I think that is harsh. People shouldn't be considered selfish just because they won't accept a person with children. Why should they take responsiblity for someone's kid? I wouldn't accept someone with kids either. I am 52 years old; have a full time job; a house to take care of; my military obligations; so I am way to exhausted to take care of a child. So before you pass judgements on others; you need to understand why. Age also is not a illusion; it's damn real. Grey hair, wrinkles, weakening eye sight, aches and pains; with eventually facing death. These things are very real and not an illusion. I challenge anyone that is 20 or 30 years younger than me to understand what its like to age. They don't have a clue of what you are going through especially when someone is in menopause or going through mid life crisis. So; of course that matters in a relatioship; because relationship comes from the word relate. A large age gap is too hard to relate. Also being older; dating a younger person does not make you feel younger; its just a remind of how old you really are.

Navygirl..You said it right.
I had a man 59 raising 7 children that his girlfriend had, and he was seeking a wife. I liked him, but I said "good luck". The youngest was 7 and the oldest 17. He lived in Washington and wanted me to move there and marry. I said if I had 7 children all under age, would I still have a proposal. He said Yes, but I never would believe that. Older men like younger women, but he had to take the children because his girlfriend left him. Why would any
woman have that many children and never marry the man. That is probably a whole nother story. He said she was on drugs but who knows.

If a couple can make it work with a large age gap, go for it. It seems like more and more people on dating sites have kids, and young ones at that. We I look over them I think to myself, do I really want to have all that responiblity right off the bat. Having to deal with the ex or will she fuse at me for correcting her kids. Will the children accept me into their life. There are so many problems that can arise and I am not sure I want to deal with it.

Good points you raised about being with somone who has kids.

Age is very important(the exception is a small difference in age),girl with 27 years and men over 40,have nothing in common-intellectually are different,It is more lenient form of pedophilia.Of course our ego will not accept that fact.the same goes for women and young man-in first case,he want her youth -and women wnat his youth.I think that these are problems psychological nature in both case.

Maturity seems to matter more than age to me. When you deal with adult children age is just a number. I have been around women half my age who seem more mature than me, too.

I have heard that woman usually like to date a guy older because they are normally more mature then guys their own age or just a little older. Don't know how true that is but that is what I heard.

I does matter in some cases depending on what they want. Maturity and interests makes all the difference

Age can be deceptive, huh?

True, most men refuse to grow up.

As far as going out and having fun age does not matter.

As far as kissing and growing closer age does matter. I go out twice a week with a 20 year old, but I would never dream of kissing her. We just have fun together. To become close to someone they need to be closer in age to me.

What I always wonder, is how an older guy/woman would be sexually compatible with a younger type, because say when someone is in their 60's, and they're having say, erection problems, if that person is with, e.g, someone in their 40's, a younger one, then they might want to think how it might not be as easy as they imagined. Life doesn't always go the way you want it to. The sexually compatible thing is something I'd need to think about.

i would say age does matter
for im not about to date or go out with someone that is my own kids age
so 18-3o is totally out

my youngest is 25 and oldest is 30

and i have had guys that were 18 -25 that wanted to go out......NOTTTTTT!!!!!!

and i deffently wont even think to consider going out with some guy that is 70yrs old
i had a guy the other day that email me

excuse me im not interested in dating someone that can be my own father

Age does and doesn't matter. I truley belive that each situation is different. My ex wife was 18 and I was 20 when I got married. Needles to say it didn't last. But after my happy Divorce I dated a 36 year old woman and i was 24 going to be 25. we lasted for awhile. We broke up on good terms and it was an awesome relationship.

Age does and doesn't matter. I truley belive that each situation is different. My ex wife was 18 and I was 20 when I got married. Needles to say it didn't last. But after my happy Divorce I dated a 36 year old woman and i was 24 going to be 25. we lasted for awhile. We broke up on good terms and it was an awesome relationship.

so we penalise age ,single parents colour, creed lifstyles were will we just keep going the disabled the afflicted then after all the filters used we ask.were are all the real people...psst there the real people you penalise what your searching for is a comic book hero now. thats what i was saying so we use too many rules we box ourselves in to tightly...i wasnt being offencive with my post but ..using freedom of speach and opinion

Age to some people is just another number.me personally will stick around the age group of 35 thru 46

Not always the case. True some men do have erection problems and some women have certain issue that keep them from having sex when they get older but not everyone dates for sex. Some people want a companion to hold in their arms, to go out to eat with or watch a movie at home.

Now if they want to have sex but do have some problems, there are a lot of doctors and medicine out there that can help. And then there is always Adam & Eve dot com you can go to pick up some toys.

Sex is not the only issue in a relationship. There are many more things that can happen to make it work or fail.

thats not much of a differnce though 18 and 24

i knew someone when i was 16

this guy was 23 and he was dating a 13yr old
everyone that knew him including me. said that he better watch out
they eventually did brake up

but come on... that is sick