, petty s* like who left the door unlocked or didn't pick up their plates after dinner. Terrible, really...I don't care who you are, that is pretty awful. Fear old bean, I wonder if youre thinking 'fight' rather than 'disagreement'. My own interpretation of disagreement or even argument doesnt even include raised voices necessarily, but depending on your own experience, it may include nastiness. Perspective can vary our definitions wildly. I'm more looking at the end result, not whether or not it is a fight or a simple disagreement. What does it hope to achieve? Is the end result better than what is currently available? Is it going to further a much bigger idea? Or am I just going to sit here and explain that I forgot to wash my effin' plate. In my mind there isn't really much point to going head to head with someone over the absolute general and mundane of things.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sat 03/30/13 06:12 PM
Isn't it terrible? To not only wait for, but also wish for a disagreement? I didn't say avoid them, I simply threw out my opinion on them...If you have time for petty squabbles, by all means; me? No, I want to do important s* while I'm alive, and time is limited lest I waste it on what I otherwise view is absolutely useless.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Sat 03/30/13 06:26 PM
Arguments do have their place in a relationship. Have a nice argument, then have hot make up sex. it's a win-win. You really know how to make a girl wanna pick a fight!

peeking111 Joined Sat 03/30/13 Posts: 3	Sat 03/30/13 06:36 PM
agree

UNMLobo79 Joined Sat 03/30/13 Posts: 4	Sun 03/31/13 03:03 AM
FWIW: I think it depends on where you are on the maturity curve, and hold for a blinding flash to the obvious, how you define what constitutes an argument. I don't see friendly differences of opinion as an argument. It is possible for people to be argument free if they are willing to recognize (or even celebrate) individual differences. It's simple; it's just not easy.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 03/31/13 03:09 AM
agree NEVER.....storm the beaches!!!!!

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sun 03/31/13 06:11 PM
Isn't it terrible? To not only wait for, but also wish for a disagreement? I didn't say avoid them, I simply threw out my opinion on them...If you have time for petty squabbles, by all means; me? No, I want to do important s* while I'm alive, and time is limited lest I waste it on what I otherwise view is absolutely useless. I see. I think its a compatibility thing there. You should definitely only be with people you dont find petty. The real problem is it seems some of you have this fantasy idea that every disagreement is a mature discussion between two parties. Obviously, this is not always the case, now is it? In a perfect world, sure, but this is anything but perfect. The truth of what the lot of the disagreements you will face in a relationship is that they are pathetically mindless and almost always include yelling. We clearly have two vastly different realities here.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sun 03/31/13 06:14 PM
I'll not argue and kiss a$$ only if it gets me what I want.

DaySinner Joined Sat 11/17/12 Posts: 558	Sun 03/31/13 07:29 PM
I don't know that having secrets in a relationship is grounds for argument, or that when known would lead to arguments. When it is possible that there are secrets that could make the relationship stronger once shared. So, I have to respectfully disagree. Oh really??

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 03/31/13 08:49 PM
to the question of secrets. I'd be more inclined to keep secrets from a man who is inclined to argue, and willing to be completely forthcoming to a man who is a reasoned and loving partner. isn't this what everyone does? it seems to me the OP is entirely backward.