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| Topic: Why many women are put off by the subject "sex"? | |
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We're not put off by the subject, we're put off by the fact that some guys think it's appropriate to talk about it after they ask our name. Those guys give pigs a bad name! lol those guys are pigs.....  
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Sex is mostly in the mind. Thinking about it, talking about it, the beginning physical acts of doing it, etc., release sex hormones which in turn on other chemicals in the body to achieve erection, wetness, etc. Talking about it is a way to get those juices flowing. Some people only talk a little, some a lot. Some only talk about it while dating, and then the talk stops and the action starts. It is just biology and everyone is a little different. The trick is to do what makes your partner happy and comfortable. If you do it too much you might just be considered a pig. It's not the talking about it that bothers many women. It's when the guys try to talk about it immediately. Some even before they introduce themselves. |
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A lot of times, NOT ALL the time, that men who bring up sex right away when meeting a new potential partner makes it sound almost as if they are looking for someone they can take out for a relatively cheap meal and get something inn return for it. Like sex is 'owed' to them for spending $75 on food that was half theirs. So a woman feels that a man is expecting to get laid for his spending $32.50 on her instead of taking his time and getting to know HER first, he is looking to get to KNOW her first, understand me?  
Believe me, there are plenty of women out here who likes sex just as much if not more than men do, we just want to know more about the partner we pick. 
75 dollars for food? 
Even dinner at Applebee's with a few drinks, appetizers and dinner will run about $65 plus tip....although some guys even expect "something" after getting a cup of coffee... I've heard guys (on here and in person) say "the more I spend on her for dinner, the more she "owes" to earn that meal" |
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A lot of times, NOT ALL the time, that men who bring up sex right away when meeting a new potential partner makes it sound almost as if they are looking for someone they can take out for a relatively cheap meal and get something inn return for it. Like sex is 'owed' to them for spending $75 on food that was half theirs. So a woman feels that a man is expecting to get laid for his spending $32.50 on her instead of taking his time and getting to know HER first, he is looking to get to KNOW her first, understand me?
Believe me, there are plenty of women out here who likes sex just as much if not more than men do, we just want to know more about the partner we pick.
75 dollars for food?
Even dinner at Applebee's with a few drinks, appetizers and dinner will run about $65 plus tip....although some guys even expect "something" after getting a cup of coffee... I've heard guys (on here and in person) say "the more I spend on her for dinner, the more she "owes" to earn that meal" i have never heard that before and for me if a man offers to take me to dinner i would rather order the cheapest thing on the menu im not greedy... |
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It was just an example number..... Since Jon is here and we go out to eat sometimes I was just using what our bill comes to..... It doesn't mean anyone is being greedy for ordering something costly or something cheap, I have had guys say it to me before Jon was in the picture and what guys I work with have said about what the expect out of a date.. not to mention guys on here writing it.
Some people feel they deserve action after they spend $2 and ten minutes at Dunkin Donuts with a date because their time is so precious and their should feel honored and "pay" for it with sexual favors. |
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**Their "date" should feel honored......
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Speaking for myself,.No,its not that im turn off by sex talks, i just want it to be with my female friends and not with the potential guy,its awkward and it kills the suspense..besides, girls sex talk are more fun and frank and a riot..
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Tue 09/11/12 05:10 AM
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A lot of times, NOT ALL the time, that men who bring up sex right away when meeting a new potential partner makes it sound almost as if they are looking for someone they can take out for a relatively cheap meal and get something inn return for it. Like sex is 'owed' to them for spending $75 on food that was half theirs. So a woman feels that a man is expecting to get laid for his spending $32.50 on her instead of taking his time and getting to know HER first, he is looking to get to KNOW her first, understand me?
Believe me, there are plenty of women out here who likes sex just as much if not more than men do, we just want to know more about the partner we pick.
75 dollars for food?
Even dinner at Applebee's with a few drinks, appetizers and dinner will run about $65 plus tip....although some guys even expect "something" after getting a cup of coffee... I've heard guys (on here and in person) say "the more I spend on her for dinner, the more she "owes" to earn that meal" I've seen guys on here mention that, but luckily I've not dealt with men in person who have thought they were owed something for dinner. Then again, I always offer to pay (they rarely accept) my share, especially in the beginning. |
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A lot of times, NOT ALL the time, that men who bring up sex right away when meeting a new potential partner makes it sound almost as if they are looking for someone they can take out for a relatively cheap meal and get something inn return for it. Like sex is 'owed' to them for spending $75 on food that was half theirs. So a woman feels that a man is expecting to get laid for his spending $32.50 on her instead of taking his time and getting to know HER first, he is looking to get to KNOW her first, understand me?
Believe me, there are plenty of women out here who likes sex just as much if not more than men do, we just want to know more about the partner we pick.
75 dollars for food?
Even dinner at Applebee's with a few drinks, appetizers and dinner will run about $65 plus tip....although some guys even expect "something" after getting a cup of coffee... I've heard guys (on here and in person) say "the more I spend on her for dinner, the more she "owes" to earn that meal" well, nobody owes me anything for buying anything, but i would be more apt to spend 75 dollars for drinks rather than dinner... |
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We're not put off by the subject, we're put off by the fact that some guys think it's appropriate to talk about it after they ask our name. feel lucky they ask your name.i don't even bother doing that 
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I agree they say we have to see if we get along in bedroom first, no u need to get to know me first see if we can get to bedroom
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I agree they say we have to see if we get along in bedroom first, no u need to get to know me first see if we can get to bedroom amen thats an issue too,, so many rely on the movie version of great sex being automatic and instantaneous (There or not there) when it is the buildup , investment of time and emotion, shared experiences that lead UP to sex that can MAKE it great once it happens,,, |
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I don't mind the subject of sex itself- as long as it's not in reference to me
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Personally I think that if your on here to date for a date and we know if there is a spark and two people eventually starting seeing one another for any period of time that Sex is bound to take place..So why bring it up with in two mins of talking to someone. Thats not attractive and it totally uncalled for.Take it slow and if things works out and you meet someone that is for you then it will happen. Just my opinion.
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It was just an example number..... Since Jon is here and we go out to eat sometimes I was just using what our bill comes to..... It doesn't mean anyone is being greedy for ordering something costly or something cheap, I have had guys say it to me before Jon was in the picture and what guys I work with have said about what the expect out of a date.. not to mention guys on here writing it. Some people feel they deserve action after they spend $2 and ten minutes at Dunkin Donuts with a date because their time is so precious and their should feel honored and "pay" for it with sexual favors. I agree. I make sure I eat before I go out and either pay for what I order, or order the cheapest thing on the menu. I don't have time to deal w/the stupidity of that dilemma. |
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It was just an example number..... Since Jon is here and we go out to eat sometimes I was just using what our bill comes to..... It doesn't mean anyone is being greedy for ordering something costly or something cheap, I have had guys say it to me before Jon was in the picture and what guys I work with have said about what the expect out of a date.. not to mention guys on here writing it. Some people feel they deserve action after they spend $2 and ten minutes at Dunkin Donuts with a date because their time is so precious and their should feel honored and "pay" for it with sexual favors. I agree. I make sure I eat before I go out and either pay for what I order, or order the cheapest thing on the menu. I don't have time to deal w/the stupidity of that dilemma. Fine, but I'm keeping the happy meal toy. |
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It was just an example number..... Since Jon is here and we go out to eat sometimes I was just using what our bill comes to..... It doesn't mean anyone is being greedy for ordering something costly or something cheap, I have had guys say it to me before Jon was in the picture and what guys I work with have said about what the expect out of a date.. not to mention guys on here writing it. Some people feel they deserve action after they spend $2 and ten minutes at Dunkin Donuts with a date because their time is so precious and their should feel honored and "pay" for it with sexual favors. I agree. I make sure I eat before I go out and either pay for what I order, or order the cheapest thing on the menu. I don't have time to deal w/the stupidity of that dilemma. Fine, but I'm keeping the happy meal toy.
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Personally I think that if your on here to date for a date and we know if there is a spark and two people eventually starting seeing one another for any period of time that Sex is bound to take place..So why bring it up with in two mins of talking to someone. Thats not attractive and it totally uncalled for.Take it slow and if things works out and you meet someone that is for you then it will happen. Just my opinion. This is so true. No need to talk about sex (in the way that mot people refer here to) because if it clicks, it will happen. If a guy on a date that I am not attracted to already starts talking about sex and acts as if he's got it in the pocket, or that he is such a catch,THAT is off-putting. |
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Edited by
Simplymhe718
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Fri 10/19/12 08:50 PM
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The problem is when men start talking about sex immediately, before even attempting to get to know the woman they're chatting with. That can definitely be a turn off. i agree with u |
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I won't lie, I like it as much as the next person, but absolutely nothing will get me into bed with a guy after only a few dates. I need to know I can trust him first, and that we're both compatible. Hence why I don't go to nightclubs anymore. Except if I'm celebrating a friends birthday.
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