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Topic: Advice for the long haul?
soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:08 PM
lots of vodka and a happy place You double your pleasure when you're cross-eyed :-)

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:12 PM
As my nephews and nieces got married over the years they would ask me for advice. I found myself repeating the same thing to them, dependent upon their gender. It is unclear, due to the inherent limitations in the language, how many nNns you advised, and how many times the advice was given. Could be seven nNns, for instance, and 593 different times that the advice combinations were given. This is not for sure, but is possible as per the wording of your OP. Have your nNns figured out yet that AuNtIe SoUfIe WaNtS a CoOkIe? I think they're all waiting on the Will to be read. You made me count: 14 nephews, 10 nieces...so far. I have an 18 year-old brother and a 15 year-old sister, too, so..

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:15 PM
Don't stop doing the little things... they become big things over time. I hope they listen to you, that is sound advice.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:16 PM
Pre......NUP!! thats all I got!!!! I thought all you got was the 'cycle.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Mon 10/08/12 05:19 PM Edited by wux on Mon 10/08/12 05:21 PM
..How has your track record been, Soufie?.. No one listened. They knew it all. I asked the wrong question. Are the girls and boys who are your nieces and nephews and who got married, and who sought you with advice, or in the least listened to it, even if unsolicited, in a marriage status that is reasonbly comparable to the expected, as expected by you or by a jury of your peers, in accordance to, and taking into consideration, the nNns' individual unique relationships with their spouses and their own individual uniqueness and individual unique circumstances, as known by you, if and when your advice had been properly followed? You don't have to answer this question if it looks like it's liable to give you a migraine attack. ---------------- Disclaimer: I proofread the above seven times, and each of the seven times I had to make some corrections. Now I am so buzzed out by it, that I leave it, even if it has mistakes that alter its meaning or render it to make no sense. Damn the torpedoes, I am leaving this post. In more ways than one -- in two ways, to be precise.

tazzops Joined Sat 12/20/08 Posts: 33333	Mon 10/08/12 05:19 PM
lots of vodka and a happy place

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 10/08/12 05:20 PM
Pre......NUP!! thats all I got!!!! I thought all you got was the 'cycle. Yes......I got the bike....she got a house..... and..... I'm Ok with that!!!!! But a pre nup coulda saved the.... House.....

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:24 PM
..How has your track record been, Soufie?.. No one listened. They knew it all. I asked the wrong question. Are the girls and boys who are your nieces and nephews and who got married, and who sought you with advice, or in the least listened to it, even if unsolicited, in a marriage status that is reasonbly comparable to the expected, as expected by you or by a jury of your peers, in accordance to, and taking into consideration, the nNns' individual unique relationships with their spouses and their own individual uniqueness and individual unique circumstances, as known by you, if and when your advice had been properly followed? You don't have to answer this question if it looks like it's liable to give you a migraine attack. Too late..

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:26 PM
Yes......I got the bike....she got a house..... and..... I'm Ok with that!!!!! But a pre nup coulda saved the.... House..... Ahh, but pre-nups are for grown-ups :-)

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 10/08/12 05:28 PM
Yes......I got the bike....she got a house..... and..... I'm Ok with that!!!!! But a pre nup coulda saved the.... House..... Ahh, but pre-nups are for grown-ups :-) Thats..... A Good Answer!!!!

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 05:34 PM
Ahh, but pre-nups are for grown-ups :-) Thats..... A Good Answer!!!! But, if I see any, I will pass your advice on :-)

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 10/08/12 06:28 PM Edited by Ghostrider2u on Mon 10/08/12 06:29 PM
My best advice would be..... That they always remember.... There was a darn good reason they chose each other..... Once!!!

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Mon 10/08/12 06:32 PM
Its easier to repair than to replace

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 06:40 PM
My best advice would be..... That they always remember.... There was a darn good reason they chose each other..... Once!!! Memory, the first thing to go, eh.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 06:42 PM
Its easier to repair than to replace Truism :-)

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 10/08/12 07:37 PM
My best advice would be..... That they always remember.... There was a darn good reason they chose each other..... Once!!! Memory, the first thing to go, eh. Yessum......

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45430	Mon 10/08/12 07:45 PM
Yessum...... That sounds like something you hit on the road.

Hikerjohn Joined Sun 08/19/12 Posts: 1028	Mon 10/08/12 07:46 PM
Advice, Read peoples profiles before you fall for them. KIIIIIIIIIIIIIM. Can I have my heart back? Your still hot though in a drawn out kind of way.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Mon 10/08/12 11:33 PM
I got nothing...

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Tue 10/09/12 12:32 AM Edited by wux on Tue 10/09/12 12:34 AM
Sweat the small stuff, but not the big stuff; because it's the small stuff that you have to deal with, The big stuff is too big, it will sweep you away or makes you stronger. By the time you have to deal with a big stuff, it's too late, you won't have the strength, because humans are not strong enough to handle the big stuff. The really big stuff. And big stuff is nothing else but a lot of small, crappy little small stuff. Also, this advice is working on the same mechanism as "take care of the pennies, and the dollars will take care of themselves." If you sweat the small stuff, and make it so with your partner that you don't drive each other up the wall with cracking fingerjoints, or slurping soup, or picking toejam at night on the edge of the bed before you get "romantic", then, if you work these things out, the big stuff will never be a problem, because it will never rear its ugly head. ---- The newlyweds, thems little nips, when i tell them this, they fall asleep at one third into the speech, or get up and walk away without apologizing, or in extreme cases they die. This is a rare event, happens in one out of a million.