Hey guys I'm 19 and still pregnant. Can anyone tell me does it get easier for a woman to trust men after being heartbroken, lied to, cheated on and everything else all throughout my life. All the guys i seem to like have a problem with my pregnancy and having a child to someone else. Does it change once bub is born? I'm lost

oy, first...i really dont wanna be mean...really

but....

your first and only thoughts right now should have nothing to do with men.. It should be the preg . and all that happens after...the child first

Everything we do as women who have children HAS to be in the best intrest of the child and that should mean throwing men away for awhile and concentrating ONLY on this baby and getting a life together with you and the child!!!



JMO

P.S. I send love your way!

Thanks honey and i do little jonothan will be my world but i love my male company but I'm just one stressed out individual lol even at my age. I just hope that there is a man out there that will love me and my soon to be son so i can have my life complete.

there will be...

maybe not for a little bit

but....

eventualy there will be!

Thanks for the help! But do the trust problems ever go away?

yea they do...by becoming a mom you will find yourself becoming stronger then you have ever been. you get that "momma bear" thing goin and your confidence gets a little higher and you start to look at men a little diff--more like "how is he gonna affect my kids life" rather than "Oh hes soooo cute" lol

Your trust issues will be a little diff as a mom===I dont know if other women agree but thats how it was for me

I concur.. you DO become a 'mama-bear' and will look at men differently.. at least that has been my experience..

just be careful not to choose Mr. Wrong because you are a single mom and he "looks okay" as a mate or you don't feel you can do it on your own.. as Gossip said, you ARE stronger than you've EVER been.. be choosy.. your child depends on your best judgement for BOTH of you!!

you can do whatEVER you put your mind to.. just be smart about your choices!

Focus on your pregnancy. It would be easy for a man to feel tricked into supporting your child when they are not the father. It's the same after they are born. You focus in your baby and let life happen. You're too young to be having sex, having babies, drinking....no offense. Good luck to you.

What does your pregnancy have to do with trust issues?

Thanks everyone for all your help and advice. And i maybe young but in Australia the legal age for everything is 18 i have over the party stage for ages i actually settled down found a guy was with him for a while and i fell pregnant and he left. I maybe young but I'm taking the responsibility of all my choices and mistake squarely on my shoulders.

Well idk where you are from, but anyways, at any age if a man walks out on you when you are pregnant than he is a total loser, and consider yourself lucky you got rid of him sooner than later.

Hey hun. I know what you're talking about. My baby's dad left me when I was 15 weeks pregnant with our child for another woman he married when I was only 27 weeks. I know that he must have been cheating and now that my daughter is 7 months old, I have to say that I carry trust issues with me. I am not sure if they will ever go away but I do believe that IF and WHEN the right guy comes along, that I needn't have any issues. Just be patient, *try* to be calm and relaxed and have fun during the pregnancy (mine was miserable as I was always so sad and I regret now that I couldn't enjoy the most beautiful time of my life). The baby is all that matter now. Bless. xx

What exactly is the parenting issue in this thread?

If you have a son will you trust him? Might sound like a silly question but break it down; your son will be and individual and you would want people to take him for his value right? Well every guy is not the same guy who has done you dirty. There will be nice guys come along and those you treat well they will probably treat you the same way. Keep yourself and your standards high and you will attract a person who sees your value.

The issue is being a single parent now, unexpectedly, and wondering if you will always be a single parent because guys are weary of women with children.

Actually, if she was never married to the father of her child, then her having a child may make her more attractive to some men.

Some but in accordance with her post, she says, " all the men I have met, seem to have a problem with my pregnancy"

Unfortunately we men are not the most trustworthy species on earth....


Raise your son to be trustworthy!