This girl had no one and I helped her out by giving her a place, food, and my friendship and she took everything including my husband.. I forgave him and gave him another opportunity.. so that a year later he tells me that still has feelings for her and that they are still together. Grossed out.

figures, you lend a hand up and end up getting pulled down. good news is that it's not your fault, and your friend actually did you a favor exposing your husband's true colors. let her deal with him, you've got a happy life to lead. i guarantee i guarantee your friend (and your husband) will need you before you need them

(bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

yeah.. thanks for your words.. unfortunately I have two little ones now that are paying the consequences.. He already wants to get back together.. but how do I deal with the fact of knowing he still got feelings for her?

Yes, that is gross. Seems like he hasn’t gotten the cheating out of his system. It’s best you move on from this, Dear. He doesn’t deserve you. Not only that, you’re cheating yourself out of a possibly great relationship with someone else by hanging around to see if he will change his act. Some people make an effort to change. Others, like your cheater husband there, just don’t give a ****. He is a sorry excuse for a man. I've taken a cheater back before. Only thing is, once you do that, the power will be in his hands and he will try to pull that crap on you again, knowing you will take him back. Don't give him that advantage. If you get back together with him, how is it any better if he still has your best friend on his mind?...who by the way, is a back-stabber that does not deserve your forgiveness.

Think carefully and choose wisely. Good luck!

Thanks

Itz sweet to cheat for sex

Lucy, sometimes you can't see the forest through the trees. Forget his sorry azz and move on. Every moment you waste on this jerk is a moment you could be finding the love of your life.

I dont know whether you will welcome the truth if i tell you

The truth is this;you must continue to forgive any person that offends you,including your spouse!! if you want to be forgiven on THAT DAY when all you need is to be forgiven.Dont be decieved by anybody,be wise

Did i sound old fashioned?

if he cheats one time he'll do it again good luck

Spouses cheat because they have issues....They try to blame their partner or the breakdown of the relationship because they do not want to take responsibility for their actions...It is good that you are capable of forgiveness, but that is not a basis to try again, neither are your children...NONE OF THIS WILL FIX "HIS" PROBLEMS....If you really want to try again, you need to do two things...Insist on some type of professional counseling for yourself and your husband and, if you do not have marketable skills, get them! ...

Sahi hai = Correct

Maybe i was too mild and my message was not gotten.NEVER GIVE IN TO DIVORCE,ITS THE DEVIL'S ALTERNATIVE!!.

Forgiving don't mean allowing mistakes.

If I'm there at her place,I would forgive them by forgetting them & their cheat & by making their path clear,this will avoid same mistake.

She already forgave him.
She did her part as a wife/best friend and forgave those two creeps. So should she lower herself as a human being and allow the jerk to continually cheat on her?

I think that's called being a doormat

THAT DAY = Christmas

Forgiveness is for the God's.

You will prolong the misery for yourself and your two little ones if you take your husband back, because he isn't going to change until he experiences real negative consequences of his choices.

My daughter Ruth made the mistake of getting back with her husband after he cheated on her. Now, instead of having one child and no supportive husband, she has two children and no supportive husband. She also has HIV, which her husband gave her. Do you really want to risk having your husband give you a STD after he has been with another woman?

In case it means something to you, you have just cause to obtain a divorce.

Maybe I was too mild and my message was not gotten.

In Matthew chapters 5 and 19, Jesus says that God accepts divorce when there is a case of adultery.

So, I see nothing wrong with LucyT520 getting a divorce if she chooses to do so.

Being that it is her life, the decision is hers to make.