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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. |
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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. Hi Charles, I completely get where you're coming from, as I too have had only one long term relationship, and very much enjoy my independence... and I too get ruffled and will run from anyone trying to clip my wings too quickly... especially now at my age... thank you for sharing your advice with us... |
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. |
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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. hi Greeneyes, I like how you put it.. pushy and needy people who are after most anyone... but do you think it's just out of boredom, and not out of financial or material gain, especially in today's downward spiraling economy? |
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I wanna fall in love, again. With the right person of course.
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I wanna fall in love, again. With the right person of course. I keep trying and it won't work. maybe I should put this in the Computers & Technology section.... 
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
 
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
the real love Guru appears 
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
the real love Guru appears
why yes,that would be me 
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
the real love Guru appears
why yes,that would be me
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
the real love Guru appears
why yes,that would be me
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i fall in love as soon as i see boobs
the real love Guru appears
why yes,that would be me
Wow, a real live genuine love guru.. here...  it's indeed my pleasure to make your acquaintance Jtevans... although it's getting a little warm in here now... 
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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. hi Greeneyes, I like how you put it.. pushy and needy people who are after most anyone... but do you think it's just out of boredom, and not out of financial or material gain, especially in today's downward spiraling economy? |
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For me, It takes a while. I'm not one to fall a$$ over tea kettle very easy. I think I got some issues. I don't trust very easy. It takes some time to win my trust. Also, I've got issues with how the great majority seem to want to move to fast. I'm not the type that takes to well to pushy people.Maybe it's just me, I seem to come across women that want to try to lead me around by the nose. I don't take to well to that either. I don't take to well to women who want to try to tell me what I am/am not going to do. I seem to find a lot of women that for some reason unknown to me, Have just got to see if they can get away with trying to boss me around. They usually find out as the door knob is hitting them in the rump, Doesn't work with me. I've even had more than one to try to use sex to get there way with me. Doesn't work either. I think I am going to wind up alone. I've thought about it some. Sometimes I think that the ones I keep coming across are desperate. They are afraid to be alone. That desperation makes them try to hard. Makes them try to grab whatever they think they can get. Here in not to long I will be 51. I've been single most of my life. I was only married for six years. I guess I'm used to being alone. So, When I come across someone who tries to hard to get me, They really wind up pushing me away. I think this is the main reason I don't fall in love very easy. They try to hard, They push to hard and it comes off looking like desperation. Desperation runs me off. When you are dealing with a man or a woman that has been alone as long as I have, You have to be careful with them. You have to go at them the right way. They are use to being alone. They may even like it that way. No one to answer to but yourself, Come and go as you please, You're free as a bird. If you want a person like that to fall in love you, Well, Like I say, You gotta go at them the right way. hi Greeneyes, I like how you put it.. pushy and needy people who are after most anyone... but do you think it's just out of boredom, and not out of financial or material gain, especially in today's downward spiraling economy? I hear you girlfriend...  me too.. 
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Some more of my thoughts on this subject. Over the years I really haven't had very good luck in the relationship dept. I've only had one good one. She was much younger than me. I let her get away from me. She went back to England. I should have went with her. Mistake on my part.
But, Besides that one relationship not one of my other relationships ever got anywhere. Not even my marriage before it. So, I think I am a little jaded. I know that this may sound like bad attitude,But, It's honestly how I feel. Their is a part of me that really doesn't care anymore whether I ever fall in love again or not. I guess in one sense of the word I'm pulled both ways. I believe that no one,Including myself,really wants to be alone forever. We all want to find someone to love that loves us for us unconditionally. But for those of us that have either let it get away from us, Or, In my case, I let it get away from me once,But also,I spent six years in one hell of a bad marriage. Then several bad relationships after and before it.Well, You just get to a point to where you don't want to have to go through it anymore. Tired of dealing with all the drama and crap that goes with it. I don't know about others that might be reading this. I do believe my "picker" is broken. I would love to find someone that I could be with for whatever time god sees fit to leave me here top side. That's another reason why I don't allow myself to fall in love. Especially to quickly.Since I believe my "picker"is broken. I guess I really don't trust myself to pick the right person for myself. I usually wind up picking someone who drives me batty. I'm getting to old to be drove batty everyday. |
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Some more of my thoughts on this subject. Over the years I really haven't had very good luck in the relationship dept. I've only had one good one. She was much younger than me. I let her get away from me. She went back to England. I should have went with her. Mistake on my part. But, Besides that one relationship not one of my other relationships ever got anywhere. Not even my marriage before it. So, I think I am a little jaded. I know that this may sound like bad attitude,But, It's honestly how I feel. Their is a part of me that really doesn't care anymore whether I ever fall in love again or not. I guess in one sense of the word I'm pulled both ways. I believe that no one,Including myself,really wants to be alone forever. We all want to find someone to love that loves us for us unconditionally. But for those of us that have either let it get away from us, Or, In my case, I let it get away from me once,But also,I spent six years in one hell of a bad marriage. Then several bad relationships after and before it.Well, You just get to a point to where you don't want to have to go through it anymore. Tired of dealing with all the drama and crap that goes with it. I don't know about others that might be reading this. I do believe my "picker" is broken. I would love to find someone that I could be with for whatever time god sees fit to leave me here top side. That's another reason why I don't allow myself to fall in love. Especially to quickly.Since I believe my "picker"is broken. I guess I really don't trust myself to pick the right person for myself. I usually wind up picking someone who drives me batty. I'm getting to old to be drove batty everyday. Hi Charles... I know you are being serious here, but I can't help smiling, even giggling  (just a little tho  ) imagining your "picker" being in disrepair... and also being driven batty as a result... it just seems that you have put your finger on my pulse, and mine is barely beating anymore too... Maybe it is something in the water... or the air... that keeps our pickers picked problematic... just when I think I've found the one, all heck breaks loose and I'm giving myself CPR again... the part I hate the most is the withdrawal phase... because it hurts like the dickens... just when you think you've stopped thinking about them, bammm!! your all picked out mind starts missing them again, and the darn feelings take over... I've gotten to where you are now, not caring one way or the other if anybody ever really loves me again, because I'm pretty content just making myself happy... and less batty... but when I least expect it... bammm... again! somebody's picker picks me out of the crowd, and we're driving each other batty again... I know it's more difficult for men because it's you all that do the picking, and we women are the plucked... but don't give up... just when you least expect it the winds could change... and your bat-mobile is off to her doorstep and the two of you are in for the ride of your life... even if it's just for 2 or 3 laps around the track... 
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I touched on this in an earlier post. Seriously, People scare me with there way of thinking now. It's totally different from the way I was raised. I guess you can say that I am a child of the late 60's and 70's. When I was growing up I was taught that only foolish people and the sex crazy base there relationships on sex. As I said before, It's common place now. It goes against my raising. I was taught that kind of thinking is wrong. I'm 50. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. But I've never went against my raising.
I look around me and I see relationships that fall apart in no time. It's like people marry for all the wrong reasons now. Back in my day I was taught you marry someone because you love them. PERIOD. It seems to me that a lot of people I come across have no idea what love really is. They have no idea what commitment is. They have no idea what it takes to make a relationship work. Most now if the sex wanes away in later years they are ready to kick the other to the curb. After years of marriage. I once posted in another forum on another site that at a certain age,it's different for every couple,that sex wanes away. I was so surprised at the responses I got. I will not go through any of them here. But, It made me wonder,Where is the love? Why did you marry at all? If it was nothing but sex what was the point in marrying? What did you have in common besides sex? Makes no sense. I was taught that you marry because you love one another and you both have a burning desire to be with each other for ever. You have more in common than just sex because in your later yrs when sex wanes away you can at least talk to each other and enjoy each others company. You actually graduate to a higher level with each other. A level that transcends sex.Your not only lovers. You're best friends. You're attached at the hip so to speak. You're one. That's the way I was taught it's supposed to be. Both my parents lived it in front of me and my sister. My sister has been married to the same man for 34 yrs. I would still be married if I hadn't married what I married. I tried on my end. I'll leave that at that. The way people think and do now scares me. It goes against my raising. Another reason I don't fall in love to easy. I guess I'm one of a few. I don't fall in love by whats swinging between my legs or what's between "hers". |
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I touched on this in an earlier post. Seriously, People scare me with there way of thinking now. It's totally different from the way I was raised. I guess you can say that I am a child of the late 60's and 70's. When I was growing up I was taught that only foolish people and the sex crazy base there relationships on sex. As I said before, It's common place now. It goes against my raising. I was taught that kind of thinking is wrong. I'm 50. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. But I've never went against my raising. I look around me and I see relationships that fall apart in no time. It's like people marry for all the wrong reasons now. Back in my day I was taught you marry someone because you love them. PERIOD. It seems to me that a lot of people I come across have no idea what love really is. They have no idea what commitment is. They have no idea what it takes to make a relationship work. Most now if the sex wanes away in later years they are ready to kick the other to the curb. After years of marriage. I once posted in another forum on another site that at a certain age,it's different for every couple,that sex wanes away. I was so surprised at the responses I got. I will not go through any of them here. But, It made me wonder,Where is the love? Why did you marry at all? If it was nothing but sex what was the point in marrying? What did you have in common besides sex? Makes no sense. I was taught that you marry because you love one another and you both have a burning desire to be with each other for ever. You have more in common than just sex because in your later yrs when sex wanes away you can at least talk to each other and enjoy each others company. You actually graduate to a higher level with each other. A level that transcends sex.Your not only lovers. You're best friends. You're attached at the hip so to speak. You're one. That's the way I was taught it's supposed to be. Both my parents lived it in front of me and my sister. My sister has been married to the same man for 34 yrs. I would still be married if I hadn't married what I married. I tried on my end. I'll leave that at that. The way people think and do now scares me. It goes against my raising. Another reason I don't fall in love to easy. I guess I'm one of a few. I don't fall in love by whats swinging between my legs or what's between "hers". Sex, love, and marriage... I agree that sex seems to be the predominant factor in why people begin relationships, then I suppose if it's good enough they marry it to keep it to themselves, and once it wanes they find that same connection with someone else. My most recent marriage lasted 18 years and would have went the distance if not for outside influences on his part. But I can truly say that as the years rolled on his desire never waned, though I can't say the same for myself because after so much you just need a break. Having been with only him for the last 2 decades makes the thought of being with someone else very daunting, that's why I'm in no hurry to connect with anybody else on a sexual level either. So, to me, having access to the net in which we can make friends and get to know each other for extended periods of time before making any major decisions like that is a much better way of dating. I haven't been divorced even a year yet, so my mind might change on the subject somewhere down the road, but for now I'm content just meeting men online and becoming friends. Personally, I think sex is over rated, and at my age won't be the determining factor in whether I bring another man into my life or not. I think it's awesome that your family values longevity, I wish I could say the same for my parents who were the black sheep when it came to staying committed, but life is what it is, we make the best with what we have and keep striving to make it better. |
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I touched on this in an earlier post. Seriously, People scare me with there way of thinking now. It's totally different from the way I was raised. I guess you can say that I am a child of the late 60's and 70's. When I was growing up I was taught that only foolish people and the sex crazy base there relationships on sex. As I said before, It's common place now. It goes against my raising. I was taught that kind of thinking is wrong. I'm 50. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. But I've never went against my raising. I look around me and I see relationships that fall apart in no time. It's like people marry for all the wrong reasons now. Back in my day I was taught you marry someone because you love them. PERIOD. It seems to me that a lot of people I come across have no idea what love really is. They have no idea what commitment is. They have no idea what it takes to make a relationship work. Most now if the sex wanes away in later years they are ready to kick the other to the curb. After years of marriage. I once posted in another forum on another site that at a certain age,it's different for every couple,that sex wanes away. I was so surprised at the responses I got. I will not go through any of them here. But, It made me wonder,Where is the love? Why did you marry at all? If it was nothing but sex what was the point in marrying? What did you have in common besides sex? Makes no sense. I was taught that you marry because you love one another and you both have a burning desire to be with each other for ever. You have more in common than just sex because in your later yrs when sex wanes away you can at least talk to each other and enjoy each others company. You actually graduate to a higher level with each other. A level that transcends sex.Your not only lovers. You're best friends. You're attached at the hip so to speak. You're one. That's the way I was taught it's supposed to be. Both my parents lived it in front of me and my sister. My sister has been married to the same man for 34 yrs. I would still be married if I hadn't married what I married. I tried on my end. I'll leave that at that. The way people think and do now scares me. It goes against my raising. Another reason I don't fall in love to easy. I guess I'm one of a few. I don't fall in love by whats swinging between my legs or what's between "hers". Sex, love, and marriage... I agree that sex seems to be the predominant factor in why people begin relationships, then I suppose if it's good enough they marry it to keep it to themselves, and once it wanes they find that same connection with someone else. My most recent marriage lasted 18 years and would have went the distance if not for outside influences on his part. But I can truly say that as the years rolled on his desire never waned, though I can't say the same for myself because after so much you just need a break. Having been with only him for the last 2 decades makes the thought of being with someone else very daunting, that's why I'm in no hurry to connect with anybody else on a sexual level either. So, to me, having access to the net in which we can make friends and get to know each other for extended periods of time before making any major decisions like that is a much better way of dating. I haven't been divorced even a year yet, so my mind might change on the subject somewhere down the road, but for now I'm content just meeting men online and becoming friends. Personally, I think sex is over rated, and at my age won't be the determining factor in whether I bring another man into my life or not. I think it's awesome that your family values longevity, I wish I could say the same for my parents who were the black sheep when it came to staying committed, but life is what it is, we make the best with what we have and keep striving to make it better. Sounds to me like you might be in the same boat I was in when I first got divorced. I didn't really want anything to do with any women at all for 5 years after my divorce. I was a wreck. I needed time alone. Some healing time. Time to let my mind rest. Some "me" time. It took me five yrs to get it together and make up my mind about whether I wanted to ever date or not. My divorce went through in 2000. It was 2005 or maybe a little later before I started dating again. I don't mean to sound like an a$$. I am just being honest. I haven't been very "taken" for lack of a better word, By what I have found so far. Not trying to hijack the thread here. Just saying. |
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I touched on this in an earlier post. Seriously, People scare me with there way of thinking now. It's totally different from the way I was raised. I guess you can say that I am a child of the late 60's and 70's. When I was growing up I was taught that only foolish people and the sex crazy base there relationships on sex. As I said before, It's common place now. It goes against my raising. I was taught that kind of thinking is wrong. I'm 50. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. But I've never went against my raising. I look around me and I see relationships that fall apart in no time. It's like people marry for all the wrong reasons now. Back in my day I was taught you marry someone because you love them. PERIOD. It seems to me that a lot of people I come across have no idea what love really is. They have no idea what commitment is. They have no idea what it takes to make a relationship work. Most now if the sex wanes away in later years they are ready to kick the other to the curb. After years of marriage. I once posted in another forum on another site that at a certain age,it's different for every couple,that sex wanes away. I was so surprised at the responses I got. I will not go through any of them here. But, It made me wonder,Where is the love? Why did you marry at all? If it was nothing but sex what was the point in marrying? What did you have in common besides sex? Makes no sense. I was taught that you marry because you love one another and you both have a burning desire to be with each other for ever. You have more in common than just sex because in your later yrs when sex wanes away you can at least talk to each other and enjoy each others company. You actually graduate to a higher level with each other. A level that transcends sex.Your not only lovers. You're best friends. You're attached at the hip so to speak. You're one. That's the way I was taught it's supposed to be. Both my parents lived it in front of me and my sister. My sister has been married to the same man for 34 yrs. I would still be married if I hadn't married what I married. I tried on my end. I'll leave that at that. The way people think and do now scares me. It goes against my raising. Another reason I don't fall in love to easy. I guess I'm one of a few. I don't fall in love by whats swinging between my legs or what's between "hers". Sex, love, and marriage... I agree that sex seems to be the predominant factor in why people begin relationships, then I suppose if it's good enough they marry it to keep it to themselves, and once it wanes they find that same connection with someone else. My most recent marriage lasted 18 years and would have went the distance if not for outside influences on his part. But I can truly say that as the years rolled on his desire never waned, though I can't say the same for myself because after so much you just need a break. Having been with only him for the last 2 decades makes the thought of being with someone else very daunting, that's why I'm in no hurry to connect with anybody else on a sexual level either. So, to me, having access to the net in which we can make friends and get to know each other for extended periods of time before making any major decisions like that is a much better way of dating. I haven't been divorced even a year yet, so my mind might change on the subject somewhere down the road, but for now I'm content just meeting men online and becoming friends. Personally, I think sex is over rated, and at my age won't be the determining factor in whether I bring another man into my life or not. I think it's awesome that your family values longevity, I wish I could say the same for my parents who were the black sheep when it came to staying committed, but life is what it is, we make the best with what we have and keep striving to make it better. Sounds to me like you might be in the same boat I was in when I first got divorced. I didn't really want anything to do with any women at all for 5 years after my divorce. I was a wreck. I needed time alone. Some healing time. Time to let my mind rest. Some "me" time. It took me five yrs to get it together and make up my mind about whether I wanted to ever date or not. My divorce went through in 2000. It was 2005 or maybe a little later before I started dating again. I don't mean to sound like an a$$. I am just being honest. I haven't been very "taken" for lack of a better word, By what I have found so far. Not trying to hijack the thread here. Just saying. It's cool, Charles, I completely understand your reasoning... and your right, the pickins do appear to be very slim... so my picker won't have to worry about needing an adjustment any time soon. And heck yeah... the me time is so freakin awesome... all the years of devotion to someone else I can now focus on myself... though it's still cool to have a man to talk to as a friend, especially when I get too lonely, and Hammer just can't keep me amused beyond his occasional slobbery kisses... 5 years, huh... it took me that long to get over my father's death, so I know how strong emotional trauma can negatively affect us... and being distracted online is a new experience for me, so hopefully the honeymoon phase won't die too soon, even though I've already had one friendship crash and burn, I'm still keeping my options open... never know what the future might hold just around the next corner.. 
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