I have been trying the "Mutual Match" and it seems that 90+% have "Last seen over a Month ago". It is difficult to meet people if they do not visit the site... and it is disappointing to feel that people loose interest on looking for "the perfect match" or even friendship.
I am loosing interest myself and may soon deactivate my account. I feel that maybe you should consider other "side applications" to keep people interested in coming back.

Try the forums. It works much better.

If you 'Email' or 'Nudge' someone, no matter when they
were 'Last Seen', they get notified immediately at
whatever email address they have on file.
Often they will wait for such notification to log
back into Mingle2, to check it, if they have interest.

You cannot compel people to meet your schedule.
As metalwing said, enjoining the forums helps you
access people who are active on a steady basis (it
can get very addicting!) plus you have the opportunity
to make friends, which is often a first step in
the process.

Sadly your experience is not unique. Another issue is that some people actually have little desire to meet but prefer the safety of anonymity and the constant barrage of males who show interet therebygaining approval without any genuine participation. Of the 45 or so gals i have actually met 8 were morbidly obese ( their photos were of course misrepresentations), 6 wanted money for variousgifts first date!, 7 actually made dates -just did not show up(naturally i called them on it and had responses like i just got busy and fogot), the rest just nice gals wiout whom i felt or they felty no appropriate chemistry. This is a numbers game if you arent strong and patient it will be quite exasperating as women can use the emails to drag things on when a direct meeting is of course the desired goal. I have chosen to focus on people in real life as its active immediate and personal. the computer game is now secondary as i believe it should be as its easier to meet a gal and make a date in less time than when you email and the others choose to procrastinate!!est of luck to you in your efforts.

And add that in with the fact that any emails get erased after 30 days, so if you really want to talk with someone, you gotta keep sending it over and over every month.

Welcome the Achilles heel of this site. Is that difficult to just have their last seen date on their profile? You know, "Last seen July 12, 2009"? Or something? What's wrong with that?

Nope, can't even do that much.


By the way, man. A friendly piece of advice. Avoid these forums like the plague, really. Anyone with a post count above 100 or so, that's a good red flag. Keep that in mind.

Why is a high post count a red flag?

yeah.. why a red flag? cuz we talk too much or are too opinionated?? dang.. how ELSE are you gonna meet new people and let them get to know you better....... yeesh

Can there be an option to remove the "Last seen over a month ago" people from the results list? This topic has come up time and time agian. It'd really be an improvement to this site.

Mingle2 is not taking suggestions at this time,
but yours has been noted :-)

soufie
Site Moderator

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.

High post count might mean that someone has been on here for a long time with no real interest. aka: They might be one of the black sheep, or are just looking around with no real intent on meeting up.

OR.. MAYbe we have a lil more of a discerning palate and just haven't found the right one YET, but in the meantime.. we've met a lot of really GREAT people that we enjoy talking to and spending time with.. however.. that doesn't mean we haven't found some connections along the way.. I've dated a few guys from the site.. obviously they didn't work out.. BUT.. the friendships found are more profound than expected.. and have endured MUCH longer than hoped for!

actually the Message gets sent to their Personal E-Mail-Addy,not to the Mingle-Mail!

i want to meet n talk. But dating doesnt work that much here in india!
Cause i feel like there is a common belief that boys are mostly dormant rapists. Ha ha
i really dont think 100 is the threshold. But high count for a young person may indicate loneliness, lack of personal goals n other character issues!
But that may not always be a turn off. All lonely people are not possessive or nagging.. I find people who are gentle, deep, aware of their own faults n considerate of others much more attractive than a pencil hill or a bombshell any day.

High post count also indicates that they are not horny n in a hurry.