Hi,

I am feeling quite rejected by the lack of response to my profile listing. Am I expecting too much. Are there no unattached women in Sydney?

That's a very pleasant profile, you cover a lot.
Rather than awaiting responses you might think
about flashing the charm in the forums to get
some attention, be pro-active, as it were :-)

Have you actually tried contacting any women or do you just expect them to look at your profile and then contact you?

Hi,

thanks for the responses. Yes , I have sent messages but some people are so rude they dont reply. I have more response from women in the USA. The distance makes dating challenging . I did enjoy the friendly conversations and banter. Aussie women do not know how to flirt without committing. It is probably the blokes who put them off as any sign of interest and the bloke wants to get them in the cot.

I really would like to meet someone who is feminine with a good sense of humour who may chance their arm and go out for dinner, a walk along the beach, a fishing trip, watch a movie with no more of a commitment other than being a friend. If things progress then that would be great but I am not desperate. Perhaps was spoilt in that my wife was beautiful inside & out. She took care in her appearance and dress sense. Am I too picky?

I loved, protected, provided for and cared for my wife for 35 years so know how to treat a lady. It leaves an awful emptiness without being able to share that with anyone.

I sometimes feel that being widowed I do not have the baggage that a divorced person carries. I have lots of happy memories and very few regrets.

The women on these sites in my area aren't really any friendlier mate. My theory is that if they live a long way away they are more likely to reply just because you are too far away for dating. I mean that they might not mind chatting but they don't want you to think that they are leading you on or something.

I agree but it is understandabe. There are a lot of women that are separated or divorced that are doing it very tough. They are left with the responsibility of the kids, probably struggling financially and perhaps having self doubts. Then along comes a friend and encourages them to list on this website. They do it without enthusiasm as they have no confidence in men having experienced deceipt, bad treatment, lack of caring etc etc.

I am a widow and am lucky in respect I have years of happy memories to look back on. My wife was taken from with cancer and there is nothing I could do. I miss having someone to care for, love, protect, provide for and enjoy life with 24/7.

So if there are any Aussie women out there in Sydney who want a genuine friend send me a message. We may not get together but we could have a few laughs along the way at this dating business. Well you have to laugh dont you? Sometimes its a bit like buying on EBay. Your expectations are up and then down again. You look forward to a a message as the adrenalin rushes as if you won something.

Ok you aren't that hard on the eyes and you seem like you are a successful smart guy but I am going to tell you this profile is obessively stuck on stupid.

Take it from someone who is your peer and full well knows your pain being a lonely widow of a great partner. Believe it or not you have my sympathy.

But you need to bag going out for awhile.Why? Because, going out with you sounds like about as much fun as exumeing your poor wife with my bare hands out of the stone cliffs of the outback in the blazeing sun. I am surprised you aren't picking your teeth with her bones you have tied yourself and her so tight on the cross of perfection.

Come on Darlin you have a longer list of don't than you have do's. And you make it pretty clear you aren't going to do much beyond expect someone to accompany you and not mess up your very regimented life. And so what you are a professional? You think that makes you unique? And by the way it sounds like you are retired from that and you are walking in circles. So you have plenty of time to waste.

Been a long time since I have seen anyone use so many "I's" and banged themself so hard on the back. Seems like you would need a sling for both arms and brain surgery your halo is on so tight.

Could it be you're "over doing it" lectureing on how to be a Mommy, and a Daddy, and how to have a Senior Moment, or have social graces enough to respond to your insults about the femininity of Aussie women? Yea I kind of think so.

LOL you better hope the locals don't see this or they are like to put you in that boat or what ever it is, tow you out to sea, plug a hole in it, and chum the surrounding water with shark bait.

I don't have a clue what you wrote in your correspondence but I have a feeling you are one lucky mate that they didn't respond. You would be lucky to have any of your knickers left to chew if you tried that balogne on most I have seen.

Thanks for the laugh. I have to think you must have written this in jest.

Hi PacificStar48,

Thanks for the wake up call and being so honest. I must admit I was kinda pouring it out after a few glasses of red. I havent done this before so be kind on a newbie. I shall go and edit it straight away. Perhaps you will have another look in a few days time.

As for the digs at Australian women it wasnt meant to be condescending. There are some that just dont try nd some who try too hard. OK I am conservative but I am not going to be dishonest.

Cheers.

Dude, for an engineer you are more than clueless. Time to brush up on the social skills.

First find some personality and show it. The forums are a good way to meet people and, in your case, learn to interact with humanity. Try being friendly and humorous and relax in the process. Pacificstar made several good points.

Whatever physics you think create a babe magnet aren't working.

Hey I havent done this for 35 years give a bloke a break! I have heard your advice and am trying. In person I come across differently.

Metalwing,

Your comment brought to mind Dustin Hoffman in Accidental Hero. He was telling his son that life was bullsh*t. You just have to find the level of bullsh*t you're happy with and live your life.

I once worked with a business development manager who was an introvert but had to pretend to be an extrovert to do his job. Must have cost him a fortune in therapist fees later in life.

The profile has been changed. Everything there is honest.

I should have gone to that sales course but I was busy.

I had another crack at the profile. Nothing ventured nothing gained.