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Intelligence is big...I was staring at this for about ten minutes before I realized that was it.
I'm unconvinced love actually exists. |
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When i get to know a person the first thing i want to see is the eyes. Second is their priorities and principles. DANG! Thats why my past relationship didn't last.
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It takes me a long, long time to let down my "guard."..
As people age they erect walls to protect themself from being hurt. Yes, young individuals are more naive but they experience love much easier. As people (yes, men and women) age our likelihood goes down because we (men and women) do not trust each other. The game of love rewards risk-taking with pleasure. Staying single rewards caution with safety. Being too picky is a way of playing it safe to avoid losing again. As we age we latch onto two protective walls: 1. I can't find someone worthy of my love. 2. I can't find the love that doesn't ask me to risk losing out again. I saw this in single people of my parents generation as they passed the 50 year mark. Unfortunately, most never experienced true love again. Not trying to sound like Johnny Rain Cloud: just observations of life. |
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Instantly if I don't watch my heart.
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I’ve not been in love often enough to actually see a trend. I imagine it will be different every time pending a long string of varying circumstances.
Everyone has such different gifts to offer a relationship, so I don’t really have a laundry list of how I want him to be. Maybe I just want to be surprised. Though, I guess at my age, it would be a bonus if I met someone whose general lifestyle was not so different from mine. Shorter bridge to cross and all that. |
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I love easily and quickly. I can't see any reason to hold back, it's much easier to just give everything. It doesn't always work out, but you make some great friends along the way, people who leave happy memories and stay close to your heart always.  You dont have to stop loving just because your not together
if I didn't know better, josie, I'd swear we were twins separated at birth only to have miraculously found each other on Mingle...
seriously, we are so similar in belief and practice it's almost spooky...  
I k now, I read some of your posts and think, finally someone as strange as me  
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When i get to know a person the first thing i want to see is the eyes. Second is their priorities and principles. DANG! Thats why my past relationship didn't last. do you believe that the eyes are the window to the soul? 
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What individuality or assets does another person have to possess before you are drawn to them in like?
Once making “like’s” emotional connection, how easily and quickly do your feelings progress to love?  
"like" does not always progress to love, but if it doesn't, it is still "like." I can think of a few men who I could possibly fall in love with were they available and reciprovated my interest. It takes me quite awhile to fall in love and it has happened only a few times. The things that draw me to them are chemistry and personalities, sense of humor that are in sync. and sincerity. I am not paticularly impressed with men who come on to me when they really are not available, or their interest is in sex only. you're right, sweetestgirl... I think my mind was focusing on an evolving relationship when I posed that question, so thank you for pointing out that like doesn't always grow more fondly... and it seems that you and I are attracted to similar traits in men... while being put off by their other less tasteful proclivities... 
I wonder if is me, or does it seem like men more often than women lie about their availability (in order to lure us into bed with the false promise of something lasting)? before you guys lambaste me - remember I said, I wonder??? So I am open to listening to explanations of why all men aren;t like this but also I make no promises to believe...lol
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It takes me a long, long time to let down my "guard.".. I want to wait until I have a chance to see "all sides" to a man before I hand him my heart (and trust) on a "silver platter."...I may have feelings for someone but I'm not going to "leap" into anything prematurely...I probably view love like a soup or pasta sauce. It takes time for all the ingredients to "mix" and blend together...I don't want to rush the process... I won't talk about love until I feel totally comfortable with someone at all times...When I'm "sure" of who he really is...No "instant" or "overnight" love for me! Yep; I agree with what she said.
hi navygirl, good to see you back from your weekend away...
Thanks. It was fun and I found myself a great new job; so all is perfect in my little world.
excellent news then... will it be permanent?
Yes; its permanent and it's a supervisory job with a chance to move up the ladder; as well wearing blue jeans, and having my own office. Less hours and better hours so I can actually eat properly again rather than rushing from work to my other events. Navygirl, I just read this. Congratulations on finding such a good job! This is great news!! Thanks cutiepiefor you.
No, it's been 2 years. I have been working but hated my job as it did not present a challenge. YOu are welcome! This happened so quickly for you didn't it? |
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Congrats navy! Good for you! Thanks MG. |
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Intelligence is big...I was staring at this for about ten minutes before I realized that was it. I'm unconvinced love actually exists. then won't it be the most awesome experience you'll ever know when/if you do experience it for yourself...
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When i get to know a person the first thing i want to see is the eyes. Second is their priorities and principles. DANG! Thats why my past relationship didn't last.
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It takes me a long, long time to let down my "guard."..
As people age they erect walls to protect themself from being hurt. Yes, young individuals are more naive but they experience love much easier. As people (yes, men and women) age our likelihood goes down because we (men and women) do not trust each other. The game of love rewards risk-taking with pleasure. Staying single rewards caution with safety. Being too picky is a way of playing it safe to avoid losing again. As we age we latch onto two protective walls: 1. I can't find someone worthy of my love. 2. I can't find the love that doesn't ask me to risk losing out again. I saw this in single people of my parents generation as they passed the 50 year mark. Unfortunately, most never experienced true love again. Not trying to sound like Johnny Rain Cloud: just observations of life. yes it is a reality that after a lifetime of experience and a deeper understanding of "the game of love" that some choose to remain unattached rather than put themselves at risk in any way... but it seems to me that living as one chooses affords them a peace of mind and spirit that they might not know otherwise... |
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Instantly if I don't watch my heart. good for you hippie..
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I’ve not been in love often enough to actually see a trend. I imagine it will be different every time pending a long string of varying circumstances. Everyone has such different gifts to offer a relationship, so I don’t really have a laundry list of how I want him to be. Maybe I just want to be surprised. Though, I guess at my age, it would be a bonus if I met someone whose general lifestyle was not so different from mine. Shorter bridge to cross and all that. completely understood... 
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I love easily and quickly. I can't see any reason to hold back, it's much easier to just give everything. It doesn't always work out, but you make some great friends along the way, people who leave happy memories and stay close to your heart always. You dont have to stop loving just because your not together
if I didn't know better, josie, I'd swear we were twins separated at birth only to have miraculously found each other on Mingle...
seriously, we are so similar in belief and practice it's almost spooky...
I k now, I read some of your posts and think, finally someone as strange as me
I'll take that as a most endearing compliment... 
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Wed 02/27/13 02:10 AM
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What individuality or assets does another person have to possess before you are drawn to them in like?
Once making “like’s” emotional connection, how easily and quickly do your feelings progress to love?
"like" does not always progress to love, but if it doesn't, it is still "like." I can think of a few men who I could possibly fall in love with were they available and reciprovated my interest. It takes me quite awhile to fall in love and it has happened only a few times. The things that draw me to them are chemistry and personalities, sense of humor that are in sync. and sincerity. I am not paticularly impressed with men who come on to me when they really are not available, or their interest is in sex only. you're right, sweetestgirl... I think my mind was focusing on an evolving relationship when I posed that question, so thank you for pointing out that like doesn't always grow more fondly... and it seems that you and I are attracted to similar traits in men... while being put off by their other less tasteful proclivities...
I wonder if is me, or does it seem like men more often than women lie about their availability (in order to lure us into bed with the false promise of something lasting)? before you guys lambaste me - remember I said, I wonder??? So I am open to listening to explanations of why all men aren;t like this but also I make no promises to believe...lol
I can honestly say I don't know anything about this subject after the fact, as I've not been approached by an attached man to enter into a connection with him... but if I was unknowingly communicating with a man who is already spoken for, there was no relationship between us that would cause me to even care one way or the other... a couple times on these dating sites men have started up conversations with me, but as soon as I find out they have a love interest in their lives I immediately stop all communication other than casual, on the boards speaking in passing type thing. Having felt the sting of infidelity myself, I refuse to trample on another woman's turf.. it's a respect thing with me... and I would not want to be the woman who brought another woman pain through this kind of male disloyalty... I understand that most people don't think like I do, and that flirting with others while having someone already in their lives is some how a normal, and an accepted form of behavior... but to me, if my man tells me he loves me and then finds other women to amuse himself with, then his love for me is not genuine, and he can find another woman that doesn't mind sharing his affection.. because that's not me... don't ask me why my mind went off in this direction with such a lengthy reply that wasn't even asked for... but the spirit moved me, so I went with it... thanks for your understanding... 
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It normally takes me a few months. We are just friends. I admired him for being a great male role model to the younger generation. It was appreciation. Being in awe. I didn't know I'd end up having feelings for him, until he mentioned his break up. Well, after that, I felt unable to supress how my feelings were unfolding, but I'll see how it goes. He is four year younger than me.
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It normally takes me a few months. We are just friends. I admired him for being a great male role model to the younger generation. It was appreciation. Being in awe. I didn't know I'd end up having feelings for him, until he mentioned his break up. Well, after that, I felt unable to supress how my feelings were unfolding, but I'll see how it goes. He is four year younger than me. hi RG, I just looked at your profile to become better acquainted with you... I realized that we've posted back and forth for a while now and I don't know much about you other than your personal views, so it was a pleasure to take a closer peek...  .. I'm happy to read that you have found a romantic interest... I will keep my thoughts positive that the two of you will become better friends and maybe more...
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Edited by
Kennee77
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Wed 02/27/13 04:31 AM
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Its not so easy. Theres so much trust involved and by the time I can fall in love, hes done something to kill it. So it Must be yu then, not him
Thats quite a rude assumption. One nearly raped me, can't really call it that legally but it was very devasting to me never the less The other one was a major alcoholic who was beginning to become physically agressive although I completely looked after him except his habit. I talked him into going to rehab and hes been dry for 4 years now. We are friends now The last one I was in, he cheated on me while I was away for 6 weeks looking after my dying daughter. I spent thousands and my hard labor into renovating his house. He told me to leave the day before my daughters memorial service. I'm not expecting any sympathy but if you don't know me then its not fair to make assumptions like that. Yes 2 sides to every story I know So Sorry 2 hear dat. Putting it dis way Makes it all Clear. The First Comment Sounded Like if yu Meet a Guy, nice or otherwise, it takes yu quite Long 2 Let yur Guards Down, and cos of dat they Lose Patience and do Something dat Makes yu Leave |
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