We meet by chance… fall in-like at first glance… can’t wait for romance… we unbuckle our pants... during foreplay we arouse our senses and curiosity… our passion controls us with its intensity… together in-lust our bodies are on fire… our minds are on the brink… and… we don’t stop to think… we react to our impulses… tearing at our clothes… we’re naked and exposed… craving and maintaining caresses… entangled and breathless… we can’t get enough of this… we two are now one… in-love and having fun…

A lot of us test the waters(sex) before we jump in the pool(relationship) feet first. So… can awesome sex be what brings two people together at the beginning of an emotional connection?

Is it possible to have nothing else in common except great sex, and yet still be able to make the relationship work to our equal advantage, if while staying together for the sex we learn to grow in other areas too?

If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst?

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I guess it can, if you're the type to just suddenly sleep with someone, if you are not bothered about getting to know them first. My gut instinct would be warning me not to do that. As I only want sex with someone if I know we're compatible. I can't sleep with someone right from the get go. No matter how badly he might want to.

haarsha, this thread about sex is not an invitation for you to take the subject off topic... kindly keep your answers relevant to the questions asked…

hi Rawwr_Girl.. this topic is hypothetical... although people do meet and have sex the same day, especially if they run the clubs circuit, one night stands are the norm... and I appreciate your honest reply... I too take my time getting to know someone before I become physically involved with him... so I understand your position...

Sex can only carry a relationship so far . . on matter how awesome it is. I Think it is possible to work on the relationship if great sex is what brings you together. But both parties must then also be willing to work on the other aspects of the relationship or eventually the sex no matter how good wont be worth giving up what you really want.

that makes perfect sense, penny... that great sex can't fill the void where something vital is lacking... especially if the people make no effort to grow in other areas...

. Though, I still admit to feeling physically atrracted to a few. Especially in college.

Okay, this is another one of your threads where you ask a bunch of questions but I'll do my best to try to answer them.

Yes, I think it's alright to jump fairly quickly into a sexual relationship with someone that you meet and like and find atractive. I'm not entirely sure how you can "like" someone if you have nothing in common with them but perhaps when you say "like" you just mean meeting someone and thinking that they are a likable person, or at least interesting to talk to or something like that.

I believe that it is possible to make a relationship work if both people are prepared to try to make it work and "grow in other areas" as you put it. I did have a relationship with someone that said that we had nothing in common but that wasn't strictly true because we liked the same music and enjoyed doing at least some things together apart from sex. I think that although we actually did have a close friendship as well as being lovers there was a personality clash and we didn't really share the same outlook on life and give each other what we wanted from a partner.

As far as "If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst?" goes, well, what tends to happen is that you meet up again and you dig up the past and that's fine if you are just reminiscing about good times that you had together but you end up reopening old wounds and the arguments start again. But maybe you can try to rekindle a relationship and talk through your differences and admit that you made mistakes and are willing to try to change or have changed.

If you are asking if it's alright to meet up again just for "no strings fun" I guess that that can be okay if you are both free agents and you aren't leading the other person on and making them think that you want to give a relationship with them a go. It's tricky though because what can happen is that the differences still remain and you want different things from each other. The same thing happens again and something that started off as just a bit of fun and company with someone of the opposite sex can get complicated and "feelings" can come into it.

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cool, tawt, I really get into your answers as they help me see a bigger picture than I painted... with my eyes wide open I can see many different sides of the view...

Yes, I think absolutely it can.

Give a person a feeling and experience they have never felt or had before and it can most definitely influence them. It is a connection on a physical level but it also incorporates your feelings and emotions in that moment.

It's not enough, what do you do if something happens and the sex is gone? What is the connection then?

I would say yes, to both questions here. Relationships have been based on "great" sex, then the couple grows together in love. If you do not have a sexual compatibility the relationship is more likely to fail. If a couple breaks apart for other reasons other than sex and then see one another later they could get back together for sexual pleasure. I want a friendship first, sex comes only with a committed relionship for me now. Most Men date to have sex. Also livins are for mostly Sex and financial help. Imo

Like a magicians slight of hand there well be oohs and aaws but when the performance is all said and done was it not nothing more then just an illusion passing time. A distraction of misdirection so that the void we seek fill becomes but a distantmemory. No Athena , in my jumble opinion it never has nor never well be a complete answer to the equation of the void. Great anything can be earned, learned and accomplished if one truely wishes it.
Post script.....
On behalf of the male species (not that its my place lol) in regards to a narrow minded reply I apologize and conclude it just proves my point.

yea, some people just like to play dumb... negative attention is better than none... especially when they're trying to stir up their flavor of games on others threads... good thing the posting rules gives us the ability to remind people to stay on topic...

That is the big question... if the couple made no effort to grow in other areas, I would assume they wouldn't have enough in common to stay together after the sexual fervor has died..

You've Lost That Livin Feeling - The Righteous Brothers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEkB-VQviLI

I believe you are right, toody... on all counts... thank you for bringing this different perspective to our attention... livins are mostly for sex and "financial help"... and if either of those reasons fail so can the relationship...