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Topic: Gay/Bi/Lesbian Choice?
Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Sun 09/02/12 02:42 AM
Tired of people telling me I chose this. It's not a choice. I was born this way... No, it is a choice. No matter what you want to believe or why you choose it, it's a choice. But, it's not like I care, so if it helps you sleep at night, I'll play along. i totaly agree its a choice cause people like the life style they choose it but there comes with it some negative parts so they justify it saying it wasnt a choice i was born this way. what a bunch of bull HARDWIRED Old Son,Hardwired!

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 09/02/12 09:03 AM
Tired of people telling me I chose this. It's not a choice. I was born this way... No, it is a choice. No matter what you want to believe or why you choose it, it's a choice. But, it's not like I care, so if it helps you sleep at night, I'll play along. i totaly agree its a choice cause people like the life style they choose it but there comes with it some negative parts so they justify it saying it wasnt a choice i was born this way. what a bunch of bull HARDWIRED Old Son,Hardwired! that kills the idea of free will then,,,, and still doesnt explain why GENETICALLY IDENTICAL twins can be differently 'hardwired'

styk Joined Sat 11/26/11 Posts: 348	Sun 09/02/12 11:51 AM
Tired of people telling me I chose this. It's not a choice. I was born this way... No, it is a choice. No matter what you want to believe or why you choose it, it's a choice. But, it's not like I care, so if it helps you sleep at night, I'll play along. i totaly agree its a choice cause people like the life style they choose it but there comes with it some negative parts so they justify it saying it wasnt a choice i was born this way. what a bunch of bull HARDWIRED Old Son,Hardwired! what do you mean by hardwired? i dont understand.

Alexlovezboyz Joined Mon 09/03/12 Posts: 2	Mon 09/03/12 03:43 PM
Tired of people telling me I chose this. It's not a choice. I was born this way... I believe you! I feel the same way. ok umm i have no idea how to do this but im Alex im Gay 100% gay yah im proud n all that but i hate how ppl treat me!! :(

Alexlovezboyz Joined Mon 09/03/12 Posts: 2	Mon 09/03/12 07:06 PM
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Foliel Joined Thu 01/10/08 Posts: 1189	Fri 09/07/12 12:42 AM
I love how people try to force the idea that it's a choice. I tried hard to be with girls once I really started dating, even though I knew I was Attracted to guys. Thats the key to it all, we can't help who we are attracted to. My mother always taught me that being happy is far more important that making other people happy. I have the choice to live my life with a man that makes me happy and I truly want to be with, or I can choose to be single for the rest of my life, or I can choose to live my life as a lie and be with a woman that I will never truly love. Of those options only one would make me happy. I refuse to use a woman in that way, it's not fair to her or me, and I do not like the idea of being single for the rest of my life. So who we end up with may be a choice, who we are attracted to, not so much, but that's only my opinion.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 09/07/12 07:57 AM
I love how people try to force the idea that it's a choice. I tried hard to be with girls once I really started dating, even though I knew I was Attracted to guys. Thats the key to it all, we can't help who we are attracted to. My mother always taught me that being happy is far more important that making other people happy. I have the choice to live my life with a man that makes me happy and I truly want to be with, or I can choose to be single for the rest of my life, or I can choose to live my life as a lie and be with a woman that I will never truly love. Of those options only one would make me happy. I refuse to use a woman in that way, it's not fair to her or me, and I do not like the idea of being single for the rest of my life. So who we end up with may be a choice, who we are attracted to, not so much, but that's only my opinion. I believe you to be an awesome person and I agree with you. Who we are 'attracted' to is not a conscious choice but we can alter it by changing our perceptions (attraction does not have to be based in the strictly asthetical) Who we end up with is always our choice.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 09/07/12 08:23 AM
I love how people try to force the idea that it's a choice. I tried hard to be with girls once I really started dating, even though I knew I was Attracted to guys. Thats the key to it all, we can't help who we are attracted to. My mother always taught me that being happy is far more important that making other people happy. I have the choice to live my life with a man that makes me happy and I truly want to be with, or I can choose to be single for the rest of my life, or I can choose to live my life as a lie and be with a woman that I will never truly love. Of those options only one would make me happy. I refuse to use a woman in that way, it's not fair to her or me, and I do not like the idea of being single for the rest of my life. So who we end up with may be a choice, who we are attracted to, not so much, but that's only my opinion. Very well stated.

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GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Sat 09/08/12 10:21 AM
I love how people try to force the idea that it's a choice. I tried hard to be with girls once I really started dating, even though I knew I was Attracted to guys. Thats the key to it all, we can't help who we are attracted to. My mother always taught me that being happy is far more important that making other people happy. I have the choice to live my life with a man that makes me happy and I truly want to be with, or I can choose to be single for the rest of my life, or I can choose to live my life as a lie and be with a woman that I will never truly love. Of those options only one would make me happy. I refuse to use a woman in that way, it's not fair to her or me, and I do not like the idea of being single for the rest of my life. So who we end up with may be a choice, who we are attracted to, not so much, but that's only my opinion. Good for you for not wanting to "use" women!...Back in the "old days" both my Aunt and my best friend ended-up marrying men who were afraid to admit that they were gay. The "truth" came out later on in shocking ways...Luckily my Aunt didn't have any children. But my friend had a toddler and she was pregnant with her 2nd child when she found her husband in bed with another man...Naturally my Aunt and my friend felt betrayed and hurt and angry for a long time. It was hard to tell people why they were getting a divorce. And it took them a long time to "heal" from being "rejected" and having their lives "shattered."....But later on they forgave their ex-spouses and became advocates for gay rights. They felt society was to blame for the "deceptions."...If their husbands could have admitted that they were gay early in life they wouldn't have married women and tried so hard to be "straight."...My friend encouraged her kids to have love and compassion and understanding for their Dad and all gay people in general.