Topic: how do you know?
Mecialago's photo
Fri 11/02/12 08:05 AM
How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??

navygirl's photo
Fri 11/02/12 08:47 AM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


I think its all in how you feel. If you are still not over the last person or if you still feel hurt in anyway or apprehensive; I would say you aren't ready for a relationship but that is just my opinion.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 11/02/12 09:01 AM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??

It is like getting in the car again, after a car accident.
You always run the same risks, but eventually
you need to go somewhere.

wux's photo
Fri 11/02/12 09:22 AM


How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??

It is like getting in the car again, after a car accident.
You always run the same risks, but eventually
you need to go somewhere.


Very much so. Like when you were a little girl, and your mommy spanked you for eating all the mustard in the pantry.

You wanted to run away, and you did, and then you came home when you realized that there is no justice, love, and providence in this world even near the same as the one Mammy can give you.

wux's photo
Fri 11/02/12 09:27 AM
Edited by wux on Fri 11/02/12 09:28 AM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


Oh.HOW does one know.

You used to enjoy a man, and there was this thing he very much enjoyed with him. It could be anything, really, but it has to be soemething that you only could enjoy with him, because he was special.

So when fate makes you behold another man, who you have an urge to do that special thing with, because this new and improved other man looks like he can do the special thing with you so well, then you make a move.

Like wear miniskirts, and drop your glove as if by accident in front of him. Go as if to bend, and then make it look like you've just realized what you are wearing, and then... look at him Quixotically. If he does not respond, well, he is not the man you want.

It takes two to tango, that's the biggest tragedy and parody of life.

The gods must be crazy.

Goofball73's photo
Fri 11/02/12 10:11 PM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


You'll meet someone who will make you want to try. If it works out....great! If not....back to the drawing board.

Duttoneer's photo
Sat 11/03/12 02:16 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Sat 11/03/12 02:20 AM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


Perhaps it is when the loneliness becomes worse than the feelings of hurt after breaking up, and you overcome the fear of another failed relationship experience.

PacificStar48's photo
Sat 11/03/12 04:14 AM
I think when you start getting out and enjoying hanging out with your friends or doing something that normally holds your attention and you look over at someone and those little "oooooh that's interesting" feeling pops in your mind before just over looking whatever is out there or thinking "Oh Ghez, did I shave my legs for this". lol

Nothing wrong with letting something wear off as long as you don't let it become a habit or a rut you are stuck in.

It is kind of like when you first fell of your bike as a kid. It feels a little wobbly at first and you probably don't want to get out in heavy traffic but you can't really enjoy life riding on the sidewalk.

no photo
Sat 11/03/12 04:30 AM


How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


You'll meet someone who will make you want to try. If it works out....great! If not....back to the drawing board.


^^This but as I have found out, it needs to be with someone that you really want to be with and not someone who's just ok.

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 11/04/12 02:31 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sun 11/04/12 02:31 PM

How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


The best way to get over a Old relationship, is to start a New one.

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 11/04/12 02:39 PM
No one really knows when they are "ready".

It just happens.

It's like asking how does one know when they are ready to eat another
chocolate chip cookie. If you want one, take one. If it's going to cause issues for you, leave it on the plate for somebody else.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 11/04/12 02:43 PM


How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??

It is like getting in the car again, after a car accident.
You always run the same risks, but eventually
you need to go somewhere.


Yeah, you just keep moving on. Very simple.

no photo
Sun 11/04/12 02:52 PM
You don't.

But.....

You're Heart does.

When its time....

it'll happen!!

no photo
Sun 11/04/12 03:42 PM

You don't.

But.....

You're Heart does.

When its time....

it'll happen!!


hey you, get some rest!

good to see you up and almost about

no photo
Sun 11/04/12 03:55 PM


You don't.

But.....

You're Heart does.

When its time....

it'll happen!!


hey you, get some rest!

good to see you up and almost about


Thanks Bro.....wont be..."about" for some time but .....this is all I got....whenI'm awake!!
bigsmile

no photo
Sun 11/04/12 04:07 PM
Edited by mg1959 on Sun 11/04/12 04:21 PM
Wow! So good to hear you!!! You freaked me out the other day. Sounds like your ready to take the long trip back to health though and that's a great start. Letting God take care of the final chapter is the way to go, it's just great seeing you ticking.

Ghost, had to throw this in. I showed my other half (her words lol) your bike and she says get well so she can take a ride with you. She says "your hot"!

kc0003's photo
Sun 11/04/12 05:19 PM
How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


it's simple,
you don't have to ask yourself that question.

GreenEyes48's photo
Mon 11/05/12 07:10 AM



How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??

It is like getting in the car again, after a car accident.
You always run the same risks, but eventually
you need to go somewhere.


Very much so. Like when you were a little girl, and your mommy spanked you for eating all the mustard in the pantry.

You wanted to run away, and you did, and then you came home when you realized that there is no justice, love, and providence in this world even near the same as the one Mammy can give you.
Interesting that you used mustard in your example versus something "sweet." (Like cookies or brownies etc.)....I've always been a big time "mustard lover!" I even put mustard on my toast at times instead of jelly. (And people think I'm weird!)...Mustard "spelled love" in my family. We always had a jar of mustard and a cruet of vinegar on the table when we ate meals. I considered it part of my German heritage. (On my Dad's side.)....Anyway back on topic: I wouldn't consider myself ready to start dating again if I had to ask others about it. And right now I know I'm not ready yet!.. For now I'm content with my jar of mustard! And a few leftover jelly beans from Easter 2011!

GreenEyes48's photo
Mon 11/05/12 07:10 AM
Edited by GreenEyes48 on Mon 11/05/12 07:39 AM

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Mon 11/05/12 07:24 AM


How does one know that they are ready to get in to a relationship again??


Perhaps it is when the loneliness becomes worse than the feelings of hurt after breaking up, and you overcome the fear of another failed relationship experience.


I would stay far away from guys who are very lonely, looking for relationships. That would be a red flag for me.

Before trying to get into a relationship again, the person should figure out how to be happy on their own first. Then a relationship just adds to their life, rather than fill some lonely void.