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I can't say the "sex" itself was so good that I was gone for a guy....but his body, smell, lips,etc... were just right for me, and had me head over heels...so I put up with crappy sex....never again
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no I think not. I have found it harder to move on and forget men that captured my heart. Often we did not ever have sex. 
I've had that experience myself, sweet, isn't that strange though? Maybe they are harder to forget because of the mystery they leave with us by never having consummated our feelings... 
I think they are harder to forget because they touch us more deeply. For me personally, it is also because I know for certain that I was not used in those relationships. That touches me on a much deeper level than a good lay. Yes, you are right... I truly identify with what you've said... to have a relationship, and not feel used...
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I can't say the "sex" itself was so good that I was gone for a guy....but his body, smell, lips,etc... were just right for me, and had me head over heels...so I put up with crappy sex....never again mountainwatergirl, I must admit that would be a real bummer... maybe next time...  
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Calll me unty girl 95942359
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Calll me unty girl 95942359 89 no thanks... |
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To have sex or any other act or emotion control me in any way...wont stand for it..that's losing self control..my feelings are my own so outside influence is secondary...besides...sex in itself should always be awesome...if not..then make an effort to make it so....
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We meet by chance… fall in-like at first glance… can’t wait for romance… we unbuckle our pants... during foreplay we arouse our senses and curiosity… our passion controls us with its intensity… together in-lust our bodies are on fire… our minds are on the brink… and… we don’t stop to think… we react to our impulses… tearing at our clothes… we’re naked and exposed… craving and maintaining caresses… entangled and breathless… we can’t get enough of this… we two are now one… in-love and having fun… A lot of us test the waters(sex) before we jump in the pool(relationship) feet first. So… can awesome sex be what brings two people together at the beginning of an emotional connection? 
Is it possible to have nothing else in common except great sex, and yet still be able to make the relationship work to our equal advantage, if while staying together for the sex we learn to grow in other areas too?
If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst? 
Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15  ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... |
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To have sex or any other act or emotion control me in any way...wont stand for it..that's losing self control..my feelings are my own so outside influence is secondary...besides...sex in itself should always be awesome...if not..then make an effort to make it so.... Hello zenman, nice to meet you... welcome to Mingle... |
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I am in full agreement with even the memory of good sex being completely tarnished if you have been used. Unless you have no feelings at all. As a sensative person, I feel the human pheromones released during sex can trigger feelings of love that may not be true, and I would like to see more studies about that cause love confuses the heck out of me...
 
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Edited by
Traumer
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Sun 03/03/13 03:02 PM
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Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15 ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... I LOVED THAT NOVEL BY SOUTHERN! It was nearly identical to his republished 'Maxwell Kenton' version in 1966 The movie version was BLAHHHHHHHHHHH though the actress playing Candy was hilarious...
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Sun 03/03/13 03:11 PM
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Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15 ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... I LOVED THAT NOVEL BY SOUTHERN! It was nearly identical to the Maxwell Kent version at the same time. The movie version was BLAHHHHHHHHHHH though the actress playing Candy was hilarious...
I KNOW !!..Somehow  my friends and I got ahold of that book in high school and passed it around for months!! You should have seen the damn thing!!...Taped together, ear marked...Spills, at lease I think they were spills I mean "Candy" was they biggest thing to hit the girls locker room in years!!!
But, in keeping to topic, what do you think about hot sex sustaining a relationship?...I say no way... |
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I am in full agreement with even the memory of good sex being completely tarnished if you have been used. Unless you have no feelings at all. As a sensative person, I feel the human pheromones released during sex can trigger feelings of love that may not be true, and I would like to see more studies about that cause love confuses the heck out of me...
I agree with you too, yogi.. love confuses me even more... thank you for sharing your thoughts with us... |
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Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15 ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... I LOVED THAT NOVEL BY SOUTHERN! It was nearly identical to his republished 'Maxwell Kenton' version in 1966 The movie version was BLAHHHHHHHHHHH though the actress playing Candy was hilarious...
that's cool, Traumer... I'm glad you enjoyed this thread...
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Hell yes it can.
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Consider the guy who is so infatuated with someone then sex happens with this person he is fond of. Then all of his friends tell him that this person is just using him but he can't see it. Then the infatuation he has is over and he starts to see what all of his friends have been trying to tell is true.
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We meet by chance… fall in-like at first glance… can’t wait for romance… we unbuckle our pants... during foreplay we arouse our senses and curiosity… our passion controls us with its intensity… together in-lust our bodies are on fire… our minds are on the brink… and… we don’t stop to think… we react to our impulses… tearing at our clothes… we’re naked and exposed… craving and maintaining caresses… entangled and breathless… we can’t get enough of this… we two are now one… in-love and having fun… A lot of us test the waters(sex) before we jump in the pool(relationship) feet first. So… can awesome sex be what brings two people together at the beginning of an emotional connection?
Is it possible to have nothing else in common except great sex, and yet still be able to make the relationship work to our equal advantage, if while staying together for the sex we learn to grow in other areas too?
If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst?
Augustine and Buddha taught about the irrationality of the emotion of sex. From experience, meditation, and study, I've come to the conclusion that sex and/or physical attraction isn't sufficient basis for a stable relationship. |
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We meet by chance… fall in-like at first glance… can’t wait for romance… we unbuckle our pants... during foreplay we arouse our senses and curiosity… our passion controls us with its intensity… together in-lust our bodies are on fire… our minds are on the brink… and… we don’t stop to think… we react to our impulses… tearing at our clothes… we’re naked and exposed… craving and maintaining caresses… entangled and breathless… we can’t get enough of this… we two are now one… in-love and having fun… A lot of us test the waters(sex) before we jump in the pool(relationship) feet first. So… can awesome sex be what brings two people together at the beginning of an emotional connection?
Is it possible to have nothing else in common except great sex, and yet still be able to make the relationship work to our equal advantage, if while staying together for the sex we learn to grow in other areas too?
If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst?
Hmmm I could wait for romance so like is not and never did get me to unbuckle my pants. Were there times my britches were on fire? You betcha just did not want to be the predictable statistic. Can awesome sex bring to people together? Yea maybe for how ever long it lasted but I don't like you your probably never getting close enough to find out. Someone wanting sex with me has never been in short supply so always have had choices. One more trist? LOL Nope the operative word more is not working if they never got to first round. |
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Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15 ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... I LOVED THAT NOVEL BY SOUTHERN! It was nearly identical to the Maxwell Kent version at the same time. The movie version was BLAHHHHHHHHHHH though the actress playing Candy was hilarious...
I KNOW !!..Somehow my friends and I got ahold of that book in high school and passed it around for months!! You should have seen the damn thing!!...Taped together, ear marked...Spills, at lease I think they were spills I mean "Candy" was they biggest thing to hit the girls locker room in years!!!
But, in keeping to topic, what do you think about hot sex sustaining a relationship?...I say no way... I've known of a few instances where it worked for years. One notorious case ended up in a divorce court after ten years of marriage based on sex only. Her grounds were that he only came home once every year. She had nine children...that was it; nothing else other than he only said one word each time. The Judge sat there a few moments, like stunned, then he announced 'Divorce granted!'  Relationships based only on sex are negative in that nothing is allowed to grow naturally between two people that would make it flourish like plants dying lacking nutrients. Water alone won't help soil without those life sustaining nutrients...
(Someone stole my copy of Candy around 1987...) 
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Sun 03/03/13 09:24 PM
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Your description sounds like it came straight out of a paperback romance novel...The kind I used to hide under my mattress when I was 15 ...Anyone remember the novel "Candy" by Terry Southern? Thanks for the good memories Athena
To answer your questions... #1 - Yes #2 - Yes it's possible, but most relationships based on good sex are shallow and temporary #3 - That depends on the circumstances..If neither person is in a relationship and both want to travel down memory lane, I see no problem... I LOVED THAT NOVEL BY SOUTHERN! It was nearly identical to the Maxwell Kent version at the same time. The movie version was BLAHHHHHHHHHHH though the actress playing Candy was hilarious...
I KNOW !!..Somehow my friends and I got ahold of that book in high school and passed it around for months!! You should have seen the damn thing!!...Taped together, ear marked...Spills, at least I think they were spills I mean "Candy" was the biggest thing to hit the girls locker room in years!!!
But, in keeping to topic, what do you think about hot sex sustaining a relationship?...I say no way... I've known of a few instances where it worked for years. One notorious case ended up in a divorce court after ten years of marriage based on sex only. Her grounds were that he only came home once every year. She had nine children...that was it; nothing else other than he only said one word each time. The Judge sat there a few moments, like stunned, then he announced 'Divorce granted!' Relationships based only on sex are negative in that nothing is allowed to grow naturally between two people that would make it flourish like plants dying lacking nutrients. Water alone won't help soil without those life sustaining nutrients...
(Someone stole my copy of Candy around 1987...)
I fixed a couple of typo's, mine  ...Meeting fellow "Candy" readers always makes me tremble! Same here, I know two couples who made sexually based relationships work..One was my best friend in high school...She and her sweetie tested many of the "positions" mentioned in the book They are still happily married (well married anyway) and have 5 grandchildren ...
Funny story, wise judge!
Plants are nothing w/o nutrients, true that is! ....
A shame about losing your book  .. I stopped hiding my copy under the mattress in 1974...Had a "door in the floor" installed...I keep all my good chit in there...
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hey rose I want to lick ur sexy feet n legs
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