When you go on a date with someone new, do you always think this could be serious, a definite maybe, or do you date just for fun more often than not, and if it's just for fun do you tell your date in advance so they are under no illusions?

nope, I plan for the worst and hope for the best,,,,

after that , its one moment at a time,,,

Sadly, I always plan for the worse as even if we do date; I am convinved they will dump me eventually.

Normally on the first date I know if I would want a second one with them or not. If not then I'm honest with them and tell them there is just nothing there. I don't date just to date I can take my own self out if that is the case. And I let them know from the beginning a second date all depends how the first one goes there are no guarantee's....

I don't date unless I have an interest.....

If I date.....I have already seen a keen mind, a quick wit and something to catch my eye......

sooooooooooo.......

Its always a difinate maybe........

This :-)

I just don't think that far in advance. Going out with a person doesn't mean I have to end up in a relationship. Most of the time I have made a new friend. Takes a lot more than a few dates to make me believe that this can be something.

I wouldn't be able to tell if it was definitely anything until I actually went out with them. So, I like to see how the date(s) go and go from there.

If it's the very first time meeting a guy in person, then I call it 'hanging out'....hoping the dude really IS a dude, and that he isn't some psycho.

If I suspect he IS some psycho, it's 'adios' and 'don't call me again.' If the vibe isn't right, then I probably wouldn't waste to my time with the guy - whether on a relationship or friendship level. Oh, and if he is rude and disrespectful towards me, it's all the more reason to cut the cord loose after the first date.

I usually let the person know if I want to continue 'hanging out,' 'date,' or if I need more time to figure out what I want. Or, the former 'Don't call me again' thing. It sends a clear 'I'm not interested' message to the other person (I would hope).

I'm not afraid to call it what it is. A lot of guys these days are under the illusion we want more, when it's sometimes not the case. I do not like leading someone on, nor do I want to be lead on. Makes things so much simpler to be straight-up honest. Sure, the person may be butt hurt for a little bit but at least they know.

But...if the other person still insists on living in a fantasy world and assume we are more than we are not, then that is on him. Can't do anything about that.

And then that all important, very telling first kiss....

You know. Just once....I'd like to be asked out and the lady open her door and surprise me with flowers. Wait....screw that. How about surprise me with a sixer and flowers. Now that would be lovely.

Anywho. I don't go into a first date/meet up/hang out....whatever you wanna call it.....I don't go into it expecting anything. I just want to enjoy the time and get a feel for who the girl is. Most of the time I have a good feel because I like to email, or text, or even use that most dinosauric of avenues of communication...the phone call. Once you meet the person in the flesh, you start to see if things are gonna go in the dating direction or the friends direction. And if she is psychotic, you have 911 on speed dial.

Hmmm, you know if people started being more honest the world would dissapate and there will be no one left to insult. DAMN.

Side note: straight-up words come with bravery and knowing what you want. Assuming the opposite sex isn't a ward of the state cwrazy azz, saying you're not interested should seal the deal but, dealing with guys and rejection, there's no telling the nature of that beast.

I don't believe any guy that says they enjoy chatting on the phone. Its less real that way. And most guys are a stickler for being real.

Man....all this generalization......

where do you ladies find these men?????

are these douce bags really the norm????

Y'all gotta get OUT more!!!!!

or an I just the......exception???

Whores create them. Its what's happenin'

I don't date unless I have an interest either. But it is not always a romantic interest. Some people I just find fascinating or interesting. Sometimes the feelings come later.

Ditto.

When I date it is always a definite maybe for me, and I always assume it is the same for the lady, (rightly or wrongly), although I am still looking for that special lady, no success yet. When I ask for a date and I am told yes but it would just be as friends because they are not attracted to me, I usually bow out, because I just don't see any point in taking it any further when someone knows right away they are not interested in me. Thanks everyone for all your comments.

This...I don't really need more friends so I wouldn't date someone unless he was interesting on some level.

If there's no romantic interest, isn't that just hanging out with a friend?