I guess I read more into it than what you meant. My bad.

Who's being defensive? You are the one that seems to care about whether things people post here could put people off that might have romantic feelings towards them. I just post my honest opinions and people can take them as they like or ask me to explain myself.

You asked if things that people post here could effect those romantic feelings that other posters might have for them and someone brought up religion. You decided to say that about people hating God and I said that that is an example of a post that could sway someone from making their "move". Then you don't want to discuss it any further when I pointed that out, which could give the impression that you are either not open minded and prepared to change your views or you could be someone that makes statements about things and when people challenge you on them you won't explain yourself for some other reason.

Perhaps you do just come from a small town where everybody thinks the same and you have said that you were brought up to be submissive. That could well be it but you are asking here about how posters here react to things that other people post and you also brought up whether it's possible to modify your views to suit someone else etc. I'm just replying to your thread and you aren't obliged to respond to every post. What is it that we have to agree to disagree about though? You still haven't explained that.

Same here. I'd have a difficult time maintaining an interest in and dating a guy whose political beliefs were too different from mine, or who was devoutly religious in a faith that clashed with my own. Or if his attitudes toward society were vastly different from mine.

WEll eeexxxxccccuuusssseee me if I have become a feeble old man who will listen to opposing views and still like people.



Just being an ornery ol' cuss....

...I like diversity and I love hearing others express opinions even when I disagree, especially when they elaborate and explain why they feel the way they do...It keeps things interesting and gives me something to think about....Varying opinions and a mixture of personalities is what makes any gathering interesting and fun....It's called socializing!


"Be a boring world if we all thought the same"

Uh... what?

All I said was that I wouldn't be interested in dating someone whose views on areas that happen to be important to me were too different from my views. That has nothing to do with who I can be friends with, and it doesn't mean I won't listen to opposing views. I have friends who are all over the spectrum on all kinds of things, and it's great. We discuss things all the time.

But when I'm DATING someone, we need to be on the same page or it isn't going to work. I'm passionate about my political beliefs, and I follow a non-Christian and non-mainstream spiritual path, so I wouldn't be a good match with someone who was seriously committed to an opposing political camp or who was, for example, a devout fundamentalist Christian. What's the phrase? "Unevenly yoked", I believe, and since in dating I'm ultimately looking for someone I might well spend the rest of my life with, we'd have to be compatible in our thinking on important issues. Otherwise we'd just be arguing all the time, or else be unable to ever discuss them.

Told ya I was just being an ornery ol' cuss!!

I think I read your reply before you edited it, and your edit occurred just as I pressed the "Quote" button, since the system appears to have picked it up but I don't recall having seen it until after I posted.

S'all good.

Yeah, sometimes I forget new people don't know me and how I like to joke around.

Just for that I'm gonna punch a bagpipe!

Poor bagpipe.

<--- loves bagpipes

No excuse for ya Hipster ...I have an open mind and I am pretty flexible...I like change in the form of progress and learning new things...I enjoy challenge as in opposites attract...And for sure I like meeting new people....It keeps the juices flowing, keeps me from getting bored....I will overlook a lot of things if I am feeling an attraction to someone on the boards ...BUT!...There are certain things that, once determined, would cause me to back off...The more someone posts, the easier it is to get a read on them....Sometimes I wonder if I would even consider dating a man who did not participate in forums....

...I like diversity and I love hearing others express opinions even when I disagree, especially when they elaborate and explain why they feel the way they do...It keeps things interesting and gives me something to think about....Varying opinions and a mixture of personalities is what makes any gathering interesting and fun....It's called socializing!


"Be a boring world if we all thought the same"


You got that right!!...

The what to do, how, when and why, can be changed in some way or another, but beliefs are what it is deeply immigrated on us and personally I think those are the most difficult things to change (but not impossible, if we want it we can change them).

There will be things or situations that do not actually click with us or our way of thinking but as long as we respect each other it´s the key to having great relationships, friendships or acquaintances.

It´s a true thing that we have to set limits with different things or people (even in work, or with our families) just to be true to ourselves, that it´s to be living in authenticity.

There could be times we can readjust our limits because we really and truly know and feel deep in our gut that that´s the right thing to do. It´s part of evolution or our self development.

Love it´s a risk. If you change or transform some belief of yours cause you feel like it´s worth it, then you just do it. Not because of the person but because you want it.

Changing one's way they think as opposed to changing a mode of behavior can't be compared. How someone thinks is at the core of their being as perhaps what their beliefs are.
Yet look that the thousands of Arabs and Jews that have intermarried out of love; a form of love that transformed them from mere passersby in a great challenge of all their respective thinking as well as many of their forms of behavior. With the right demeanor, motivation and a very special type of Love it does indeed seem perfectly natural to bend a bit and to change and adjust, We adapt to what is best for us and for those we love as they do for us. It makes Life more livable in harmony for all concerned...imho

I think changing action has to start with changing perception in order to last

when we try to change action and never change our thought process, we will revert to what has become habit or 'normal' for us,,,

the more we say to ourself this is who or what we 'are' , the more it will become real and unchangable, because its a way to devote ourself to not changing our thoughts or feelings,,,

...I like diversity and I love hearing others express opinions even when I disagree, especially when they elaborate and explain why they feel the way they do...It keeps things interesting and gives me something to think about....Varying opinions and a mixture of personalities is what makes any gathering interesting and fun....It's called socializing!


"Be a boring world if we all thought the same"

you're right, unevenly yoked... and it can cause problems in a relationship if both persons aren't on the same page... been there, done that...