We were like a couple but wasn't. When we first met we always just liked each others company and I somehow moved myself in her house. She never complained about it and every night I would come by and sleep over. We truly weren't never lovers but we did do things like a real couple would done. She became my best friend. For 3 years we were living like this. Just the two of us. I really loved living like that. I didn't need anything else. She always kept me company, kept me laughing and motivated. But just about 2 weeks ago though... She found someone she likes. Someone that I know and trust as well. He is a good guy for her. I told her that too and supported her with it because I know she deserves it. I do love, and care for her so much and I want her to be happy. But now that she's with him I feel like I lost a big part of me.
She doesn't talk to me or text me. Worse of all she doesn't reply. Just like that... I lost my best friend. She was my only friend I had and only person that cared about me. I just don't understand why she stopped talking to me at all. And I know it wasn't her boyfriend that stops her. He even said it himself that he would want us to be friends still. Why would she change so suddenly like that? I supported her with her decision and I never objected once about it. I lost my best friend, without knowing why and it left me so lonely.

I so understand been there had it done and do miss my best friend...We went through a lot together he found a woman and off he went...All you can do is wish them well and hope that life is good to them..

Give her time. Let her come back to you when she is ready. I have friends that disappear like that but we always pickup right where we left off eventually.

I dunno... It gets me thinking that maybe she wanted me out of her life but she was feeling too guilty to tell me because of everything we gone through. And I understand what you mean, I have just return to my old circle of friends and they welcome me as if I was always there. But I sorta wanted to stay away from that crowd because it was a bit negative and I did got away with her help... but its not like she disappeared... she's ignoring me on purpose. Not responding to me at all. Text, Email, Facebook, and Phone Calls. Can anyone relate and tell me why she's doing this? Maybe she just needs to forget about me for her to truly be happy?

It's possible that she just enjoyed your company and you were simply filling a void in her life that is now being filled by her new boyfriend. All you can do now is wish her the best and move on. It seems that she has made it clear that she no longer wishes to be involved with you, at least for the time being. It's not that you did anything wrong or that it's really anything about you. It's just a horrible ending to such a good thing and there really isn't a reason for it.

If you're old friends were negative influence on you, there's no reason to go back, if it's not for the best of you.

Coming here, is a good step to finding a new start.

I guess it was simply a one minded side thing and I was only believing things that wasn't there. I knew already from the start we weren't gonna be dating or anything, I was content with being friends that way if things go bad we can still have each other... but I guess there was more then that to it... I think I understand quite well now.

Thanks Totage.

You're welcome. Hopefully things get better for you soon. Sorry, such an event has brought you here, but there are a lot of good people here and you will find many friends. I'm sure you'll even actually meet some of the people here, so there is a silver lining.

Sooner or later SirV....

You're going to have to talk to her about it. It would be a shame to leave things unsaid....particularly if the friendship is what you believe it to be. At least then, you will have a clearer picture...instead of "speculating"

While i'm not arguing with the various earlier perspectives, i'd like to also look at it from the point that maybe she's simply cutting off to allow her time fully adjust to her new situation :-) You were what she had! But only as a friend! Now she has a lover who under normal circumstances should be a friend and MORE! :-) Maybe she's trying to shift her source of companionship over to her new found love! If she continues to keep you in, it might actually distract her from becoming fully devoted to her lover.
If i were you, i'd personally reduce the contact. Let her settle down first! If she later decides to keep in touch, all fine and good. And if not, same.
I take it to be a shift of attention :-) accept it as such and move ahead :-)

I agree with Bigblack. I have a male best friend. I always wonder how things will work when one of us meets someone? At times I feel smothered and need space. Allow her space, without contact. If the friendship means a lot to her, she will be back.

I too support the idea off just give it some time.

Most of my close friends for years were guys and when I got serious in a personal relationship it was a little dicey at times until things settled in.

Most people in new relationships do have a lot on their plate and friendships take a back seat for a while.

One thing about being a REAL friend it does sometimes take sacrificeing your own needs short term for their private life by BEING a friend.

Back off and stop being so needy or you WILL loose this friendship that you have been so dependent on permanently. Wait a month and then only a nice short email (100 words or less) wishing her well and what is good in your life on no more than a weekly basis after that. If another month goes by with no response then you have to accept that you just wore this friendship out.

A hard lesson that hopefully you will not expect or even try to repeat with future friends. Try taking a class on assertiveness so that you can develope positive friends across a wider base of people. Find freinds that you share maybe only one or a few interests with.

Anytime you make one person your whole life you are setting yourself up for failure because you burn them out and as you are feeling now an overwhelming sense of loss. My sympathy. I know it is an easy trap to fall into when you are young and find someone that seems to "have it all".

Sometimes people change and they don't realize what they are doing because their minds are on the "new" things. I would suggest sitting down with both of them and talking about it.
If they are both good friends they may understand that you miss your best friend. Hugs to you..I feel your pain too.