What does it mean when a guy says...?

"You deserve better than me..."

that means he is very intersted, and he is self concience about his past with women. he wants to do rite and is willing to try. but he will ultamitly hold himself back because of his past till he gets approval from the one he said it to

Two things come to mind. He is wanting you to give him assurance that he is 'good enough for you.' He has a low self esteem/poor self image? I also think it also depends on whether you are in a relationship or not.

Where am I?

It's a poorly concealed message saying "One more date with you will put me with one leg in the grave, because you are good person, you make a killer bowl of good macaroni and cheese, but I fall asleep on you in bed, yawwwn."

This "you deserve better than me" is the ultimate break-up line of cowards and half-brained twoodle twaddlers, who want to make the blow softer, and therefore they show their true colors: stupidity and cowardliness.

I should know, I let two sweethearts go with this very same "adieu mon petit cuzcuz; rien de va plus" line.

Well sometimes it is true. I would probably believe him......

Bye Bye.

Haha, well this is what I thought when I heard it. I've heard this line going around since high school, the late 90s if you will. I always thought it was just a scaredy cat way of saying "I'm better than you, but I will let you think you are because I am afraid to take a chance. ANY chance with a woman." I never considered myself better than anyone. I make mistakes and fail all the time. What makes me so special he has to say that? Its not a genuine statement. More a blanket one.

It means, they're not willing to put any effort into making the relationship work. They're right, you do deserve better than them.

I disagree.....

I can't speak for every guy in every situation...I can only say what is true for me.

I have used that line once when I was 22. I meant it and until recently, believed it to be true because it was.

I told a childhood/highschool sweetheart. "You deserve better than me"...I meant it.

The situation was that we were young...I had a crap minimum wage job. She was a stripper making really good money. The problem was the competition.

She had all sorts of offers shot at her on a daily basis. The day she let me know that she was gonna take up this guys offer for a job at the local tv station and he was givng her a black Trans-Am with T-tops...I honestly knew I couldn't compete with that...I also knew that she was an expensive girl. I honestly loved her when I told her to go.

Note: 2 years later she was knocking on my door. It was really hard for me not to smile when she told me how the relationship sucked and the car got stolen and totalled.

So you bailed on the relationship because she was somehow superior to you? I guess being young had to have been the main reason. Sounds like a first love situation.

What does it mean if you've gotten to know someone, more or less and he STILL says this?

He's just not that into you???

???? What?

I said nothing about her being superior or me being inferior. The problem was she was getting viable options from older more established guys that I couldn't compete with. I let her go because I wanted more for her. She deserved a good life. It was something I couldn't provide. I was young but, I still knew what reality is.

I dated her from 13-22.....It is safe to guess that I had gotten to know her.

Oh good, now I got it. For the better chunk of your youth she was a part of it. Nice story. Bet you have a lot of them stories.

For the most part it's a BS line. There is the rare occasion where it actually means they feel you deserve better than what they have to offer, as Krupa points out, but either way, it's best to move on, and find a more compatible companion. @>-->----

In my experience it means that he's done some really a$$hole-ish things and doesn't want you to know about them (even when you probably already do).

Yeah, begging his ex-gf for another chance being one of them...brutal honesty people!