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Topic: Why many women are put off by the subject "sex"?
oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Tue 03/12/13 03:22 PM
You're still uptight talking about sex with your partner? If you can't talk to them comfortably about sex, I would imagine the sex is awkward, too. No silly, I'm trying to say that I only feel comfortable talking with my partner about sex, repercussions of my upbringing. Ah, the "she was my partner, I'm still uptight" part threw me off. Yea I did not word it right.

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Wed 03/13/13 05:54 PM
(just thoughts again ) If a woman and man agreed it was just for a good time or sex only . I think many would be happier because its upfront and honest what they want what is expected. But when women told so many things there special or pretty or wonderful or what ever it may be. then the sex happens and then when hes off finding soemone else to know. shes left confused and hurt and mad . i think everyone should be upfront from the get go.then mayeb there would be less women hurt and feel used and less men feel that women all think there dogs. Shrugs Alot of men won't be upfront because they are just looking to score and they will say whatever to the woman to get it. Its happening so much now with online dating that women are very suspicious when a man brings up sex. Sex is usually associated with intimacy in a womans eyes and intimacy comes with feelings. Unless both are agreeing to a sexual affair, like another poster said. Heres a hint for you guys..if a woman states on her profile that she is looking to date or looking to be in a relationship then she obviously isn't looking for just sex.

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Wed 03/13/13 06:36 PM
We're not put off by the subject, we're put off by the fact that some guys think it's appropriate to talk about it after they ask our name. Those guys give pigs a bad name! lol those guys are pigs..... Ha and some start before even asking the name

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Wed 03/13/13 06:40 PM
A lot of times, NOT ALL the time, that men who bring up sex right away when meeting a new potential partner makes it sound almost as if they are looking for someone they can take out for a relatively cheap meal and get something inn return for it. Like sex is 'owed' to them for spending $75 on food that was half theirs. So a woman feels that a man is expecting to get laid for his spending $32.50 on her instead of taking his time and getting to know *HER* first, he is looking to get to *KNOW* her first, understand me? Believe me, there are plenty of women out here who likes sex just as much if not more than men do, we just want to know more about the partner we pick. 75 dollars for food? I always pay for my own dinners the first time. Saves a whole lot of troubles and besides its just too easy to tell right off why the guy is there Even dinner at Applebee's with a few drinks, appetizers and dinner will run about $65 plus tip....although some guys even expect "something" after getting a cup of coffee... I've heard guys (on here and in person) say "the more I spend on her for dinner, the more she "owes" to earn that meal" I've seen guys on here mention that, but luckily I've not dealt with men in person who have thought they were owed something for dinner. Then again, I always offer to pay (they rarely accept) my share, especially in the beginning.